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Am I ranting, sooking or venting?....Whatever...makes me feel better..;)

  Author:  26303  Category:(Discussion) Created:(8/28/2012 11:57:00 PM)
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I just want to have a bit of a what we call here in Australia, 'A dummy spit' you guys would probably call it a pacifier spit..;)

First a little background knowledge....I was always fairly trim through out the years, but gained a fair bit of weight when I had my first son at aged 28.....I lost all of the weight I'd gained by the time I fell in pregnant with my second son, but gained back the same amount.  When he was 16months old, I started Weight Watchers again, as it had really helped me lose weight the first time.  I managed to maintain that weight for years. 

Both of my sisters have had weight issues, and would start WW, but never get to goal.  I was always the smallest one of the three of us.  I gave up smoking at almost 40 years old, and wham!  Whacked on a massive 20kgs (not sure what that is in pounds).  I was really depressed over it, and it seemed I couldn't budge it.  I'd lose 8kgs, then regain it. 

About 4 & 5 years later, both my sisters had lap band surgery.  For the first time since we were kids, they were trimmer than I.  I was a green eyed jealous monster when the first one had her op, but coped much better by the time the second one had hers.  Although I was upset when it had taken me roughly 8 months to lose 8kgs and she lost the same amount after her op in 4 weeks.

Through out all of this time, I had exercised regularly.  I love walking and for a lot of that time I was also playing basketball.  I had to give that up because of my back.  When my back really went on me, I had to find ways to strengthen it.  I started Water Aerobics.  I loved it, and my back got so much stronger. 

One of my sisters only exercised when she first had her op, the other does exercise regularly also. 

Moving on...sorry, I did say I was venting..lol

Almost 3 years ago I went back to WW and lost all of the weight that I wanted to....I felt awesome...I also increased my exercising, which of course helped with the weight loss.  I then again, became the smaller sister.  I'm not sure that went down so well.   When we had family gatherings, like pizza night, I would bring in my ww pizza.  I would get the eye rolls as they thought I was being silly.  I didn't say to them, that I worked hard at losing my weight, and I didn't want to blow it on pizza.  I was happy with what I was eating, I don't know why it was their problem.  So the next time, I just didn't eat...I accepted the plate handed to me, and discreetly put it down later.

 Other parts of my life weren't so crash hot at the time...and to top it all off, I had a fallout with the sister I was closest too.  We are slowly mending the rift, it has taken quite some time.  But whenever I start feeling comfortable around her and my family, something else is said to upset my apple cart.

As my life started to get back on track (marriage breakdown, then reconciliation), I started to gain weight.  I talked to hubby about rejoining WW, but said that I worried that people who had a lot more to lose will think that I'm being silly.  I don't look too bad, but am over the recommended weight for my height and age..I'm also in the danger zone of type two diebetes...albeit just over, but our family has a huge history of this disease.  I don't want to succumb to it...certainly not at my age.  Hubby told me that he thinks I'm fine how I am, but that I shouldn't be worried about what others think.  If I feel like I want to join WW and lose weight, I should.  It's my choice.  I still felt uncomfortable and opted not to.

My sisters solution to their weight gain is to have more solution into their banding...that's fine..that's how they do it.  I have to actually watch what I eat and keep up my exercising.  Problem is, that my body got used to the amount of exercising I did, and I've had to up the ante.

I have managed to put on those winter kilos and am now 7kg heavier than I should be.  I know it may not seem much, but it is a dress size and I'm uncomfortable in my clothes.  So I've rejoined and have started WW again....just to get rid of those extra kgs...

I told my sister, who snapped at me and said that I would be too skinny.  Now I don't even want to get to the recommended weight for my age and height, as I feel that is too much.  I want to be sitting a few kilos above it, so that I don't look unhealthy or old.  So I would be far from skinny.  I'm too vain to let myself get haggard looking.....lol

I'm upset, as she just has to go to the docs when she decides she wants to fit into 'that dress' and she can lose weight.  She eats whatever she feels like, doesn't exercise and gets upset with me because I do???? 

Just really felt hurt and deflated.......so you poor guys copped my venting...

If you've read this far, thank you. 

If you haven't...well...you won't even see this..lol..

Take care,

Aussie Girl

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Date: 8/29/2012 1:22:00 AM  From Authorid: 42945    Ahhh don't worry about what others think or say Toni, if you are comfortable with what you are doing to lose whatever weight you think you need to lose do it...I've found over the years that the people most vocal about you losing weight are the ones wanting to lose it an cannot do it because a/ they are not prepared to put in the hard yard of exercising or.. b/ can't/won't cut down their food habits...as long as you feel good about yourself and by the way, you do look great, try to ignore their unkind words...  
Date: 8/29/2012 4:33:00 AM  From Authorid: 15228    Honestly, don't worry about what anyone else thinks! Have you ever tried a fitness trainer? It was always curious to me seeing heavy set woman finish marathons..you know they trained hard, so why are they still heavy? By working with a fitness trainer and nutritionist i found that when you work out pretty heavily, your body has to be fed in a different way. With weight watchers, are all your meals prepackaged?  
Date: 8/29/2012 4:58:00 AM  ( From Author ) From Authorid: 26303    Awww thanx Zema and Nani...((hugs))

No I haven't Kelly, I do so much now, I don't think I could fit in a PT (we call them personal trainers). Truth be known, I don't want to be told what to do by a PT..LOL...I walk for an hour roughly 3 times a week, I do a water aerobic class, I do a zumba class, then straight after that an hour and a half of rock n roll for beginners, I'm training to run 5.7km (I train twice a week for that)...phew, I'm puffed now..Weight Watchers do have their own food line, but that is only optional. It is basically good eating, moderate eating and exercise.
  
Date: 8/29/2012 6:08:00 AM  From Authorid: 15228    Yeah, I eat some of the prepackaged stuff too from the lean cuisine line, mostly just for convenience. For me it's hard to cook really healthy stuff that everyone else in the house is willing to eat. Last week I ran across a digital food scale in the back of a drawer and decided to weigh my food instead of just eyeballing it. Boy am I way off on portions! It was a sad me to see what a real portion of spaghetti really looks like..2 oz's is so small. Same with chicken, 3 oz's of chicken is only 3 chunks from a skewer of shish kabobs I'd made..I thought it was more like 5 or 6.  
Date: 8/29/2012 8:20:00 AM  From Authorid: 66129    I think it's really inspiring how you actually worked to get to your goals! If you want to lose weight, you should! Don't worry about other people's opinions!
Date: 8/29/2012 10:12:00 AM  From Authorid: 51876    kudos to all replies. other people's negative opinions will just keep you in a funk.  
Date: 8/29/2012 10:28:00 AM  From Authorid: 25390    Eh, forget about what they say. You are doing this the healthy way which has so many more long term effects than taking the easy way out.   
Date: 8/29/2012 10:46:00 AM  From Authorid: 64819    I know how you feel, right now I am 135 pounds (61kg) which is actually my "ideal weight" for my height, I have never been in the ideal weight for my height, I have always been lower at 111 pounds (50kg), and I feel FAT. With my first baby, I was 22 and the pounds shed off quickly, I was wearing my pre-pregnancy clothes within it seems two months, 5 months after this baby, I can only fit into my "bloated" jeans.
My uncle says that I look good with the weight on me, and that I don't look anorexic anymore. But I just don't like the way I look or feel.
  
Date: 8/29/2012 1:53:00 PM  ( From Author ) From Authorid: 26303    I hear you Kelly....it's like..what? That's it? LOL...Bulk it up with vegies or salad. Even with the WW meals, I add vegies or salad..lol

Awww thanks 66129, what a lovely thing to say.

Very true Bruiex, very true..thanks.

I've thought the same Darla..but so many people are doing it. I know it's what they need to help them on their journey, but so many then eat the same junk, just less of it.

Adora, I'm hearing you. When people I know say they need to lose weight, and to me they look fine. I tell them I think they look fine, but that I understand that it's about how you feel within yourself about your weight. Just as someone who is overweight, but happy. If they are cool within themselves, that is super awesome.
  
Date: 8/30/2012 1:23:00 PM  From Authorid: 31765    Like the others said...don't worry about what others think, especially when it's negative. Do it for you! I've maintained a 140 weight loss (no, that wasn't a typo...150!! ) for years now. I did it like you..on my own with no surgery or drugs to help. And I know how you feel. It's hard, but so worth it. The other day I had a doc's appointment and he wants me to *gain* some weight. I thought he'd lost his mind because every doctor I've ever had has been on my butt to lose lol... You'll get to where you want to be. Let the negative stuff roll off you like water off a duck's back   
Date: 8/30/2012 11:07:00 PM  From Authorid: 40979    Don't worry what people think! As long as you are comfortable and happy doing what you're doing, don't stop!   

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