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Date: 3/28/2015 11:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
I don't have any human kids (I have cats lol) so I'm no help at all but I'm wishing the best for you and your little one. Maybe she's just doing things in her own time. Reminds me of a story I heard about a little boy who didn't talk. One night at dinner he looks at his mom and says "I don't like this dinner." Shocked she asks, "After all this time, you've never spoken. Why did you choose now to speak, and to mention dinner?" The little boy just smiles and says, "Because up until now, the food has been fine."  silly I know, but like I said, maybe she's just doing things at her own pace  Good luck and hugs  |
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Date: 3/29/2015 1:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 26303
She may well be just a little slow in the need for speech. But, reading what you said about autism saddens me a little. You make it sound like a terrible thing. Yes, it would be a shock for a parent to discover that their child has autism, but what that child brings to them is so much more than a 'label' as you put it. I didn't know that in the USA (is that where you are) were quick to diagnose autism. Here it takes so long. So much precious time gone before the diagnosis finally is given. In Australia you can choose, depending on where on the scale the autism is, on whether or not the child goes to mainstream school or a special school. It takes so much to get funding for these kids, and that is where I get upset. Depending on the scale, so much can be achieved from having an aide work with a child on a daily basis. I thought our system wasn't good with regards to diagnosing, and providing funding. But if what you say happens in regards to schooling, we are in a better position.  |
Date: 3/29/2015 4:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
I have a friend whose young grandaughter at the same age as your daughter didn't talk either...now she is 4 and is a real chatterbox I reckon she could talk underwater with a mouthful of pebbles lol...she started about 3.5yrs old before she did.....but if the therapist suggests testing for Autism, I would get her tested...although over here it takes a long time of testing to finally be diagnosed, even is your girl was, there is no shame in it, they can be just as delightful and naughty as any other child..but if not tested you will never know if she is or not and could struggle right through her life which is not fair when help can be available....she is your child and you will do whatever you feel is right dear..just some friendly advice from me that's all...*hugs*  |
Date: 3/29/2015 9:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 64985
FieryAngel...I'm not a mom, but my grandson, a 4 1/2 year old was just diagnosed with Autism. He didn't speak at all till he finially started saying a few words at about 3 1/2. I myself thought because he had two older sisters, who always seemed to talk for him. I thought he didn't speak because they were talking for him. He did communicate and was and still is very loving. He does many things that other children his age do, so I don't necessarily agree with the Doctors diagnosis. Well just have to see. He is now going to speach therapy and is doing better. I myself believe that a diagnosis for this should be slow and absolubtly correct, not a rush to judgement thing. I have seen many children grow up in my 62 years and one thing I'm certain of is that they all have their own speed at achieving everything in their lives. The label thing I know is a stigma, especially for the way these special children will be treated throughout their lives. I say work with her, encourage her in the things she does, and things she is interested in. I'm sure she will always be the 'Love of your life' The diagnosis doesn't mean she will not be a productive, and contributing member of society, it just means she'll learn differently than others. The best we can all do is to Love, Cherish, and Encourage our children. They are the gifts GOD BLESSED us with! Take Care my friend!  |
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Date: 3/29/2015 10:13:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49889
Thank you guys for the comments! I don't think that there is something wrong with children diagnosed with autism. I also think it is a legitimate diagnosis, but in the US I also believe it is extremely over diagnosed, like ADD. Did you know that 1 in 68 children is diagnosed as autistic in the US? I think that is symbolic of severe over diagnosing. I believe that each child learns at their own pace, and I want to give my daughter room to discover her own. My particular fear stems from watching an acquaintance's son. At 2 they decided he was autistic and now he has developed behaviors that he didn't have before, like head banging and throwing fits-and I think it is because he is frustrated because they treat him like he doesn't understand things. Now he is in a special daycare for autistic children and he hates it. Also, a good friend of mine works for ARCA which is an organization that helps developmentally challenged adults. She works closely with occupational therapists who help autistic children and adults, and they have told her about the danger of a premature diagnosis. Also, I was out with a friend a while back and I was talking to her about the situation. A woman from another table overheard me and interrupted. She said she was an elementary school special education teacher and told me that whatever I do, I should not have my daughter tested until she is at least four. She said that she has children who have been labeled autistic in her classroom and they simply do not belong there, but until another professional un-diagnoses them, the school has the right to avoid putting them in mainstream classes. She says it is an uphill battle for the parents to have the diagnosis removed and has personally witnessed it. Also, she warned me that some occupational therapists are encouraged to diagnose early, stating that this will help the child, but in fact it just bills the insurance company longer... No, I think I will wait for my daughter to grow on her own, and offer as much help as I can. I was more or less wondering if there were games or techniques that the mommies on here may have used to make talking seem more fun.  |
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Date: 3/29/2015 10:21:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49889
That is very true She will always be the love of my life |
Date: 3/29/2015 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 22721
My niece was like that, when she did start to talk, it wad in simple sentence a, like "you share" or "no share"  |
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Date: 3/30/2015 5:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 64819
So you want help for your child, but not the help that is recommended? Those people didn't go to school to be stupid. They know what they are looking for, and quite honestly delayed speech is a big factor when it comes to autism. Early intervention is the key. When my son was little I asked for an autism screening, and the Dr told me I was paranoid because he was too talkative and active to be autistic. I begged for two years until I finally got one, come to find out he was high functioning on the autistic scale. Had he got intervention earlier we wouldn't be dealing with the problems we have now because he would have got occupational therapy as well as speech therapy. You may believe that autism is over diagnosed, but have you thought that maybe, just maybe that doctors are getting better at recognizing it? Used to unless your child was a quiet lump that did nothing but scream that was autism, but the others were just "different" or "weird". They are realizing that today it is a spectrum disorder, and that there are some that function well, and there are some that can't function at all. By the way, a school can't force you to put your child in complete special education classes even with a diagnosis of autism. If your child doesn't have autism she won't be diagnosed as such, but the person who does the screening isn't only looking for autistic traits, they aren't there to prove autism, they're screening to disprove autism. The screening my come back with a diagnosis of speech apraxia, as a friend of mine got with her son. I don't mean to be harsh, but you are already talking your child to a qualified professional for services in which she was trained to perform, and when you get a professional reccomendation you dismiss it. If your child were to get diagnosed in a few years with it because you wanted to wait longer, you're going to feel like a real heel because you didn't get the screening when it was first brought up, and you will have lost out on that window of early intervention. Besides, it takes more than one visit to get a diagnosis. You don't just walk in, get the screening done, and walk out that same day with a diagnosis, it takes many visits to the screening to get a diagnosis, that is unless you child is just completely and obviously autistic, and even then you still won't walk out with a diagnosis the same day.  |
Date: 3/30/2015 5:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 13109
My daughter and son were both late talkers! I don't know if I have any tips for you but they didn't talk until they wanted too.  |
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