Date: 8/23/2008 1:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 64497
I think you have a lot on your side. I don't know the child laws in your state, but it sounds like the courts would let your husband adopt your son.  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
Okay, why are the grandparents not allowed to see the child? The father is in jail...why are they being punished for his indiscretions? Why can't they have rights to see their grandchild?  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Your ex was in a relationship witha minor- not his mother. If the grandmother has always been good to your son, I don't see why she can't see him. I'm sure you could have it taken care of in court that your ex should not be around when they have the kid. As for your stepdaughter, well, she has grandparents too, right?  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
He's not a pedophile he's an ephebophile. Arizona rarely ever completely terminates a parent's rights so unless he gives them up it's not likely your husband can adopt your son. Arizona is big on grandparent's rights, it was her son, not her who commited a crime. If she goes to court the court will probably grant her visitation.  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 29532
Nani Beags and Base all share my opinion.  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
What I would do is say if, the grandparents want to visit with the child it must be supervised visits only that must either take place in your home or a central location. That way your son still gets the opportunity to visit with them as well as them him. And, if they are supervised nothing can or should happen. JMO, take it for what it's worth  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 3835
And I wager that the 15 year old was consenting with him.. I agree with the others here.  |
Date: 8/23/2008 1:48:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62887
His mother is a very hot tempured person. I told her that her some is on meth and I needed help, but she refused to do much to nothing about the situation. We would get into arguements regarding alot of problems that he had. Another problem was that they never cleaned their house. When i would go over there, they had clothes, papers and such all over the floor, dishes were piling up onto the counters and left on shelfs (some were growing mold) so those were other reasons that I never liked to have my son there. I had told her that I don't like my kids eating fastfood, and that I was planning on taking that out of their "diet" so they wouldn't have weight issues when they grow older. She responded that that was the stupidest thing she ever heard. So it's more than the whole situation that I had mentioned.  |
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Date: 8/23/2008 1:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62887
With my ex, I started dating him when he was 21 and I was 16 and stupid. He also had dated another 16yr old when he was 20, and tried to date one of my friends when she was 16. This was all in the last 5-6 years or so. What caused the state to press charges was that he had tried to "elope" with the girl and her parents reported him. Which doesn't surprise me since within the 1st month of our relationship he had wanted me to marry him. He was also apperently engaged to the other 16yr old girl also. |
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Date: 8/23/2008 1:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62887
I do like the supervised visits idea.... |
Date: 8/23/2008 2:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Of course only you know all the components in this situation, so for many things you need to follow your heart. I do agree that it is your ex who committed the crime, and not the grandparents. My advice as just a bystander here would be .. give in to supervised visits for these grandparents. You will be in a much more difficult position if they do get an attorney and go for grandparents rights. I've heard that many judges are grandparents themselves and are sympathetic to grandparents rights. You could do the supervised visitation at a parks playground area, or at a restaurant that you approve of. Specify a time period of say, 2 hours .. so they will know how much time you are comfortable with. I wish you luck in dealing with this, for your sake and the sake of your son.  |
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Date: 8/23/2008 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
Well, I would have to say that if it were my child, I wouldn't want my child to be in a house like that. No offense to the grandparents, if that's the way they want to live. So, maybe you could find a neutral place, and let them have supervised visits...the child is still a part of them, and they seem like they want to stay connected from what you say. Who cares what her opinion is of what you want. You are just looking out for your child. |
Date: 8/23/2008 11:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Supervised visits in a central busy location would be nice hun, I'm a grandparent and know what it's like to not see some of my grandchildren. It's heartbreaking. 
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Date: 8/24/2008 9:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 40145
distraught, it is not the grandparents, aunt and uncle's fault that your ex is a pedophile!!! thats really sad that you refused to let them see your son, I think your son deserve to know who his side of family too.. Why don't you just let them visit your son in YOUR house that way you feel safer that way? really it is not their fault..  |
