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Date: 6/25/2009 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 22852
Ahh dating is over rated, should I find myself single again I don't think it would be worth the hassle, I am sure you are a wonderful person and I am a firm believer that beauty is in the soul not the shell. If you just take it slow with internet chatting and move from there you never know who/what you will come upon. @}~~~  |
Date: 6/25/2009 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder brat, and if you make me get my other half on here to kick your butt I will. You'll find someone, but it'll take time.  |
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Date: 6/25/2009 7:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
Emi, I have watched you grow into a beautiful woman (inside AND out). Someone will come along with the time is right...and I'm thinking that the time is just not right yet. You have a lot to offer someone....you are so generous, you stand up for what you believe in, and you stand up for your friends: no questions asked. I know giving things time really SUCKS sometimes..but it's really true when they say that good things come to those who wait. *hugs*  |
Date: 6/25/2009 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 27705
be patient you will find someone when the time is right and more then likely when you aren't even looking...i met eric because i was joking around and bored out of my mind so i was messing around on a dating site and low and behold he asked to meet up for a bite sometime and we did and we have been together ever since...you never know and you cant be hard on yourself or try to rush into anything just poke around relax and dont put pressure on yourself  |
Date: 6/25/2009 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 21903
Hon, this is easier said than done, but don't try to force it. It is hard not to when you are feeling lonely and like you just need someone there, but let it come to you. Someone once told me you will find it when you aren't looking and I genuinely did. While I was looking at ALL guys, I was enjoying flirting adn dating around and when my guy came along I hesitated b/c I didn't want to be WITH anyone, but he was just too good to pass up. Like I said, its easier said than done to try to just relax and not force it, but give the dating sites a little time. I don't knwo what you look like, but I know you are a more beautiful person than you are giving yourself credit for (I've been in those shoes before). If ya need to talk, hit up my profile.   |
Date: 6/25/2009 8:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
I'm not forcing it. In fact, I've given up. I'm destined to be alone, and so I will die alone.  |
Date: 6/25/2009 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 21839
You will find true love when you are not looking, I have a friend who is seperated now, going through a divorce, it was hard on him, he found an old girlfriend & they are working on a relationship, what looks bad may turn into a blessing. Maybe being apart from Wylie will open some eyes, you never know... don't give up, give it time.. I know many people who feel like you do, but in time, it gets better..  |
Date: 6/25/2009 8:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
Thank God there is no chance of me being on the dating market. I see what my almost 20 year old goes through and I wouldn't want to date again for anything. She has dated a varity of guys and they seem to expect sex on the first date which she doesn't put up with so there is never a second date. She's currently dating someone and he seems to be okay, at least he hasn't asked for sex and it's week two! So there is progress.  |
Date: 6/25/2009 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 50193
It's hard for us men to find women, too. But if a fat kid weirdo like me can find a woman, I'm sure a beautiful intelligent woman like you can find a man. But, as the song goes, "you can't hurry love."  |
Date: 6/25/2009 9:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 61977
Truthfully, in my opinion when you stop looking and become comfortable with your life in addition to being alone that is when it seems to come along. Starting over is never easy, when you have been in a relationship with someone and your heart is broken. Sometimes it takes longer for people to heal and move on. Being alone sometimes sucks, yet at other times it is better than being unhappy. I would rather be alone, then put up with drama, not being respected, having an unloyal partner etc. Give yourself some time Emi, *hugs*  |
Date: 6/25/2009 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 50864
Oh God I hear you Emi I am 52 and so alone I just wish I could meet someone that would love me for me strange as I may be I hope you find the one you need soon  |
Date: 6/25/2009 9:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
Hon- I've seen your pictures, and- not just being nice, but truly, honestly- you are lovely, young woman with your entire future ahead of you. You will find that there are plenty of young guys out there that would be happy to have a date with you just from looking at your picture, and you WILL find another person eventually who loves you for who you are. You're in that low self-esteem, self-pity phase that follows a break-up. It's totally natural. We all go through it. I quote Adam Sandler from the "Wedding Singer" after his character gets dumped: “You know, it’s funny, but some of us will never ever find true love. Take, for instance, me. And I’m pretty sure that guy over there...and that lady with the sideburns...and basically everybody at table 9. But the worst thing is, is that me, fatty, sideburns lady, the mutants at table nine will never ever find a way to better the situation, because apparently, we have absolutely nothing to offer the opposite sex.”  |
Date: 6/25/2009 9:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
I don't think you're ugly at all.. I actually find you very pretty. You won't find someone overnight, but it'll happen. =]  |
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Date: 6/25/2009 11:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 21867
I give up, I'm destined to be alone, I'll die alone.... ...Emi - take a number. Seriously chick...you're not saying anything that we've all probably said at one time or another. Okay, for some of us we've said it so many times we should have recorded it and played in on 'repeat' just to save our voices. LOL! Yeah the pain cuts, yeah the heart bleeds, yeah we can't see straight due to the tears. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. Many have. That is in no way dismissive of the very real deep pain you're going through - its more a 'hey chick, the sun will shine again, as it has for us all.' Till it does...well...USM will be a lil bit of light in the darkness. Peace.  |
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Date: 6/26/2009 12:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
...just to add a bit more Emi: My wife and I have been married for coming up two years now...known eachother for a few years...expecting our first child in 8 weeks...yadda yadda. Prior to her and I meeting I was single for a while. I had been in a relationship with someone whom I thought was it...the One...my heart and soul. We'd been friends for many years, but for whatever reason the timing just wasn't right and so we never hooked up. One day the timing was right. We got together. We lived together, made plans for the future, bought a house, looked forward to marriage etc etc. Was rocking along fantastically until I discovered she was cheating on me with my now ex-best-friend. Not that I'm bitter (curse their eyeballs!!! LOL!). So anyway we separated...and yeah it hurt. It hurt like the dickens. Cut me and gut me to the bone. I was an absolute snivelling mess. My friends would come over and be met with the sight of this hulking 6'3'' guy curled up in a foetal position on the couch blubbing like a lil baby. Surrounded by tissues soaked in tears and phlem...yeah...real pretty I know...lol! That was pretty much me for a few months. Work, couch, cry my eyes out. Eventually my friends talked me around to accompanying them out to the Clubs etc...where yeah I met some nice ladies...however none of them could hold a candle to my ex. The connection I felt with them - no matter how nice they were - simply paled in comparison to the connection I had with my ex. My friends would ask me "So, what do you think about her?? She's pretty nice aye?" and I'd be like "Yeah, she's nice and all, but I'm just not feeling it" ...and the reality is I wouldn't. I couldn't. Why? Because love grows. The connection I had with my ex was so deep because it GREW in depth over the time we spent together and shared together. So comparing every other woman I then met afterwards to the depth my ex and I had before we broke up was just unfair. Unfair to those women...and unfair to me also. I simply wasn't going to *get* that depth right off the bat....it had to build. So...I guess what I'd also saying Emi is that yeah, cutting and gutting as it is...you WILL walk through it...and you WILL regain that depth in time...and even - if love so blesses - discover depths well beyond. Peace. |
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Date: 6/26/2009 1:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
'Someone like you'..............if you mean beautiful, intelligent, loving etc then yup, that's you. There aren't many men in this world who are worthy of you sweetie, give yourself time to heal from Wylie and when the time is right you'll find someone. When I met Ad...he was NOT my type, not al all.....but we're still together almost 12 years on. Look past the initial impressions it's surprising what you find. I don't think you are destined to be alone, but before you are ready to meet and be with someone you need to learn to learn to be happy alone. A happy, self assured person is the most attractive to others. That's probably all in a tangle....but it's early here and I am not really awake yet.  |
Date: 6/26/2009 2:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Blah about your pic, you are BEAUTIFUL!!! Did I mention that there are plenty of single guys here in Alabama??  Love ya kiddo!!! And please don't worry, everything will be ok, just you wait and see.  If you need anything, you have my number, just call. Huggggsssss  |
Date: 6/26/2009 5:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 27414
It's not that hard to MEET men, it's just hard to find a good one.  |
Date: 6/26/2009 7:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 21764
dating online is only one way of meeting guys.. try getting involved in different activities if you can, join a gym, book club.. whatever it is you are interested in.. and try to remain positive even though i know its hard at times..but guys can sense when a gal is confident and happy and then you will suck them into your vortex of love, sweetie. best of luck! *big hugs*  |
Date: 6/26/2009 7:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 46486
Emi, I don't think your ugly. Also, I never though I could meet a guy in my entire life. I took me almost 4 years to find a guy who is really into me for ME. You will find the right guy at the weirdest place & time, it may not be tomorrow but it will happen. There's someone out there for everyone, I really believe it. Don't beat yourself up though. Enjoy being single right now, you can do whatever you want without having someone to answer to.  |
Date: 6/26/2009 11:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 62993
Emi, you'll find someone. Wylie didn't love you for who you are and someday you'll find the guy who will. And from your pictures, I think you're very pretty.  |
Date: 6/26/2009 11:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
I think that everyone else here said it best..and look at me..how many hurting, bitter and morose poems did I post here after the breakup with my last ex..how many times did I cry out to the USM world that I had given up on love and was going to remain single for the rest of my life after what happened? I was sooo hurt and felt like that part of me that could love had died..and just like many here have stated..it's true..when you give up and become comfortable with you and being yourself and by yourself..all of a sudden along comes some guy to sweep you off your feet over time and lo and behold all of a sudden you forget all about this being alone crap and can't imagine what you'd ever do had you NEVER met him..LOL It'll happen honey..just give yourself time to mourn your loss and coccoon your heart a little..when it's ready the new and beautiful butterfly of love WILL reemerge..with healed wings and better than ever  |
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Date: 6/26/2009 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
You have gotten amazing advice here, hun. My advice (a few have mentioned this)- Stop looking. Take care of yourself, love yourself, and learn yourself and what you really really want in life. Find a club, group or activity that you know you'll enjoy, and throw your heart into that. I know it sounds totally cliche, but if you do find a hobby or an activity that involves being around other people every now and then; and it involves you working your mind/heart/hands; then it helps keep the pain from being so much in the forefront. Once you do that, and you aren't looking for a partner; somehow, someway, they find you. I believe this 110%. When I met Nakoma, I was so totally done with the whole dating thing. I was heartbroken, and just wanting to have fun with my friends, and try to enjoy being single for awhile. It took some time for me to get to that point, but once I did, OMG- I was so much happier with myself and with life in general. I wasn't expecting to find anyone, and was actually enjoying the single life; and the fun. Then BAM! I met Nakoma at Karaoke. He had to persue me for a bit, but once I thought about it, I gave him a chance. I am so happy I did- I might would have missed him otherwise. LOLAnyway, it does seem to happen that way. Most people that I know that have met their partners and have been with those partners for a long time and feel the connection that they have- met them when they were not looking at all. Strange as that is.  I wish you the best of luck sweety. If you ever do need to vent though, you know you have us all here. And oh! btw, stop talking about yourself badly hun, you're very pretty, and you have a sweet heart. *huge hugs*  |
Date: 6/26/2009 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 14909
Well if it helps, I think your beautiful. You'll find someone out of the blue. It usually happens like that.  |
Date: 6/27/2009 10:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
Dont rush into things Em. Just let time and nature take its course.  |
Date: 6/29/2009 1:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 61966
Not pretty enough? That's crazy..you're beautiful and you have such a great personality. You have to be patient, give it some time.  |
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