Family Drama

So I’m 56 yrs old and my mother abandoned me when I was born and my grandmother raised me. My step father and mother married when I was 6 yrs old. I didn’t live with them, they lived with me and my grandmother for a couple of years where he would beat my mom and one night he tried to choke her to death when I walked in during a fight. Soon after They moved and long story short she stayed with him for 40 some years until her death.

He had two daughters from a previous marriage, after my mom died about seven years after, he committed suicide and the step sisters inherited all my grandmother, mother, aunt and great grandmothers belongings because my step father wouldn’t allow me help him sort through it all.

My mother died in 2014 and this week somehow my step sister found my address dropped off an urn with the ashes of my grandmother and her five dog ashes. Mind you she never asked or notified me and now I have the task of finding a resting place for my grandmother. I had to reach out to her and her sister to ask where my mother’s ashes are and first they ignored me and now they are telling me they are misplaced. Before my mother passed I begged her to have her affairs in order, as I did not want conflict from the other children from their previous marriages to end up fighting. She ignored me, especially about the cremation situation. I really am angry with my mother and do no want her ashes because I don’t want them to be found and placed on my porch nine years from now. My step sisters have no consideration, so I decided to let them have everything, even my mother’s ashes. It’s just better emotionally to have no contact with these people, who are alcoholics…so How would you handle this… it’s just so hard and I have been feeling a range of emotions. Painful memories, and just the disrespectful way my step sisters leave ashes on my porch.

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