Date: 7/12/2008 11:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 22275
Have you ever brought up marriage before?  |
Date: 7/12/2008 11:35:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22080
indeed that we have  |
Date: 7/12/2008 11:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
oh and congrats   |
Date: 7/12/2008 11:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
i would talk with her mom, girls have dif tastes some like big bold rings some like little sparkly ones like mine. maybe get the girlfriend to show you waht she likes just in discussion since you have already talked about marriage?
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Date: 7/12/2008 12:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
maybe save up a lil more to buy a special one that you really like.  |
Date: 7/12/2008 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
How awesome for you to have found a girl that you want to settle down with. I really like the comments you have gotten here so far. Her mom or her friends will definitely know more of her tastes in rings. Also, look more carefully at what she already wears in jewelry. If everything she wears is petite and dainty, do not buy her a gobstopper of a ring. She might like a 2 or 3 carat solitaire at first, but it just won't fit with who she is. Good luck, and I wish for you two all the happiness that is possible !!!  |
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Date: 7/12/2008 12:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Oh, and it isn't unheard of to buy the type of ring you want to eventually get her .. in a diamond simulate like Moissanite or good quality CZ. Then if your off the mark of what she really wanted, it won't be such a hit to the wallet, and she can help pick out what she really wants to wear for the rest of her life. |
Date: 7/12/2008 1:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
OMG!!!! Jestr, I am so HAPPY for you! *grinning*  |
Date: 7/12/2008 1:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 3263
You could propose with a "fake" ring and shop for the real one together. That's what my best friend ended up doing. He made her a ring out of speaker wire (LOL!) and used that to propose. It may sound corny, but it TOTALLY fits him, so it was appropriate. Not only that, but it makes the proposal story a bit more fun to retell!  |
Date: 7/12/2008 2:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 61847
I'd ask her mom. Girls are funny that way. Keep in mind the size of her hands. I have very small hands and a huge ring looks funny on my finger. I can't go much bigger than a carat or a carat and a half. *hugs*  |
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Date: 7/12/2008 2:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22080
1-1/2 carats? i don't think i'll be able to afford that for awhile. I'm only a PFC in the Marines |
Date: 7/12/2008 4:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 51635
Don't buy a diamond, they contribute to terrorist funding... Thats my opinion, but you should definately talk to her or her mother or her best friend (next to you) ....  |
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Date: 7/12/2008 4:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22080
i contribute to terrorist dieing. i'll call it job security |
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Date: 7/12/2008 4:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Jestr, don't worry about the size of the ring .. it is the size of your love for each other that will hold you together over time. My sweetheart proposed to me with a little white gold ring that had the letters 'Love' on it. The diamond was in the 'o' and was just a chip of a thing that you could almost see .. LOL. That same ring was my wedding ring for several years because money was more than tight. Over the span of 35 years of marriage, my sweetheart has given me 4 other 'wedding' rings. And that little LOVE ring, well it sits in my safety deposit box because it is the most dear piece of jewelry I own. I agree with DC, and you could give her a ring made of wire with a Cheerio as the diamond. Then go out together with your budget in mind of course .. and let her pick out her engagement ring. To me, that would be soooo romantic, and an engagement she will never forget !!! |
Date: 7/12/2008 5:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I don't know what the tradition is over there hun but here in Australia the girls usually go along with the guy and choose their own!! which makes sense when you think about it as she is the one who will be wearing it...the two of you discuss what range you can afford to pay for one and go from there...and congratulations on your forthcoming engagement...  |
Date: 7/12/2008 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 64454
Congrats! Yes talking to her Mother or friends is a wise idea if you're unsure. Hopefully they won't spill the beans before your proposal though! LOL We girls tend to get excited over these kinds of things. My ring is not large but it's of high quality and to me that means more. Plus I have tiny hands and am not really a jewelry person so the .57 carat with .25 little tiny diamons on the White Gold band is perfect for me. Actually we were out to eat one and this waitress just kept staring at my hand. She finally said that the ring I have looks perfect on my hand. Like the ring was made for me. And guess what? It was! LOL The point is that the size of the ring shouldn't be a big concern. Quality is more valueable when it comes to jewelry. But what matters most is your love of one another. There is no measuring that! Again congratulations and I hope and pray everything works out well. Take care! Love and Hugs,  |
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Date: 7/12/2008 5:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 22275
Well I was going to say that if you have brought it up, maybe she has given you an idea of something that she might like. |
Date: 7/12/2008 5:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22080
no she hasnt haha. i asked her a couple of days ago in a round about sorta way what kind of a engagement ring she wants and she gave me a "i'd have to see what jumps out at me"
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Date: 7/12/2008 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Just ask her.. my boyfriend asked me what kind of ring I'd like and I appreciate that.. I highly prefer emeralds over diamonds and have always wanted an emerald engagement ring, so now he knows for the future. =)  |
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Date: 7/12/2008 8:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 22275
Next time you go to the mall, go to the jewelry store. You know, that way if she asks say "Why not? I mean, we're here aren't we?" |
Date: 7/13/2008 2:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 64514
congrats, I'm sure she'll be happy with whatever you get her. Good Luck.  |
Date: 7/13/2008 6:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
Some couples buy the wedding bands as the engagement ring, and then the girl can pick out the actual engagement ring for the boyfriend to give her during the ceremony. That way, you have a wedding band you like, and she has something to show for the engagement. Then you have time to save up for a nice ring while you're saving for the wedding.  |
Date: 7/13/2008 7:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 48250
Congrats Jestr...I wondered where You went to-----Hmmm I see not Only did You Grow up------Now You are getting ready to make a lifetime Commitment....Congrats! Wishing You a Lifetime of Love and Blessings.....T/C  |
Date: 7/13/2008 9:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
Decide your budget, then find your stone and have it set in a simple solitaire setting... she can always jazz it up with a ring guard or the wedding band  Congrats and good luck!  |
Date: 7/13/2008 11:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 7574
My boyfriend just surprised me one day and took me ring shopping..That way I could try stuff on and find out not only what I like, but make certain of the size I wear and stuff. The store will usually write down what types of rings she likes and the proper size. Wait a few months and do some shopping on your own and find some comparable rings. Trying on diamonds is so much fun!
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Date: 7/13/2008 12:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22080
Well I tried a trick to make it a suprise still in case her mom spills the beans. I asked her about promise rings instead. |
Date: 7/13/2008 1:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 21903
I am not too knowledgable about rings, but I do know that if she truly loves you for you, you don't have to go broke to try and please her. She'll be beyond excited to just spend the rest of her life with you. Good luck and keep us updated!! *HUGS*  |
Date: 7/13/2008 3:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 12072
It depends on what she likes. Get her a cheap ring or make one and then let her help pick it out. My husband proposed to me without a ring, we picked it out together--exactly what I wanted, 1/4 carat, black hills gold, and dirt cheap. :-) It's not the ring that counts, it's the love behind it  |
