Date: 10/8/2008 11:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
You know personally I wouldn't even worry about it. I mean you know obviously that you aren't a street walker that what you get paid to do is exactly what you are doing. She could have used a little more tact in what she was saying perhaps, but, she probably hasn't been taught tact yet. If, you are truly bothered by it then, take it through the proper channels first. Your manager and then of course, if nothing is done your manager's boss and so on. If, nothing else I don't think she should be fired but, perhaps a reprimand on her work history would be better. ((HUGS))  |
Date: 10/9/2008 12:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 64637
I would be bothered by it personally. I believe that would fit into the "sexual harrassment" category. If I was the old me, I would have lost my job, quickly. But now, I find that there are way to many unhappy, insecure, jealous people around that they take all their emotional problems out on other innocent bystanders. If someone does that to me, i just think to myself "I bet she/he is having a bad day, poor girl/guy", then just leave it at that. I too have a hostile work environment. you can't change people, you may be able to get them to shut up, but that is about it. Good Luck and God Bless~~~MidnightSun  |
Date: 10/9/2008 12:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 61901
I think you should report her to the manager and let it be. Dont let her push your bottons and remember "He said, She said" may also apply. I would explain exactly what was told to you and make no further comment about it to any employee.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 1:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 19871
I wouldn't be bothered by it really. I've had names and such thrown at me at times and the best way is just to say thank you and accept it with a smile, then put it at the back of your head. Just ask yourself, is she worth getting all worked out on?  |
Date: 10/9/2008 2:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
I'd ignore it hun, and if it continues I would ask her what is her problem??? then speak to your manager about it...  |
Date: 10/9/2008 2:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
Well in all HONESTY.. with my hormones flying all over the place I'd be EXTREMELY frustrated. I wouldn't have directed the matter to the manager though, instead I'd give her a word or two on self respect and scare her out of her wits lol....But of course the sensible thing to do is to ignore her completely lol  |
Date: 10/9/2008 3:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
As a Manager I will tell you what I tell my employees when they come to me to file a complaint against a co-worker. If it is serious it is addressed immediately, but if it is idle gossip or snide remarks I ask my employees if they have addressed it with the individual first. If they have not, I suggest they go to the person they are angry with and discuss. Find a quiet place and bring a witness if necessary, but go straight to the horse's mouth so to speak. Once you have done that, and if it still continues, then come to me and I will take it from there with the HR department present.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 3:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 64497
My opinion is that she is jealous. If she freaks out because you mentioned her immaturity and inability to be professional, ignore her. She's not worth your time. Personally, if she kept on trying to be all nice and friendly to me after that I would give her a cold shoulder. I think Angi has some very good advice on what you should do.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 3:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 49101
I can't say that I agree with everyone else here. At first I would do as Lady Luck suggested. Address her directly. If this continues however, and management does nothing it can be construed as a couple of different things. Harrasment, and if she used the word I think she used, sexual harrasment, and creating a hostile work environment. Like everyone else said, give a chance to cool off and confront her about it. If it becomes an ongoing issue - persue it with corporate.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 4:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 12709
Wow. That was idiotic of her to announce it to her coworkers. Did she really think they wouldn't TELL you? It sounds like she was trying to start trouble from the very beginning with that one.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 6:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
Isn't it just like someone to try to control how you dress and how you talk...possibly out of envy? The person who told you she was bad mouthing you was carrying tales, and should have called the girl down right then and there, herself. Someone's unwarranted slurring has now escalated out of proportion. If your managers thought you were dressed okay, then why worry about someone who's opinion shouldn't matter anyway?  |
Date: 10/9/2008 6:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 24003
I would have gone to her and said...The next time you have a problem with the way Im dressed or feel the need to share your opinion about it, come tell me instead of running your mouth to other people.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 6:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
alot of good advice already here, let us know how it goes. hugs  |
Date: 10/9/2008 7:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
There's not a whole lot a manager can do in these situations, besides maybe putting you on different shifts etc. But a lot of managers see things like this as petty and wont take it very seriously. I would just ignore her. Who cares what she thinks anyway.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 7:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
Ignore the ignorant. Thats what I always say. She's probably jealous of your beauty...haha. Wait and see what happens and if she says anything. She might apologize instead of reaming you out for 'tattaling'..and if she reams you out how you feel and how inappropriate it was to talk about you behind your back and if she has a problem with something to be mature about it and say it to your face.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 8:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
If she approaches you about tattling just let her know, in a very professional tone of voice, that she shouldn't be talking behind someone else's back and that her words really hurt you. Don't raise your voice or over act. Then just walk away.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 8:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 17014
Keep in mind that most comments that people like that make are entirely out of their own insecurity of themself. Or maybe she's threatened that you may look better than her. It obviously doesn't make her look good, making comments like that. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Hold your head up and know that you are the better person for not making comments about her or others behind their backs. Know that you are the bigger and better person.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 12:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 63265
Wow. When it comes to something like that, I'm not a nice person. I'll confront the individual responsible for making the comment. And I'm usually not polite about it. Not the best way to approach things, but I have zero tolerance for stuff like that. Sorry she did this to you   |
Date: 10/9/2008 12:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 63241
I tend to go with LadyLuck on this. You say that you never had any problems with this girl but everybody else does. Are you sure they weren't just trying to get you on their side of the fence with her? If you think she's going to fly off the handle for "tattling", I hope you have witnesses to her action. If she is so well-liked by management and you are the "Johnny come lately" to this job and it escalates, management might get rid of you. I'd be courteous to her, that is, if she says "Hi" I would respond in kind, but no more small talk. If she catches the cold wind from you she might ask you what's wrong. I would tell her. Management might not decide to tell her because management prefers to keep the peace.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 4:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
A lot of great advice here. Wood Elf, I have been in the establishment longer than her.. I am a corporate trainer and have a job that no one else in the restaurant [besides the bosses] is trained to do, so management wouldn't get rid of me over something like this [at least I hope not, haha.] After sleeping on it, I've chosen to tell my manager not to talk to her.. that I'm over it and prefer not to press the issue. From now on, I will be polite but otherwise unresponsive to her. Under different circumstances, I would deal with this in another way, but I've decided on the professional route for the sake of my job.  |
Date: 10/9/2008 4:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 62679
I think it is pure jealousy simply because you are gorgeous. That would be my guess.  |
Date: 10/10/2008 1:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
She just wishes she could look as good as you- she's probably not got as nice cleavage   |
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Date: 10/10/2008 4:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 64621
Wow! It sounds like she needs to find another job! Don't worry, just wait it out and I bet in a month (or sooner) she will be gone. Just be your nice and polite self and she will do herself in! Trust me....just let stupid people go and they will get themselves fired or quit because everything isnt going their way. Karrie |
Date: 10/10/2008 4:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
Sounds like the two of you need to speak about it but with a mediator/witness/manager. So you can say just what you did in this post, and it can't be misconstrued by her... jmo... by the way people like that sux, and she is prolly just jealous because you are a beautiful woman!!!!!  |
Date: 10/10/2008 5:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 33286
beat her senseless with the bloody end of her own arm.  |
Date: 11/26/2008 3:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 53054
I think that the way you have decided to handle this is correct. Good luck with your job!  |
