Date: 11/22/2011 8:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
You are not a bad person. Life happens to everyone, and it's not something that will be put on hold. The Bride is pretty much of a Bridezilla if she is putting up this much fuss because of your inability to be in the wedding...especially with 2 months advance notice. She should just get over it, choose another bridesmaid, and be more understanding of your dilemma.
You weren't born specifically to be in her wedding...that's just one of the perks offered on your journey through life. What you are doing for yourself should be top priority. You won't be able to prevent her from talking no matter what you do.
I would suggest that you call her, or email her, or text her, or whatever, and let her know that while her wedding is important to her, your life is important to you, that you did give her advance notice and you would appreciate it if she wouldn't try to make it seem like you reneged on your role in her wedding because you didn't care...better yet...say nothing at all. Her mouth will catch up to her, and she will have to bear the brunt of her own actions.
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Date: 11/22/2011 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 64819
It comes down to dreams, fulfill a day of her dreams, or a lifetime of your dreams. Quite honestly, if I couldn't keep my pets, my fur babies, I wouldn't be able to find myself in a situation to drive across state, buy a dress, put myself in a motel, miss school, or holidays with my family. She needs to understand that you have financial issues, and in the end, she isn't going to help you with those. I think it is very rude of her to ask you to put your life on hold for her.  |
Date: 11/22/2011 8:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 25481
Thanks y'all for helping me validate that I made the right decision for myself.   |
Date: 11/22/2011 8:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I wouldn't worry about it sweetheart, you are doing the very best you can do...if she is truly your friend she will understand that if not you don't need that kind of friendship anyway...Best Wishes on your Nursing program... I know you will do fantastic! T/C  |
Date: 11/23/2011 3:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
I think in times off stress we tend to think more negitivlly about things than normal in all different aspects, like how you see yourself, your life, other people, and anything that keeps you worried more. It's like a cycle, that brings you around and around. And it's hard to acctuaually put things in prespective to acctually solve the situation. This situation your in?? There was a lot off things out off your control, the brides family did not let you know previously that in the future they would out off the blue want you to pay $85... Kinda immature for her to get upset about it to the point off posting it all over FaceBook instead off having the guts to confront you herself. Then again wedding jitters can turn a nice girl into a Diva at the drop off the hat, So that is one thing to consider. Nani had a really good point to let her know the wedding is something your happy for her about. I can see why that fall out with a friend was the final nail in the coffin with all this stress. Please don't feel down though, you meant well in the stressfull situation your in, and she may calm down when you speak to her. Also as for the $400 per pet deposit ... It is a silly thing, maybe people are saying "you should have just paid the Deposit, naughty." Even though it's another silly thing people have to pay, But considering a lot off people get into money strife for over spending, (Guilty as charged! >_< I must say it's an easy mistake, and well understood mistake, that is less shamefull than being an over spender. Btw Good luck with your Nursing Degree, it is a good career to be in and you should focus on doing well at it. Much respect! Get better soon and good luck.  |
Date: 11/24/2011 8:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 30051
I think the bride is being selfish and shallow. You are not bad or in the wrong at all.  |
