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Date: 10/26/2008 8:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
You could always give the child up for adoption. I won't say abortion because, I have issues with it and some of them being. Do we really know how many abortions a person can have before, they can't have children anymore? I would suggest you weigh your options carefully and think about what is best for yourself, your partner, and the child. Perhaps, a different form of birth control is in order as well or complete abstinence might be in order. Good luck with whatever you chose.  |
Date: 10/26/2008 8:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
I am against abortion because I know that when we abort a child that the aborted baby will live on and you will meet with it again when you pass over too. To abort a baby is to murder it ...life is eternal and this child will continue to live even when you believe that it is dead and that you will never see it again. Think about it...this is a very serious decision to make. I hope you will decide to keep your baby and to love it and to raise it ! This really is true that your baby will continue to grow in the next world and that you will meet it again!  |
Date: 10/26/2008 8:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
The first decission to have the abortion, even though it hurt and I understand that a lot of people are against it, was for me and my partner the right decission at the time, and I do not regret making that decission, however I do know how many people feel and I understand and I respect that. I am seriously considering having this baby, however I am worried as we have a lot of things to think about and this to bring a child into the world is a hard decission, as you want what is best for the child. I just hope I am ready for that!  |
Date: 10/26/2008 9:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 53961
If you are not able to raise and love a child with all your heart, soul and being, then please consider adoption. There is someone out there ready and waiting. Love, Hugs and Butterfly Kisses  |
Date: 10/26/2008 9:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Go for adoption darlin if you feel that you cannot raise a child. You'll be giving someone else the chance to love and raise the child, who cannot have children. I know you will make the right decision for all concerned...{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}  |
Date: 10/26/2008 9:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
sometimes life doesn't go as we planned.. it sounds like your not unhappy about the pregnancy... your just uneasy about the time of which it has happened.. it's thrown a wrench in your plans so to speak... it sounds like you two have ben together long term already.. it is a BIG life change but that doesn't mean it has to be a bad one.. you don't need to own a home and have high paying jobs to have a child.. YES there will be struggles there is no denying that.. and having a baby does make you grow up fast.. but if you two think your relationship is strong enough do have this child.. you may not be able to go on your around the world trip you were hoping to go on in the next yr or two you may have to put it off quite a few yrs (or be VERY daring and take the child along)  |
Date: 10/26/2008 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 21203
I'll adopt the baby.  |
Date: 10/26/2008 10:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 7830
Im against abortion when its used as birth control. If its not medically necessary I dont feel it should be done. Children are too precious to consider not allowing one to live because of vacations and the such. Just my opinion.  |
Date: 10/26/2008 11:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 63040
That water got slipped to you too eh? lol congrats! That aside, have you considered adoption?  |
Date: 10/26/2008 11:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Only you can answer this question for yourself- you and your partner need to talk and think over carefully your options and decide together what is best- if you seriously don't want another adoption, yet feel that you aren't ready for a child, adoption *is* an option- it is also a very hard one, I've been there- but I know how much she is loved and what a wonderful life she has- and there are semi open adotions these days as well- where you choose the adoptive parents and there are set rules as to how much/little contact you receive from the adoptive parents/child in the future- you have lots of time honey- talk to your partner and see where you both stand- then make a decision.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 12:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
Due to my current circumstances and not knowing if I will be able to have another child...I am backing out of this slowly....just consider all your options..you are carrying a VERY special gift right now. I dealt with infertility issues just to have my son and now dealing with health issues since....take it as a miracle and run with it...BUT its your body, your choice.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 1:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I had an abortion and I wouldn't have another one.. a mistake is one thing, but if it happens again, maybe you were just meant to have a baby.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 3:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
I have a friend who would've done anything at the time to get an abortion (it's illegal where I'm from, except for medical reasons). Now that she has her little girl, she says this girl's the best thing that's ever happened to her.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 5:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
Abortion is not the answer but adoption is if you do not want to keep this baby. I have very strong feelings on abortion. Google "The Silent Scream" you will not want an abortion if you watch the video.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 5:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 29532
Sounds to me it's fate. I was only 22 when I got pregnant too. I went ahead with it even though we weren't well off at all and I could not be happier knowing I'll be young enough when sending him off to college that he and I will be the best of friends. I'm 28 now and have another little boy. Within weeks I'll be having surgery to make sure no more happen   |
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Date: 10/27/2008 6:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
PREBORN - 11 WEEKS AFTER CONCEPTION HEART IS BEATING (SINCE 18-25 DAYS) BRAIN WAVES HAVE BEEN RECORDED AT 40 DAYS THE BABY SQUINTS, SWALLOWS, AND CAN MAKE A FIST THE BABY HAS FINGERPRINTS AND CAN KICK THE BABY IS SENSITIVE TO HEAT, TOUCH, LIGHT AND NOISE THE BABY SUCKS HIS OR HER THUMB ALL BODY SYSTEMS ARE WORKING THE BABY WEIGHS ABOUT 1 OUNCE AND IS 2 1/2 TO 3 INCHES LONG THE BABY COULD FIT COMFORTABLY IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND |
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Date: 10/27/2008 6:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
Former Abortionists Speak Out Below are revealing statements made by former abortion industry personnel. These are direct quotes from men and women who worked in abortion facilities. These former abortion providers are now pro-life. They regret their involvement with abortion so much that now they are speaking publicly to warn people about what goes on before, during and after abortions. 1) Former abortionist, Anthony Levatino, M.D., says, "I want the general public to know that the doctors know that this is a person, this is a baby. That this is not some kind of blob of tissue . . ." 2) Former abortion counselor, Nita Whitten, says, "It's a lie when they tell you they're doing it to help women, because they're not. They're doing it for the money." 3) Former abortion counselor, Debra Henry, says, "We were told to find the woman's weakness and work on it. The women were never given any alternatives. They were told how much trouble it was to have a baby." 4) Former abortionist, Joseph Randall, M.D., says, "The picture of the baby on the ultrasound bothered me more than anything else. The staff couldn't take it. Women who were having abortions were never allowed to see the ultrasound." 5) Former abortionist, David Brewer, M.D., says, "My heart got callous against the fact that I was a murderer, but that baby lying in a cold bowl educated me to what abortion really was." 6) Former abortion counselor,Kathy Sparks, says, "The counselor at our clinic could cry with the girls at the drop of a pin. She would find out what was driving them to want to abort that child and she would magnify it." 7) Former abortionist, McArthur Hill, M.D., says, "I am a murderer. I have taken the lives of innocent babies and I have ripped them from their mother's wombs with a powerful vacuum machine." |
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Date: 10/27/2008 6:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
One last thing and I promise I will leave LOL ... This is a great site please take a look. http://www.parentprofiles.com/ |
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Date: 10/27/2008 6:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
Angel in the Attic, maybe that's true for some abortion clinics.. but mine did not push for me to have an abortion. They spent a lot of time going over other alternatives.. they let me look at my ultrasound and even gave me a sonogram picture [a little creepy, but yeah..] At that point, my boyfriend and I [but especially my boyfriend] were already decided on an abortion... Periodically before the procedure while I was waiting, they asked me if I really wanted to go through with it. Like I said, I wouldn't have another one.. but not all abortion clinics are in it for the money.. I truly believe my clinic tried to help me as much as possible. |
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Date: 10/27/2008 6:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
I am glad they gave you other options Rika. We have to realize though that some are out for the money abortion clinic or regular doctors. |
Date: 10/27/2008 7:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 820
I'm sorry this turned into an anti-abortion post for you.. it's probably hard to read some of the comments when you've had one in the past. What some people do not realize is that an abortion is not an easy decision to make and it haunts you for the rest of your life.. it's already hard to deal with, and the pro-life agenda being shoved down your throat doesn't help. Anyway.. you need to do what you feel is right. Almost 3 years ago, I found out I was pregnant. I was 18. I was terrified. I had intended on getting an abortion.. kids scared the heck out of me, and I didn't know how to take care of one. But, right now as I type this, that baby is sitting right next to me, and he has definitely been a gift. I am telling you that because I was where you are now, and my choice didn't turn out so bad and my life wasn't ruined in the least bit. I know this isn't an easy decision. Kids are hard, and it changes your life completely. But it doesn't ruin your life. On the other side, if keeping the child isn't an option.. you know your other choices, and you have to just sit and think about it for a while and let your heart decide what you want to do.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 7:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
there's a reason you are pregnant even with the birth control. i believe that people are born when they are supposed to be born. it's time for your baby to be born. keep it or give it up for adoption. either way it's time for this person to be born. you never know, you may find that this kid may be worth giving up a trip around the world.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 9:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 18870
If you can't raise the child on your own yet and feel you are just not ready, you could give the baby upfor adoption. There are a lot of couples out there who want kids but just can't have them on their own. I would talk to your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel and then make a desicion together.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 9:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 43015
Adoption...or maybe a family neighbor would take care of..my cousin had a baby, but her mom takes care of the baby  |
Date: 10/27/2008 10:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 64123
If you don't want the child, I would suggest adoption. While I'm not against abortion, I am against using abortion as a means of birth control. Given that you only had one a year ago, its this kind of impression I get. And use more borth control. More often than not when girls say they have ben on the pills, they've missed pills, taken something that counteracts the effectiveness etc. It is my harsh opinion that when people truly do not want a baby, they make darn sure they don't have one, and usually 'mistakes' are merely a result of irresponsibility, not failed contraception. Good luck with whatever ou choose to do.  |
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Date: 10/27/2008 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
Wow- there are some pretty harsh repiles here, and it's hard enough to decide *anything* in times such like this, unless you have been in the same shoes as this poor girl- don't judge so harshly, because those of us who *have* been in her shoes know how TRULY hard and emtionally wracking this is- abortion wasn't for me, but did I contemplate it at first? Yeah, admittedly, I did- but that was with my first daughter and I knew that it wasn't for me after just an initial thought, I had her and she is now 16 and a half and the BEST thing that ever happened to me, it wasn't easy and I've made alot of mistakes because parenting is NOT easy- with my second daughter I had wanted another baby for a REALLY long time after I had Kels, but I was on birth control because my ex didn't want another child- but guess what, I got pregnant anyway when Kels was 5, he was LIVID and threatened me into giving her up for adoption- told me he'd beat her out of me if I didn't agree, told me if I messed him over and brought her home he'd kill her- and it was an abusive relationship and though I wanted to believe that he *wouldn't* I didn't know that for sure, so I made the decision to give her up as he was demanding- I was cut off from my family at the time and saw no other option- looking back now in retrospect, I had options, but I didn't see them then- and it eats at me every single day, there is NOT a day that goes by that I don't regret doing it, even though your child is still alive and well and so loved- it STILL breaks your heart and is a terrible thing to have to live with when it wasn't what you truly wanted- BUT she does have an excellent life that I never could have given her had I kept her, and giving her up gave me the strength and insight to get OUT of a very bad situation..for years I beat myself up over it, and even though I still anted another baby I felt that I didn't deserve another and that I would never be blessed again, but I was wrong, because I am currently due for another baby girl on December 7th- sorry to post such a long rambling reply- but I felt compelled to let the author, and everyone else reading, know that no matter what choice you make- it needs to be right for *you*, and even if it kills you a little inside, you *will* get past it, become stronger, and that you will STILL be blessed with good things later in life- things happen, and none of us are in any position to judge anyone for making a decision that is right for *them*- none of us make perfect decisions all the time, whether it's about pregnancy or otherwise- this girl asked for advice and guidance, not condemnation and lecturing- lets be a little compassionate. |
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Date: 10/27/2008 1:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
wow. Xylanthia said it best. |
Date: 10/27/2008 1:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 64197
Sounds to me like you have decided not to have another abortion, so I guess you should decide whether you are going to keep the baby or put it up for adoption...if you are not ready to be a mom then adoption would be a great thing...there are lots of women who cannot have children that would love to raise your child as their own, what a great gift you would be giving someone and to your child.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 3:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I am thinking you need to look past some of the comments left here on this post and dig deep within your heart. Only you know the answers to your questions. The decision to abort is such a deeply personal one, and no one will every walk in YOUR shoes, feel YOUR pain and understand your thought process. Only you can do that. I wish you the best of luck in making this huge decision. *hugs*  |
Date: 10/27/2008 6:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
Ay, you're not ready to have a baby, but who ever is, really? This is- as you've perceived- a major, major decision that you are making- not only is your life going to be completely changed (not necessarily for the worst), but two other lives are affected as well. As with any personal decision, there isn't a single person here who can tell you what is right for you. You gotta look into your heart and figure out what that is. I will say- deciding to enter into a union with another person just because a baby is on the way is not always the greatest idea. I think you need to give an honest evaluation to your relationship just the same as if you weren't pregnant to figure out if you guys have enough common to make it together- have the same values, the same goals, make decisions together well (because, if you don't resolve disagreements well- guess what- the baby's going to give you something else to argue about), are you at a place emotionally where you can handle this kind of committment, and, basically, can see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? Because, having lived through a divorce between two parents who were completely incompatable, I can tell you that getting married isn't always in everyone's best interest. Just my two cents.  |
Date: 10/27/2008 6:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 16376
The choice is really yours. I am not against abortion, but I really do not see a reason to have more than one in a lifetime. All I can tell you is that you need to think long and hard about this decision. Make sure you aren't going to have any regrets, because once it is done, it can not be undone. Good luck,  |
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Date: 10/28/2008 12:18:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Thank you for all your comments, even the ;debate' style responses. I appreciate it. I hope that you all have a good day! |
Date: 10/28/2008 7:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Well, here's how I feel about it, though the decision is ultimately yours. I think that people make mistakes and that it's fair in many cases to ask for a second chance (this applies to pretty much all situations in my mind, except for maybe a few). I do not believe that abortion should be used as a form of birth control- even if "all precautions" were used. Once, I don't necessarily like, but I understand. At any rate, you do what you feel is best for you- but maybe you should stop having sex with your boyfriend if all of your very careful precautions aren't working and you definitely do not want a baby.  |
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Date: 10/30/2008 12:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Aww I love my Jen-nahhh (Xy) *hugs girl* |
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Date: 10/30/2008 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Aww I love you too Andrea!!! |
Date: 11/7/2008 4:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
The final decision is yours, and I'll not try to sway that decision. However, I have always been of the opinion that no one should have a child if they are incapable of providing a healthy, stable environment. And that's all I'm going to say.  |
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