Date: 7/9/2009 8:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 21764
i say spending a yr. in iraq is enough to make anyone feel down for a little while.. maybe it could be a little of ptsd? maybe some therapy would help get you over the hump and back to your old self? anyway.. just know that these feelings don't last forever.. hope u are feeling better soon *big hugs*  |
Date: 7/9/2009 8:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
@}~~ The adjustment of coming home from Iraq is hard enough, then throw in the adjustment of "growing up" and it becomes harder. As we age we all go through the feelings you are talking about. Sometimes you need to just "escape" into yourself and find where you are at. You will find the joy again, it just isn't going to be in the same things as before. {{HUGS}}  |
Date: 7/9/2009 9:15:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
Im thinking that maybe a bit of ptsd...and I wish that I could draw into myself and just figure things out, but when I have over 60 soldiers that I have to take care of on a daily basis, and then go home and try to keep a marriage together its really hard to find that time...thanks for the advice though, and believe me, I take every bit I get and take something from it, if it works I keep it up, and if it doesnt then I try something else...  |
Date: 7/9/2009 9:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 62766
Little Steps is what you must take. If it means cutting some hours, then so be it. I remember a time when I had no worries, and I was so happy it was almost sickning. But then I moved out, got bills, dept, cats, and a boyfriend. lol We just have to remember the simple things in life. Always think positive. Never say "why me". You'll get there again. You just have to find your pink cloud and hop on. This time, dont jump off  |
Date: 7/9/2009 12:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
First you have to find yourself, know yourself, and discover what happiness is to you. Find out what you need in order to be happy as a person. I know, easier said than done. I've been here too, and at times I think I'm still there now. Maybe you should take some time to yourself and do some soul searching. I wish you the best with everything.   |
Date: 7/10/2009 2:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
It would be hard to stay focused after being away for a year and then training 60 guys each day and then coming home and expecting to live a normal family life. It's going to take time my friend but I'm sure with you being aware that there is a problem there that you will be able to work through it...anyway hun..I wish you the best of luck..  |
Date: 7/10/2009 9:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 13297
If you were working those long hours - you had A LOT of structure. Some people NEED to be busy to keep happy. I'm one of them. Maybe you just need to add some structure back into your life. Also when old things don't bring you joy anymore you have to search for new things. If NOTHING brings you joy then you sometimes have to force yourself to do stuff into you get back into your old rythems / find joy in something. I know the first thing that makes me unhappy is to get too much idle time on my hands. My mind takes over and runs away with me... Perhaps your situation is something similar?  |
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Date: 7/10/2009 9:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 13297
Sorry!!! I think maybe I misread your sentence - you are NOW a drill instructor with little time? I read that you were in Iraq and a Drill Instructor and the past 4 years comment made me think that it had changed... Sorry about that. That certainly changes my reply from below. You can also become a "workaholic" which can be just as bad bad on the other side. Maybe you need a break. Can you take some leave and just go somewhere with your wife for a while? If not - maybe try to strike some kind of a balance. Also maybe go to counseling for PTSD as you might be suffering it after you experiences in Iraq. No matter what happens best of luck! |
Date: 7/10/2009 1:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
I know where happiness is for me, but there's a long and hard journey to get there and I don't feel like taking it right now.  |
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Date: 7/11/2009 6:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
Thanks all for the supportive comments, and very good advice...RM, Jamie, Rika, chi girl, independant, zema ( p.s. still working on the tat pics )...a lot of things need to happen, and I need to get and make things happen as well...thanks again...do take care |
