Date: 8/5/2015 6:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I'm sorry for what you are going through at the moment dear...and sorry for the losses in your family...when we become parents, the happy events do not come with a "how to" manual. All we can do is the best we can, and always be there for them..is that enough? for some NO, but we continue on loving and teaching them..I've found with our kids they create their own ways of coping with uncertainty in their lives...sometimes good and sometimes not so good. Us mothers are generally the sounding boards for what they are feeling at any given time...*hugs*   |
Date: 8/6/2015 6:44:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62927
Wow. These are awesome replies. I feel the sting leveling and I'm feeling more mature- btw, just got a text ... do you want to spend any time with your grandson... I don't want to play this game with the daughter in law.
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Date: 8/10/2015 11:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 53427
I feel you. Sometimes in todays world, it just seems like the connections are not there anymore. I mean whatever happened to sitting around a table and playing boardgames. But then truthfully, I have to be honest, I hate boardgames myself lol. With the exception of like a couple card games like Uno, Rook, I like Trivia. But we've gotten so used to instant entertainment in the modern world its hard to just sit back and enjoy each other's company. For example, what would happen at your house, if the power went out, phones and cell phones too for one night. At my house, there would be pure pandemonium. My teenage daughter would be in full meltdown mode, kicking and screaming at the walls. She wears that phone like an extra appendage. She actually tells me she has a phobia of it leaving her side. It's unhealthy. We can't even all get in the car together and go on a trip without getting on each others nerves. My daughter wants to crank up her crappy music. My husband always has a nasty attitude. And my son, I love him to pieces, and he's the sweetest one of the lot, but he can drive you crazy too, but in a different way. I always escape inside my own head to get away from my irritating husband and daughter on long trips in the car, and my son who has Aspergers autism, and who is a history fanatic will constantly be shouting historical trivia at me. Which is fine, even enjoyable, up to a point lol. But anyway, I just wanted to say I totally feel you. It's sad the way things are going.  |
Date: 9/8/2015 1:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 38474
I could go on and on about this topic because you are soooooo right! Everyone seems to take tomorrow for granted, thinking it will ALWAYS be there and it sometimes isn't. I cut two people out of my life for a while, my own daughter for 3 months and my own mother for a year and three months....hardest thing I have ever had to do. When I was hospitalized and told to have my family get there ASAP, it got real and real quick. My mom was there the next morning and was there everyday until I was finally released. We have a great relationship once again. We have family cookouts every weekend and all spend time together as much as possible. It took me almost dying from massive blood clots in my lungs to put my priorities straight but as crazy as it sounds I am glad it happened because I have my family back. Hubby and I are taking our mothers to Disney World for New Year's...a 10 day vacation. Only the second big vacation me and him have taken in our 19 years of marriage and I am so happy to be going to Disney again with my mom. (our other big vacation was Disney World in 2006 and she was with us)  |
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Date: 9/28/2015 7:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62927
Snnokums thank you. I feel everything I sacrificed and choices I hated to make- but I wish I would have been more true to me back then.. like things I wanted to do with my son but circumstances always made a lot of things so logistically hard and not worth it. I feel for you. Sometimes I get so lost, Nightmare you are so right. We do take tomorrow too much for granted. I am so afraid someday I will have to answer for why I was not strong enough. |
Date: 10/22/2015 12:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 28363
Hmmm, it just seems to me that unappreciative, disrespectful kids are a pain in the butt. My sister in California went through a similar thing with being granted access to her grandchild while growing up. I hope things get better for you. If it is causing you distress you can try the old remedy..."Release With Love". That way you don't have to fret over it.  |
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Date: 10/30/2015 8:48:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62927
Release with love... I love that. It totally softens what I had to do. |
