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Date: 7/8/2023 2:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 5940
Good question! My temper has a lot to do with having a lack of patience not to mention people that invade another’s personal space. But over tim3 I began to realize that it’s wasting time and energy to get angry about it and I try ways to change the situation if possible. If it comes to the point where a person doesn’t respect me after making reasonable attempts to get them to understand then I remove them from my life. ( no, not like Tony Soprano) Another thing I do is read. Books, articles, magazines etc. There’s an oldie but a goodie called “ How To Make Friends and Influence People” byDale Carnegie and “ Looking Out For #1 “ by Robert Ringer ( Radman suggested that one to me long ago) These self help type books offer ideas, tips and suggestions to give one a different outlook. And you can pick and choose the methods that work for you. |
Date: 7/8/2023 4:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 5940
Oh, and on the lighter side of this issue. I like that Adam Sandler movie , "Anger Management. " Gooooosss Frabaaaaa! |
Date: 7/8/2023 1:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
Heart and Soul I find that I do best when completely alone and away from human beings. "L.D."---What kind of advice is that? kronk---Heart and Soul...Allow me to introduce you to my talking dog. His name is Light Emitting Diode, but everyone calls him "L.D." He sorta' keeps me in line and helps me to cope. "L.D."---Do your best, lady. If you keep thinking that you need to change, then, eventually you will change. kronk---Hey, that's not bad advice. Good, dog....Good to read you, Heart and Soul. Write on..... |
Date: 7/18/2023 11:04:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 64942 Thank you for your replies and advice. I relate to both sentiments. It’s good knowing that this is a struggle that is not just my own. A perfect world for me would be a remote place full of nature, and peace. |
Date: 7/19/2023 2:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 998
Yes, I have had issues with a temper. Mostly in my youth. I always blamed my Scottish/Irish heritage or my dad's temper. When I got married, my husband never had temper or anger issues. So when my temper reared, it really caused a bad feeling in our household. My dear hubby would try to calm me or help with the issue that caused my temper to flare. There was one day when he told me he didn't like to see how upset I would get. This made me see my reflection in his eyes, and I didn't like the way I looked. From that day on, I tried to find ways to calm myself before my temper got out of control. I just try to remember that in a few minutes ... an hour ... a day, we will want to be in a good place. If we carry temper or anger around with us, it is an anchor to bad feelings that don't serve us well. Best of luck to you in finding ways to calm your temper. Share your tips with us as you find good ones that work for you. |
Date: 7/19/2023 2:57:00 AM ( Admin ) I try to see anger (and derivative emotions) as the desire to feel god like by taking control through a force of power rather than giving the situation more careful consideration. Although, we (ourselves) would probably never want to be controlled by such a person through their anger. |
Date: 7/23/2023 6:10:00 AM From Authorid: 55251 I have found that being mindful can be helpful at improving your patience. Of course, it depends on the context as sometimes it is helpful to be impatient. There are things within our power and things without. When you try to control something you have no power over, that is when you become impatient and angry. |
Date: 7/23/2023 5:28:00 PM From Authorid: 5940 ^^^ That is soooo true. Good advice. |
Date: 8/4/2023 12:24:00 AM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 64942 Thank you Ginger, good advice. Old age has made me less patient. I think I have less tolerance to than what I had in youth. |
Date: 8/11/2023 1:41:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 64942 Morphix great advice. I need to do that more often it does help with so much. |
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