Date: 1/10/2001 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 3538
Well,it does sound a bit like he is going too fast.I think you need to tell him straight out how you feel.Tell him that you will need a lot of time to feel really comfortable with him.This way you can see for yourself if he is willing to stick around or not.You will be able to see if he really likes you for you and not other reasons.So,be honest with him,tell him you have to really get to know him and that you are by no means ready to jump into anything with him.SOme guys will say anything to get what they want.That is why you need to take your time with him and make sure he does not pressure you for anything,  |
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Date: 1/10/2001 5:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 22085
Straight forward, tell him like it is. -Justin Case |
Date: 1/10/2001 5:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 10030
Tell him as you told us. If he then dumps you, he wasn't worth it. If he truley cares, he will respect your wishes  |
Date: 1/10/2001 5:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 14571
Tell him straight out that he's going too fast for you. Otherwise he might not think he's doing anything wrong and will keep it up.  |
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Date: 1/11/2001 12:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 23764
If he really likes and respects you, he'll wait. If not, then move on without him. **Darkle |
Date: 1/11/2001 3:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 1443
YOu need to make sure that he KNOWS that you aren't ready to make that kind of commitment. If he is pressuring you to do something that you are not ready for , then you need to let him go. It sounds like he is a control freak. Also, if he tells his friends that he really likes you, then he probilby does, Men have a hard time telling their women how they feel. I have been with my man for 3 years, and in those 3 years he has told me once that he loves me. But... everyday he shows me that he loves me, compliments, doing things for me, or just holding my hand. If this guy is ment to be you will know, just don't rush anything, you have plenty of time....  |
Date: 1/11/2001 5:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 23610
Hiya White Lightning...Well, my motto is "Say what you mean and mean what you say"...in other words if he is pressuring you to do things that you don't want to do tell him exactly what you think and how you feel....but then having done that....stick to your guns so that he knows you mean it. If he drops you....well, then you have the answer to your question as to whether or not he really likes you. Good luck sweetie. *hugs* -Lady Nyx  |
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Date: 1/11/2001 6:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 23789
Don't let him pressure you. You're not obligated to anyone. The next time he brings it up, say something like, "I've told you I am not interested in going that fast. If you're going to keep pushing the issue, you can hit the road." Be confident, and talk tough. He'll respect you for it, and if he's going out with you for the wrong reasons, better to have him walk now rather than later. |
Date: 1/22/2001 3:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 22796
my motto is this....do what you feel is best for yourself down the line then something you would regret later. we all been thru it. good advice holli ^SnP^  |
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