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Date: 2/12/2001 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
I doubt it. You have to be ovulating in order to become pregnant...and if you started your period 7 hours after than I doubt that you were ovulating. I think you do need to focus on what you are doing to the relationship between you and your friend...and you also need to wonder what kind of guy this is that he would betray her also. -Lady Nyx  |
Date: 2/12/2001 9:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
Dont worry, i doubt it VERY much that you are....  |
Date: 2/12/2001 9:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 11723
Ewwww...messy situation. Very messy situation. This is all a matter of personal belief on this. You have your options lain out before you. Should you be pregnant...get an abortion or keep the kid? Put the kid up for adoption? Would your parents help you out should you decide to keep the kid? Would his parents help out? Infidelity is a mess for more than one reason...as you can see now.  |
Date: 2/12/2001 9:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
I dont mean to be rude and i understand that sometimes things 'can get out of hand' but NEVER EVER with your bestfriends boyfriend!! What sort of best friend are you? And what sort of boyfriend is he? How do you think your 'best friend' is going to feel when she finds out? I doubt she'll trust either of you ever again and neither should she. I am very sorry if you think that i am being rude, but i take friendship and the loyalty that SHOULD come along with it very seriously *SunAngel*  |
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Date: 2/12/2001 9:38:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21926
half** ~*~Margy~*~ |
| Date: 2/12/2001 9:38:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 yeah, i understand, but ummmmmm, you took out like hald the story!! |
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Date: 2/12/2001 9:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
I am sorry...it seems that i didnt read your post correctly - i missed the part about your bestfriend knowing. I AM REALLY sorry! She must be a very understanding person, and if i were you i would hold on to her cause there arent many people like her. Good luck with everything. *SunAngel* |
| Date: 2/12/2001 9:40:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 sunangel ur completely right, i obviously aint the best of a friend. but sometimes u just get caught up in the moment so to speak. i wouldn't blame her for not ever trusting me again. ~*~Margy~*~ |
Date: 2/12/2001 9:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 19927
I am very sorry for your situation.I do not want to sound harsh or especially rude,but you could of used protection,and this would of never happened.Honey,people make mistakes they have to live with their whole life,and looks like you got one to live with till you die.Abortions are wrong,never ever get one!don't even think about it! why s hould a por baby have to die for a stupid mistake YOU made??? *CC*  |
Date: 2/12/2001 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 19927
**should a poor ...sorry,typo's  |
| Date: 2/12/2001 9:49:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 CC, i did use a condom. and i told everyone that, but admins. took it out cuz they said it was too graphic. i mean give me SOME credit here, i was smart enough to use it!!!! ~*~Margy~*~ |
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Date: 2/12/2001 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 19927
well,next time...think birth control,or no sex at all until your old enough.hmm... *CC* |
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Date: 2/12/2001 9:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 19927
by the way,i strongly suggest withholding a job to support that baby. *CC* |
| Date: 2/12/2001 9:56:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 listen everyone, i did not post this to get scolded for the things i did wrong in this situation. i already know what i did wrong and what my faults were. tis not i dont already know, or haven't heard from family members and other friends. so please just stop with it ~*~Margy~*~ |
Date: 2/12/2001 10:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
How about, not having sex at all until you're ( at least ) FAR-INTO a safe, loving, monogomous relationship ( like marriage ), and are ready to handle the consequences of your actions. As for the abortion thing...........if you had been put up for adoption, do you think that YOU were worth carrying for nine months? If so, then what makes a possibel child any different? Think about it.  |
Date: 2/12/2001 10:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 12709
Ok Margy... I think you learned from your mistake. You must feel very terrible. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. But, is it really time to worry yet? You don't know for sure that you're pregnant right? You should really find out before you jump to conclusions and cause all this unnecessary stress. If you are pregnant, it's really your choice. I personally would never get an abortion, but I wouldn't get mad if someone else did. You are very lucky to have such an understanding friend, and I hope things work out for you. Good luck!  |
| Date: 2/13/2001 12:31:00 AM From Authorid: 24997 Why is everyone posting mean stuff. Margy didnt want thi sto happen to her. We are all suppose to come here and support one and other not put them down. Margy- I know you are going through a difficult time and I think you should talk to the father and your parents about this. If you cant go to your parents then talk to an adult. I know when I thought I was pregnant (and for all you rude disrespectfull people, it wasnt do to lack of condom it broke, accidents do happen) the doctor honestly gave me good support and told me that abbortion is not as complicated as it use to be. He also told me that when he was young he believed abbortion was so cruel but as he got older he would reccomend it to young adults who cant handle a baby. Because if you have and put it up for abbortion the child will always be on your mind and it will tear you up inside. He said when girls get abbortions they later feel better about it. They forgive themselves. I dont know if this helped, and Im sure there are going to people who may be compleatly against abbortions but you have to remeber it your future no one elses. Do what ever feels best for you. |
Date: 2/13/2001 4:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 27360
So 24997 Are you recommending Abortion as a form of Birth Control? ----- To the Author of this: I hope you are not pregnate but if you are you should talk to your parents or someone closer to you. Someone that really knows you to help you out a little better. To all the young ladies out there: We males will say anything and pretend to be anything yes even your best friend if we think it will lead to something.....But I love you he will say.......Just tell him if he does he can take a cold shower for you and wait.  |
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Date: 2/13/2001 4:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 25527
First thing you do is go to the doctor and confirm your pregnancy.The issue is not your betrayal of your friendship, or this guy.You are left holding the baby.Whatever decision you make is going to be difficult and life changing.Your so young but your not the first or will be the last.I don't like the idea of abortion but thats just my opinion.If your not prepared to deal with the situation yourself then look for some guidance.Once you know your pregnant tell your parents.You may think that you could get away without telling them if you have an abortion.But that is the time you will need them most. Trusting that they will understand is scary but they might surprise you.You have more than you to worry about(Maybe)so think long and hard.Whatever decision you make,the best of luck!Nifty  |
Date: 2/13/2001 5:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 21889
i would do what your heart tells you to! if you get an abortion it will be sad but if you can't support this child then you need to do what is best for you...  |
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Date: 2/13/2001 6:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 23610
I don't understand...why did you change your post? In the first one you said you didn't even know if you were pregnant....and why are you thinking about talking about getting an abortion if this only happened two weeks ago and you don't know if you are even pregnant? Sorry...I'm confused here. -Lady Nyx |
Date: 2/13/2001 7:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 17156
I don't mean to be rude but here's what I think. If you think your ready for sex then you should always be ready for a child. Protection is not full proof and sex is not a toy. With sex comes responsibility for your actions. Again I don't mean to be rude I know your in a sensitive position right now but I'm just stating my opinion on the situation. Love,  |
Date: 2/13/2001 8:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 25658
Courtney sounds stupid to have him back after he went behind her back - especially with her best friend! She also sounds stupid to be friends with you still! He sounds stupid because he could have ruined a good friendship and you sound stupid to have gone behind your best friends back (and not used protection aswell!) Dont have an abortion because it's wrong, and once you've had the baby I doubt you will want to give it up for adoption. Face up to what you have done and face the concequences, the baby is yours for life and you've got to deal with it. You were just not responsible enough.  |
| Date: 2/13/2001 12:23:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 10754, 12709, 24997, 27360, 25527, 21889, thank u SOOOO much for ur advice, all of u really made me think about what i need to do and i really appreciate the advice, 23610, i did NOT change my post, the admin did. i don't know if im pregnant or not yet. but if i am then i NEED to be thinking about what im going to do. 25658, all u did was state the obvious, we all already know that, especially me, and i DID use protection. but the admin took that part out cuz they said it was too graphic. I DID USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!! well thanx to all of u who gave me some REAL advice. i really appreciate it ~*~Margy~*~ |
Date: 2/13/2001 1:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 7092
I wish i knew what to say too you, sorry i don't but i wish you the best in making whatever choices you must...  |
Date: 2/13/2001 1:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
You know very often I hear people state that they have had "you know what break". I am starting to think that I am the only one that has never had that happen.....lol. OR maybe its because they aren't being used in the correct way......that is why there is instructions on the box! If I read other replies correctly you said you mentrated 7 days after the incident......if that is the case than thank your lucky stars that the week before it was the time that you were ovulating and were most likely to get pregnant.........The best times for pregnancy to happen are 2 weeks before and 2 weeks after you last menstration.......you are probably not pregnant and probably should start thinking about another form of birth control............Azairyia  |
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Date: 2/13/2001 1:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 13619
This is a hard one. You have to ask yourself, Do you want this child? Now if you don't want to go through with the whole nine months, then you have no other choice, but that is a hard decision. Remeber you will live with this all your life. Now the other question is, are you pregnat or not? There is so many things you have to consider before you make a decion. I personally would keep it and would not care about anyone eles but my baby. But that is just me.  |
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Date: 2/13/2001 2:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
Well, Margy...I have to agree with Azairyia completely. You are jumping the gun here and getting everybody all worked up and then seem angry if you don't agree with their response. Admin does not change posts....we do. They may have asked you to tone it down...but this is a completely different post than what you first presented. You said that it had only been two weeks and that you had a menstrual cycle 7 hours after the "event" and you don't know if you could be pregnant...now you are presenting this as a post to try to decide if you should keep the baby or have an abortion. Abortion is a very touch subject...and I don't understand why you are getting everyone worked up so and talking about the "child" or "baby"...you should present your question more clearly, it doesn't help to get people worried over a problem that is probably not even real. -Lady Nyx |
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Date: 2/13/2001 2:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
P.S. I meant to say I don't see why you are getting everyone worked up about the child and the baby when you yourself know that it is probably most likely that you are not pregnant since you did have a menstrual cycle on the same day and you could not have been ovulating. -Lady Nyx |
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Date: 2/13/2001 5:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 12004
first off..If I was the girlfriend Id kick both of your sorry butts and never forgive you..you are not a friend at all.... sex doesnt JUST HAPPEN..... I hope you have learned a lesson from this..obviously you think things like this are just a big joke with no responsibility attached to it...you almost sound proud of yourself.. If I happened to have been in this situation..no way would I be advertising it all over the internet.... I pray to God that you are not pregnant.....a child deserves responsible parents..not kids playing around...  |
| Date: 2/13/2001 6:19:00 PM Margy, you have to be patient and just let things flow and take it's course, then you can determine what to do with the baby. So many would love to adoub ur baby so why wont you give it up. Jenny G |
| Date: 2/14/2001 12:13:00 PM From Authorid: 13192 Margy... I experienced abortion myself, and i DO NOT recommend it at all. I really regret having the abortion... Of course I was stupid to not use any protection.... but you're not stupid, because you said that you used protection..... Please please do not get an abortion, you won't like how you feel afterwards....It feels like I have a dark, cold hole in my heart, which hurts.... I really wish you good luck on all this.... Love ~*BrendiCool*~ |
| Date: 2/14/2001 11:08:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 21926 12004, how rude!!!!! i don't care what u would have done in he situation, tis MY situation and i have to handle it the way i want to. i do NOT think this is a big joke. and i am NOT proud of myself what so ever. i NEVER said that sex just happens!! of course it don't. i said i got "caught up in the moment" don't post again if all ur going to do is scold me. i know what i have done wrong and now i have to pay for it. not u!!!!!! ~*~Margy~*~ |
Date: 2/17/2001 1:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 18551
do you know yet if you are pregnant? mitziss  |
Date: 2/18/2001 5:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 8179
Defentily find out if you are pregnant or not, then go from there. As far as the abortion thing goes I personally would never have one, I have seen very graphic pictures of what happens it is very disturbing! But, I'm not here to be the judge of what you should do. If you did give the baby up for adoption you would be making a couple who possibly can't have a child of their own very happy, you are giving them the gift of life. A very precious thing. But, like I said I'm not here to tell you what to do or judge you, there is only one judge of us all and that is god, you will have to face him one day with the decisions and choices you have made through out your life so rember that when thinking about having an abortion. I too was in a situation simular to this when I was 15 yrs old, but I ended up being pregnant, I choose to keep my baby, today I am 21 yrs. old and my son is 5, we are doing well not to say it wasen't a struggle only being 15 and having a baby, but I am married to a wonderful man who helps me raise my son as his own and we also had a son toghther who is now 1. We will be buying a house in the next month and things are going well. So things did get better...  |
Date: 2/18/2001 5:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 3204
The only person I feel sorry for is that poor, helpless baby that you two may have carelessly created...  |
Date: 2/18/2001 6:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 21060
If you are pregnet you can take pills to kill the baby. Or you can just live your life and have it.  |
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Date: 2/19/2001 6:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 12004
I will post where I please...if you dont want honest opinions..leave USM... did ya really expect people to side with you...youve obviously not got quite the morals that most people have...I do hope you are not pregnant!!!! if this sounds harsh..it is..how can you call yourself a friend to that girl.... I do hope your life straightens out and you dont get 'caught up in too many situations".. |
Date: 2/25/2001 8:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 9605
Go to Jerry Springer  |
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