Date: 8/21/2008 6:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
If you are 20yrs old, can't you make a social life for yourself?? Such a shame that you think of the two people that took you in and have given you a roof over your head, food in your stomach and a warm bed to sleep in when your own parents divorced or whatever, should be thought of in this way. Sorry if I sound harsh hun but it sounds to me like you should move back to your parents.  |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 13138
Wow. I think you would appreciate the fact that your grandparents love you enough to raise you. It cannot be easy for folks in their 70's to be raise their grandchild. I am sure that raising another child was NOT how they planned on spending their retirement years. They probably planned on enjoying each other. I am sorry you feel that they are boring but the fact that they even still let you live there with them now that you have grown up should feel like a blessing to you. If you want to travel, get a good job, save money and pay for your travels. I would love to still have my grandpa here with me. But I lost him when I was 18. Take care,  |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 46106
I'm really sorry for your frustration! While I never lived with my grandparents, I remember feeling the same way about them when we visited. It was boring, they never wanted to get out, we ate all the same foods, and just generally drove me crazy! While I understand where you're coming from, I also have to speak from my experience and say, take a break from them if you need it, but don't cut the ties. My grandparents pushed me out of their lives, and I never tried to regain the connection, and now my grandfather has died. I only have one grandparent left at all, and she chooses not to communicate with me. While I realize that this is not my fault, I still mourn the loss of that connection. And I know that your situation is much different than mine; just take this to heart--they are your family and they love you. Does anything else really matter that much? Good luck with all! ;-)  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 6:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 46106
A note to others replying: Let's not be so hard on the author. It's obviously a rant, a release of emotions. We all need that release from time to time, and if the author needs to do that here, I think we should support that. Isn't that what this community is about? Ok, end of comment. Thanx for reading. |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 22433
I'm sorry..but this post really upsets me. I lost 3 of my grandparents before I turned 14 (one at 12, two within a month of eachother at 13), the other passed last year after suffering from alzheimers for 5 years. I'd give anything to have my grandparents again. I have VERY few memories of mine because they were gone when I was much younger. You're 20 years old..they're 70+..there's two completely different generations right there..go out on your own and do your own thing that entertains YOU..then come home and APPRECIATE your grandparents.  |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
On your way out, be sure and thank your grandparents for all the years that you were allowed to crash in their place.  |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
Wow. That's a long read. I wish that I had the chance to be close with my grandparents. I never met my grandpa's because they died when I was real young. I was honored to meet my mom's mom, even though I couldn't speak her language and she wasn't able to speak English. I wish I was able to talk with her. She died several years ago. She lived in the Phillpines. I'm just happy I got to meet her. My last grandparent, my dad's mom, died earlier this year. A few days after my birthday. You should be happy that they took you in and taking care of you. Sure, they may be boring, but they are happy with how they are living. My Grandma in law does the same. Reads, sews, watches tv.... but she is happy. As for the traveling, save up your own money. That way you can go on your own. As for food, older people mostly have to watch what they eat and sometimes most of them lose their taste buds as well. At least you have food there and the family isn't starving. Have you ever made a meal for everyone? I know you said something about being a diabetic, but there are also meals that you can make that would be healthy to make. If you want to try something new, buy it. Maybe they don't want to spend that much on meat.  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 6:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I remember when my husband was younger and he was living with his grandma. She gladly took him in, took care of him because he got kicked out of his dad's gf's house. He was bored there and didn't like staying there. But he got a job, saved up money and moved out on his own. I say, if you dont' have a job, get a job, and save up money to move out or get the things that you want, such as certain foods and all. |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
There are no nice words for me to say. This is the most selfish attitude I've seen in a very long time. *walks out fuming*  |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 64123
I always thought grandparents were meant to be boring and eat bland food *shrug* Save some money and live your life, they've raised you..your turn now.  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 6:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I know that you are ranting here but really, I feel that it's a bit selfish. It seems like that you're not too thankful with what you have there..... |
Date: 8/21/2008 6:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 64637
Some people don't have their grandparents anymore and would surely love to take your place. My grandmother and grandfather both passed before I graduated in 2002, and I wish that I could have spent alot more time with them, everyday I beat myself up for not being there to take care of them like they helped my mother when her and my father divorced. You are 20, get out and explore the world! are you aware that the legal age to move out is 18? just asking ,Punk star chick has a very valid point! And on another note, I already have kids, and when they grow up and move out, I hope that I get to be just as lame and boring as your granparents!!!!That would be the life! After you raise kids and acutally see how much work it is, you definitely have a different kind of respect for the ones who have raised you....~~~~~MidnightSun  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 6:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Court Jester, whilst I'm all in favour of letting off steam on here, we also have to be prepared for a little flack to come from our posts also, especially when there are grandmothers here who have raised their grandchildren and see this story as not being nice in any way...now that's just my opinion... |
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Date: 8/21/2008 7:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 13138
Court Jester, if speaking the truth seems harsh to you I am sorry. If someone wants to vent here, which is a public forum by the way, they must expect to get opinions that do not agree with them. I am entitled to my opinion, just as the author is entitled to their rant. Have a great week. |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
You know what? My grandparents raised me and they ADOPTED me legally.....as nasty as this will sound....you do sound like a spoiled brat....at least they loved you enough to take you and not have you end up with strangers.....you should be thankful for that. Both have now passed away, and you know I'd give everything I had in the world to have them here with me once again. And I mean EVERYTHING. When the time comes that you move make sure you thank them for everything they have done for you. Have you thought that maybe raising you cut into their retirement fund? It possibly did. This one of the most selfish posts I have EVER read on here........* turns and walks out*  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
I thought you were going to SanDiego with your grandparents....that's what your previous post says before this one...... |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
When I read this, I seriously thought it was written by a 13 or 14 year old. I'm not meaning to be rude, but it sounds like you are spoiled. All I heard through out this was, "Me, me, me- They have no life, me, me, me." You are 20 years old. You are a big girl now, and if you want a social life, then go out and get one. They have lived their lives, and have already done the "social life" stuff. They are older now, and they do what makes them happy. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that, and the fact that you make it wrong, is well, wrong..... I don't know your story, or why you live with your grandparents, but how on Earth can you not stand two people (OVER THIS ISSUE!) that loved you enough to take you in, and raise you? Your attitude screams disrespect, that's why everyone is responding they way they are. Yes, you are entitled to vent, and feel the way you want to. But please realize when you post, you also get honest responses. Most the people here are older than you, and are giving you excellent advice. I'm not that much older than you, and I agree with them too. It is time for you to go out and live your own life. If they are restricting you from doing so, then you have the option to move- you are a legal adult now. I just hope you realize before it's too late, just how much you should appreciate them, before you regret it. I can tell by your post, and many others can too, that you probably don't show them enough appreciation. Why? Because of your tone, and the fact that this is about them being "Boring". *shakes head*. I've lost all but one of my grandparents. I adore the one I have left. You are lucky.......... That's as nice and as honest as I can put it right now. Good luck. *hugs*  |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 11251
"When I read this, I seriously thought it was written by a 13 or 14 year old." I thought the EXACT same thing. The only knowledge I have of 3 of my granparents, I read from their graves. They were dead long before I was born. My grandmother died when I was 6. I would give anything to have them back for just 5 minutes. ***sighs and walks away***  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 7:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
You should be thankful that you have chicken and beef to eat....a lot of people don't |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:28:00 PM ( ChatminDWW )
i am sure that you are very bored. But they did give you a place to live and they fed and clothed you. At a time when they were looking forward to doing things that they enjoyed in peace and quiet. Get a job and earn some money for a car or your own apartment.
I lost three of my grandparents before i was even born. so i beleive that grandparents are special and should be respected. i can't wait to be a grandma. give yours a little leeway and do yourself a favor make a life of your own. |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 21839
I would give anything to have my grandparents back..you are blessed that they took the time to raise you instead of letting you go into the foster homes... you are still young & it will take a while to realize how really blessed you are.. talk to your grandparents about their past, take notes, learn about them, when they are gone, the history is gone...they may have their reason for not eating certain foods, you have a 50 year time span there, things were alot different back then. They may not go alot of places because of money or health reasons, they may not be able to walk around for a long period of time. Don't judge them, love them, one day they will be gone.. remember to tell them thank you & you love them.. do it while you can, they could be gone before you know it...you are old enough to get a job & make your own money & do what you want, you still have a home & a family that loves you... please tell them how special they are to you & thank them...you never know what tomorrow brings... trust me on that...  |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 63961
I agree with KG, when I read this, I was expecting it to be some immature 13 or 14 year old. I am surprised you are the age you claim to be. But, as well, there are some 20 year olds out there in the world, who are lacking maturity, I've seen it too much. I understand that you are frustrated, bored, and probably having some problems dealing--but let me do say this. Count your blessings, hun. There are many kids out there, who went through a divorce and either ended up in a one-parent home or pushed off to the state to be adopted by complete strangers, in which in some cases, LUCKILY, those foster parents actually treat them decent. My wife grew up in a single parent home, her father abandoned with family and left her mom with 6 kids to raise on her own. I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee. Lamb? Are you kidding me? You are frustrated because you never have lamb for dinner? Coming from a blue collar family, I'm probably even sure that your grandparents have never even had lamb. Beef and Chicken is a staple of the American diet. Of course your dinners are for the majority of the time, going to be composed of this. Do you even know how much a good cut of lamb costs? Anywhere from $5+ a pound and I've seen legs of lamb for $40-$50. Do you really expect your grandparents, most likely living off of fixed income (if they aren't still working...being in their 70's, and by the way you talk, probably not) to afford a 50 dollar leg of lamb. Wait until you get into the real world, working, trying to make a living, and you'll see that your choices for food become more modest with time. But, you're young, you're energetic...here is some advice for you, get a job, get out there, do it yourself, your grandparents did enough for you--don't expect them to pamper your with choice cuts of lamb, exotic spices, and racking up frequent flyer miles. Gas is almost $4/gallon, it ain't going to happen unless you're rich enough to flush 20's down the toilet.  |
Date: 8/21/2008 7:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
http://www.unsolvedmysteries.com/usm245263.html You were a college student six years ago and you're 20 now? You always had different stories about your age so I'm not even going to bother commenting about the selfishness of your post because quite frankly I don't believe a word out of your mouth.  |
Date: 8/21/2008 8:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
You should quit being a whiny little brat and be thankful that someone loved you enough to take you in. They are in thier prime raising a child because, that is what you are acting like at 20 you should have the balls to stand on your own two feet. You should kiss the ground they walk on instead, of complaining that they don't do this and they don't do that. It was thier choice to take in another child and your parents obviously felt they couldn't do that. I hope someday you realize that you have been given the best gift of all but, somehow I think the only thing you are going to realize is that the world doesn't revolve around a spoiled little inconsiderate brat  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 8:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
I really hope people aren't actually getting upset by this post. It's probably a work of fiction by someone in need of mental health help. |
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Date: 8/21/2008 8:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Alrighty. I'm seriously confused now. I went and read the post before this one, and you went to California- but yet your grandparents never travel?.... In that post you call your "Advisor", your school's "counsellor".... If I had to guess, and this is just a guess, you are probably a lot younger than you make yourself out to be... Especially after reading the reply of Base's... That post was 6 years ago, and you did say you were a college girls. You know what they say about lies? If you lie, over and over, you can never remember them, and you get caught. Telling the truth is much better. This would be one of those times, especially, if you want anyone on here to really be your friend, or trust what you say. *sigh* |
Date: 8/21/2008 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Girl* rather, not girls.  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 8:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 22433
Base, after reading your first reply there, and going back through a few of their posts, i've just rolled my eyes and thought that yep, it's another one of them we get around here every so often..lovely..thanks for the heads up Base. |
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Date: 8/21/2008 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Base, I did get agitated when I read this post. But, that's before I went and read back. I don't know what to really think now, but I think it is really sad (in a not so pity way). *hugs* |
Date: 8/21/2008 8:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
Yep I was irritated too before someone so kindly pointed out some facts to us Thanks Base guess I should really read more posts! |
Date: 8/21/2008 8:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 27826
pftt..unbelievable. *Shakes head* Thanks for the heads up, Base!  |
Date: 8/21/2008 9:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Are you serious...? ......GO OUT AND GET YOUR OWN FRIENDS. Maybe you're the lame one if the only friends you have at 20 are your grandparents. They're old- they've lived their lives.. they just want to hang out at home now.. you're 20.. go make your own life and stop relying on your grandparents for your entertainment.  |
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Date: 8/21/2008 9:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Really Base...? Lol.. sad. |
Date: 8/21/2008 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 4887
Uuum what do you expect?? They are 70!! You're old enough to be doing stuff on your own.  |
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Date: 8/22/2008 3:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 23075
this makes me even more agitated now that I've gone back and read your posts....I've been burned a couple times here.....I take nothing you say as truth.....that you are preying on the sympathies of the USM people has really angered me.......now this is what I do....* puts hands on hips, turns and leaves this and all your future posts forever* |
Date: 8/22/2008 4:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
Sweetie, there's no need to make up stuff for any of us to take an interest in you. Your grandparent post was so pathetically written, I didn't believe it anyway. I remembered your post about going to San Diego...I pretty much had you pegged shortly after you arrived back here, and I thought to myself then that all you need to do is tell us the truth about yourself. If that's too much and you prefer to keep things to yourself, fine. IT's understandable. But, you have insulted the intelligence, or tried to, of all of us here at USM. You thought we were so stupid you could pull the wool over our eyes. I believe you owe everyone an apology. I now understand why you wanted all your old posts deleted. You wanted to be able to cover up your little lies, so you couldn't be found out. You wouldn't have been able to succeed. The people here are far more intelligent than that. As was already said, a liar tends to forget what lies have been told, and at some point gets tripped up in the details...just like you did in this post. You want to be part of us, then stand up and be real...you may disappear again, but I'll be on the lookout for you, and you try this again, I'm going to call you on your stuff...I hope you will give us a chance to get to know the real you...  |
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Date: 8/22/2008 5:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
Oh wow. I too just went back and read all of your previous posts. I feel sorry for you for thinking you have to lie to feel accepted. However old you are, and whoever you are, the people I most feel sorry for are your grandparents. Grow up, author...we don't have time for this drama here. I hope this was worth losing your respect and credibility on this website. |
Date: 8/22/2008 8:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 56359
Well, I was going to make a serious comment on this post, and say that I could understand your frustration and so on and so forth... But now, after reading some of the comments about this being a lie, I don't know what to make of it. Either way I hope to see you around more, and that we can get to knoe the real you.  |
Date: 8/22/2008 8:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 61897
How ungrateful...  |
Date: 8/22/2008 9:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
I think that you need to spread your wings and fly. I can understand why a young woman such as yourself would be bored living with people in their 70s. So, you need a plan. You can either get a job, or go to school so that you can eventually be gainfully employed. Then you can move to a city where you can live any life that you imagine. So create a plan and then set that plan in motion. Create a great life and then live it.  |
Date: 8/22/2008 11:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 7830
youre 20..its not their job to entertain you. be thankful for what theyvedoneand go make your own life. if theyr in their 70's they have every right to sit around and do nothing if they choose. im sure theyre exhausted from raising children far past the years they originally would have with their own chidren. im sorry but you sound very immature and selfish in this post. Try having a bit of gratitude.  |
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Date: 8/22/2008 11:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 7830
oooooh...a mystery lol |
Date: 8/22/2008 11:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 47930
I think you should be thankful that you have had 2 loving and caring people in your life. You could be living in a horrible home, being beat everyday, or straved or some other sicko place. didnt last month you and YOUR grandparents go to CA and then you went some other place with your school? you are very ungrateful for what has been handed to you and maybe their life stopped when they decided to take you in their home. have you ever stop to think what THEY could have been doing all those years without YOU! as for being 20 umm life so boring get out and get a life of your own and take cae of yourself.  |
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Date: 8/22/2008 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 47930
lol Shai isnt that the truth! |
Date: 8/22/2008 12:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
I only have my dad's parents left, and quite frankly, I enjoy going to their place and just sitting. It's the one place in my life where I can forget obligations for awhile and just enjoy being around people I care about, and around people who care about me. I think you might miss Grandma's cooking when she's gone. My mom's mother died a few years back and I'd give anything to have some of her Mares (my family always called it mares- I think everyone else uses goulash? it's macaroni with meat and tomato sauce and vegetables or something). Oh, or some of her homemade yellow cake and chocolate frosting. And my dad's mom? She makes the best jell-o, and always the best ham and macaroni and cheese for holidays. *Sigh* you'll miss it one day- you will. Don't burn bridges with two people in your life that probably care for you the most.  |
Date: 8/22/2008 2:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 36766
You'll regret saying you hate your grandparents one day, trust me.  |
Date: 8/22/2008 2:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 8024
I miss my grandparents heart and soul I grew up with them ..they where everything in my world God bless all grandparents..c  |
Date: 8/22/2008 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
I don't like to say this... but you should be ashamed of yourself ....talking about your grandparents like this. With all the expensive trips and everything else you seem to demand... how much are you planning to contribute to the expenses ..or do you perhaps think that these old peopls owe everything to you? Hasn't it ever occurred to you that these people are 50 years more or less older than you are and may not feel like they want to get out and run around! As old as you are... it seems to me that you should perhaps be taking them to places and certainly contributing to the expenses! My Goodness...if one of my grandchildren talked about me and demanded all these thing... I would blister their behinds!  |
Date: 8/22/2008 7:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 44960
Oh, What the Heck!!.... Strike up the Band!! *Spirit*  |
Date: 8/22/2008 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 44960
Comment #50!! Just Couldn't Resist!! *Spirit*
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Date: 8/22/2008 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 63961
*sigh*...USM, this ain't the first time we've had one of these on here...Here we go again I guess... |
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Date: 8/23/2008 4:04:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35430
I will lock this post. From this point on you may make no more responses. LOCKED!!! |
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Date: 8/23/2008 7:02:00 PM ( Admin-PY )
Locked it..huh? interesting |
Date: 8/23/2008 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
Posts can't be "locked" on USM, OP....(Note to self: do not feed the trolls).  |
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Date: 8/23/2008 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
You can't lock a post. lol |
Date: 8/23/2008 7:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
Aw, come on I want the ability to lock a post too |
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Date: 8/23/2008 7:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
TADA-don't MAKE me give you the Radman "eye-poke"! :P |
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Date: 8/24/2008 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 10657
Oh no the big red eye poke!! I better watch it cause Base will lock me out of chat lol |
Date: 8/24/2008 11:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
Do I have special key or something?  |
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Date: 8/24/2008 3:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
You do Mercury lol it's the key that says woohoo I locked you out Don't you see it lol? |
Date: 8/24/2008 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 12072
My mom used to cook the same things every night--still does. I couldn't look at a pork chop for a couple years! So ya know what I did? I learned to cook. Makes everyone happy--mom didn't have to cook (I'm sure you're grandma would love to have someone cook for HER for a change!) and I got the food I wanted. Try grouprecipes.com for ideas to make stuff with what you already have. As for boring--ha try living in the middle of nowhere where there aren't any decent restaurants for nearly 50 miles! And museums and zoos? Minimum of 3.5 hours away. Find a hobby--ask your grandma to teach you to sew, start a garden, read a book. Get a job--it will get you out of the house, you can save your money and do the things you want or get your own place or car so you can go do the things you want.  |
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Date: 9/6/2008 3:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 64621
OMGOSH!! How could you talk like that about the wonderful folks who put a roof over your head! And for them to keep supporting you at 20! Ungrateful brat! When they are gone you will miss them even tho you will only miss the comfort and ability to live for free. How disrespectful. |
