Date: 6/3/2008 6:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
Talk to her. Ask her what's up with her behaviour toward you. You may find she's just jealous.  |
Date: 6/3/2008 7:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
I mean, you can confront her and ask her "what the heck?" but if she is acting this way, chances are you wont get the results you wanted. There could be just SO many factors, she's jealous of you, she likes your best friend more, she doesnt like you much at all, she's jealous of your relationship that you have with your best friend cause she likes hanging with your best friend, WHO KNOWS. It doesnt hurt to ask her what the heck is going on and explain yourself and feelings...but realistically if that doesnt work, talk to your best friend. Tell her whats going on and if its that obvious how she's treating you your best friend (and other people too) will see it! Maybe they'll stop being friends with her too cause she's acting so rude (maybe not)...but if your best friend see's whats going on, maybe she can talk to this girl secertly to find out what's going on. Sorry for the book..lol  |
Date: 6/3/2008 7:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 21764
Jen and Nani gave some great advice! Hope things work out and good to see you around here again!!!  *hugs*  |
Date: 6/3/2008 7:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
I've talked to my best friend about it and she said she doesn't notice it when she's around me because she's "oblivious to everything" and she said she doesn't to say anything rude to the other friend because she doesn't want to give her a reason not to like her. It's really stupid. I don't really understand how we could be close and good friends and then all of sudden she just treats me like this out of no where...  |
Date: 6/3/2008 7:49:00 PM ( Admin )
People have reasons for what they do. They aren't too hard to figure out most of the time. Many times the person doesn't even know the reason they are doing things so asking them probably won't help. But you are very smart and I know you can figure this one out. There are only a few possibilties and they would include. 1. She is jealous of you. 2. She wants to be in your shoes and get the attention you get. 3. She wants to hurt you because it hurts her that she is not your best friend. 4. She want's/wanted you to notice her or include her more than you have. It might be to late to get her to change into someone that likes you again. She is exhibiting animal behavior that resembles jealously more than haterid. You might set up some time one on one and tell her how much she means to you and that she is an awesome person. Give someone recognition, respect and consideration often changes how they feel about you. No amount of anger or hostility will accomplish what one kind word can. Take the high road and use that huge brain you have and analyze the situation. You can fix it without destroying someones ego. I know you can.  |
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Date: 6/3/2008 8:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
Thank you George! I'll give it a try, I don't think it can hurt any! |
Date: 6/3/2008 8:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 64497
Ugh.. She sounds mean. I'm going to go with the general consensus and say that she is jealous. Sometimes people do strange things when they are jealous. Maybe get her alone and confront her on her behavior? Be nice, but be firm about it. Maybe she has a reason, or maybe she just wants to create conflict.  |
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Date: 6/3/2008 8:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
I'm thinking I should. If she's jealous, I don't understand what she would be jealous of, it's not like I'm better than her or anything. :/ |
Date: 6/3/2008 9:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
I concur with the others..sounds like she's that type of friend who believes that you can't have more than one "best" friend..and she thinks of herself as your other friends "best friend"..so if you're around that you can't all be "best friends"..so one of you has to go, and she doesn't want it to be *her* so she's making herself out to be the most outstanding and take any attention that you might have..(making sense??) It's juvenile and unnecessary..but at your age..people are like that..it's the same with a few of my daughter's friends (she's 16)..they both want to be her best friend and have all of her time and attention..so they act as if they're in competetion and have to outdo each other..when in reality they are both her "best" friends equally but each have different traits that Kelsey finds appealing at different times..she can similarly enjoy very different activites with each of them- yet at the same time were they both to back down and try, they could all also find many things to enjoy together..  |
Date: 6/3/2008 9:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Ash, how old are these girls?? sound like little kids in grade one!!! ignore them hun, I'm sure you would have more friends than just having to put up with that rubbish from them...make some new friends...*hugs*  |
Date: 6/4/2008 12:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 14754
i just wanted to say, its nice to see you again..im sure alot of people gave you good advice  |
Date: 6/4/2008 3:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
I wish I had some magic words for you, but even at my age this happens. I have a friend that is nearly 50 years old and she does the same thing!!! I think those who are like this stay that way the rest of their lives. And I have found how not to stress over it, I just ignore her when she is on one of her power trips, lol. We can't change people, we can only change ourselves and learn to DEAL with people. Good luck sweety, and GREAT seeing you!!! I have really missed you Love and Hugggggsssss...  |
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Date: 6/4/2008 11:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 12103
well...keep us updated |
Date: 6/4/2008 2:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
She's your Robin! Almost every girl has one. She'll call herself your best friend, while trying to make you feel horrible about yourself. Robin was a girl that I was "best friends" with from 6th through 10th grades. Every year, I'd meet another girl that I thought could hang out with us and every year, Robin ended up monopolizing her to the point that she was Robin's new best friend and I was the one left looking in and feeling left out. In high school, it was the same thing with boys, too. If I liked someone, Robin made him a goal. It's not a jealousy thing, IMO... it's a control thing. Friendship triangles rarely work.  |
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Date: 6/4/2008 3:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
Well today my best friend told the other friend that I was talking bad about her behind her back which totally wasn't true and my "best friend" was giving me so much attitude when I didn't even do the thing that she told everyone I did. But now the other friend is really mad at me, and the others friends best friend is, and so is my best friend for no reason what so ever. It's really immature, and I tried explaining it to the other friend but she didn't really care so I'm done with it. This is such a waste of my time, and I don't need it. I think my best friend did this to me because she felt that I was getting really close with someone else and she was no longer my best friend; i'm pretty sure she doesn't understand the whole "you can have more than one best friend" thing, but maybe she'll get it one day. |
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Date: 6/4/2008 3:44:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
Zema, they're 16 or 17 yrs old. And thank you everyone for the advice! |
