Date: 2/15/2014 2:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
I'm the black sheep of the family too. All because I am married to a man they hate, and I don't divorce him. Its very stressful. And the worst part is when they talk bad about me or my husband to my kids. That kind of thing should be off limits. But they do it all the time. So my heart goes out to you. Just try to avoid conflict when you can, and take the high road.  |
Date: 2/16/2014 1:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 64942
On thing I have learned in life is that people never change, even family. If it causes pain and heartache every time, it is time to move on.  |
Date: 2/16/2014 1:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Well you know the old saying dear...we can choose our friends but we can't choose our family..I know from experience..  |
Date: 2/18/2014 7:48:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
I know I can totally relate to that because some people are just plain nutjob's and even my mom think's she's queen of the household but everyone is mean to her as well. So there is alot going around that I don't even want to be involved with. Luckily, I don't have to see my three sister's all the time, I mean talk about problem's. I mean I know i have issue's but this is just gone beyond what is going on and there are other thing's to do and I am seeing now that I want to move out and I have to keep the piece.  |
Date: 2/21/2014 2:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 17275
I think we all have felt like the black sheep at one time or another. I don't blame you for not wanting to be around people (family members) that give you grief. Just because they are family doesn't mean we have to spend time with them...  |
Date: 4/15/2014 3:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 29534
We all have pasts and "skeleton's in our closets" so to speak. And throughout my life, no matter what you have done in your PAST...it is your PAST and that is where it should stay. You live with the guilt every day of your life...no else does, and no ONE has a right to keep bringing it up to you, I was once told a long time ago, ya can't tell someone something they already know. Think of that part with your past as a Lesson Learned. No one deserves to be treated that way or shunned, judged or reminded. I totally understand where you are coming from, probably more than you realize. What you once were is not who you are now, remember that always. I also learned that for every negative that comes your way there is a positive, you just gotta look for it. Sometimes easier to see the bad things in life, because its right there in front of you, but Sweetie sometimes you gotta look for the good side real hard...it's somewhere in the midst of the bad. As far as avoiding them yourself, it's a coping mechanism, a positive one. I chose not to go around people that make me feel bad about who I am or what I have done. I don't need the negativity and I will no longer tolerate it. And those who have continued to do these things, I gave them chance after chance to not bring me down, and each time I get hurt and after so long of it, I have chosen not to talk to them. And I can not stand for someone to say something to my face and be nice, then hear from another family member that I am being talked about badly behind my back. So avoiding them I understand as well. And it is good that you allow your children to go around them, but I would be careful of that too. I am not saying don't allow them to, just saying that sometimes you do not know what is being said to your children about you because that does happen to some people. There is absolutely nothing wrong with avoiding people who make you feel that way. I hope I have helped in some way or another.  |
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Date: 4/15/2014 3:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 29534
I also forgot, here is a quote I saw last week, and this may help too. "You can not change the winds, but you can adjust the sails". Remember that. |
Date: 7/29/2016 6:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 22721
It's what you answer too, so forget your family and make your own life.  |
