How do I make my Grandmother stop bullying me?

I don't know how much I can take from her. My fiance and I live with my mom. He is working to save money for us to move out. This has been going on for three years three years too long. Here are some quotes from her came from her along with events that has occured.

I don't wear much make-up anymore as I did when I was younger,(I am 21) she says "You need to go in your room and put on some make-up and get off those clothes and put on something on other than that shirt that is too big for you and put on some some short shorts, that ole' boy has you dressing like a man and doesn't want you to be pretty, you need to get rid of him".

My honest response:"I dress how I want to, I chose to wear these clothes for today. Get over it!"

Her response to that:"well if want to dress like then go ahead, because no descent guy will want you with you dressing like that. Any guy on the street would want you if dressed cute to show off your figure, someone might lust over you"



My fiance is a sweet guy. Treats and provides for me well. He even helps my mom out with things. He has every trait that I look for in a guy. I love him with all my heart.

My grandmother thinks he doesn't let me take baths. I take baths daily! Even my mom takes up for me about that. She has complained to my mom about me not wearing make-up and such. When my mom talks to her she brings it up, and actually told my mom my fiance doesn't let me take baths. My mom argued back at her and says "Yeah she takes baths. Never skips a day" but my grandmother still makes that false statement in everytime she comes down to my house to fuss at even after my mom has told and has took up for me about this many times.

She always says things like " You used to be cute when you used to wear make-up and dress up"

I still don't understand why she says this because I had stopped wearing make-up, and didn't dress girly at all, and have always been a tomboy way before I met my fiance. I stopped wearing stuff like cover-up, eye shadow, lip gloss and stuff like that in the 9th grade, but I still wear eye liner occasionally nowadays and some of the clothes she has fussed about me wearing are clothes my fiance bought for me that I had picked out myself or clothes I had owned before I knew my fiance, but yet she still complaints about the way I dress. To beat it all, when I was in the 7th grade, I went through a stage wear I dressed in "gothic" type clothes.



I respond to her by saying "Well, you can take me as I am, or don't come around me at all"



This isn't even the worst part. When my fiance is at work, which is when she does this crap, she always subjests that he is out cheating on me. I argue back at her and tell her that isn't true. He is actually at work. and she always says back, "That's what all say" I even called him at work one day, and his boss answered to leave him a message, and my fiance called back, I put him on speaker. All she did was say "Ya'll are the most disrespect bunch I've ever seen" and left. She knew she had lost the fight but was too embarassed to say it. It seems like she is trying to brainwash me to think he is so I would evenually dump him.

She also makes claims that he brainwashes me. That's not true at all. I don't get how she thinks that, unless she means that every decision I make is under the influence of him. Which again, is not true.

One event that happened is that she even looked in fridge one day when she decided to come down to my mom's house to bully me around and saw two beers. Well, now she begin to automatically claim, I was an acholic. I drink maybe 5 or 6 times a year, and my mom doesn't care for us having a drink or so because we knows we drink responsibly. Which, is true. We do. but she claims "Well, he is has got you drinking and god only knows what else" First of all, I've been drinking (never been heavy or out of control at all) before I knew him. She knows this!

My grandmother also makes false claims that we treat my mom awful and claims my mom says "she tired of waiting on us" I'm not sure of what she means by that. But I'm sure thats a lie. We provide for our selves, we have our own cars, cook for ourselves and everything. My mom has never said such a thing. She also says my mom cries when she goes out to eat places, out on our dates we have and cried when we went our vacation to Flordia. When I told my mom she said these things, my mom defended her self and said it wasn't true. My grandmother says we are being selfish when we go out on dates or go on vacation. Since when was this a selfish act? It seems like to me she is trying to make me feel guilty for everything me and my fiance ever do for a treat to ourselves. We own a tv that is in our room, my grandmother says "We should give that to my mom" My mom has a tv! Thats a tv we bought with our money that he worked for.

She has done tons of other acts like this, but these are the main ones. How do I make this end?