Date: 5/26/2008 2:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 10657
If, he didn't think you were as smart as he then, he wouldn't have asked for a realationship. And, he said BBS so, let him do his thing and do yours no one is expected to stay online forever!  |
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Date: 5/26/2008 2:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 10657
You could've told him you hadn't heard of those writers before, I am sure that wasn't what he intended to do ((HUGS)) |
Date: 5/26/2008 3:31:00 AM ( Admin )
Oh be really careful.. there are a lot of bad people on the net.. A lot..  |
Date: 5/26/2008 3:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 59418
I think I kind of know how that feels. I was once seeing this guy who called me a philistine because I didn't know as much about literature & arts as he did. It DID offend me because he sort of rubbed it in my face; not everyone knows about these things (& they shouldn't have to!), so I don't think it's fair! If it makes you feel inadequate, just tell him you don't really know what he's talking about, and see if you can sway the conversation to something that you find interesting too  I hope it all works out for you!  |
Date: 5/26/2008 3:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
How do you know that he didn't have a website open and was just quoting information to make himself sound more intelligent? The same with the words he used that you didn't understand....thesaurus.com is a really useful tool. Perhaps he's just as insecure as you are. Ignore it, if you want to be with him then you have to stop over-analysing, especially at this early point!  |
Date: 5/26/2008 7:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 12072
sorry for the novel ^^  |
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Date: 5/26/2008 7:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 12072
In my relationship I've found the best thing to do is be honest and upfront--"I've never read those authors, you should lend me one of their books so I can share my opinions too." But you want to be on equal footing as well, so suggest some books YOU like for HIm to read. "btw, have you read The Pelican Brief by Grisham?" If he uses big words, make a joke--"wow I need to start reading my dictionary to keep up with you :P" People used to tell me I talked like a professor (I was about 15 or so). It wasn't because I was a show-off or anything, they were just words I'd picked up (I used to read a LOT and bad grammar was a bit of a pet peeve), I didn't realise they weren't "normal." Try to spend some time together off line--if you haven't met already, meet somewhere in the open, or double date, take precautions! Or just talk on the phone. Like LSR was saying, people can pretend online. All in all, just be yourself, if you feel you have to pretend it's not worth it. (((hugs))) |
Date: 5/26/2008 8:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
First off, given that everything as as he says it is, be honest with him. When he uses big words that you don't understand, ask him to explain them. Type in, "what does (insert big word here) mean?" Guys like to explain things. Now, for my second bit of advice- have you met him in person, or talked to him on the phone? Please say you have- if you haven't met him in person or at least had a phone conversation with him please be careful about what you believe. Anyone can weave a wild tale on the internet- partly because they think it's fun, and partly because they want to make their lives sound more interesting.  |
Date: 5/26/2008 8:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 64497
You are over analyzing this way too much. You're angry that he was talking about things that interested him? I'm sorry, but that seems a bit weird. I have an very high IQ (think genius level) and guy I am dating has about an average IQ, and yet we still manage to have fun. Point being, IQ shouldn't affect anything in a relationship. It also seems like you are in awe of how much money he has. It seems like you are purposefully setting yourself apart from him in mundane ways. I know this is going to sound harsh, but you are going to kill this relationship by acting like this. Everytime you start thinking like this you should think about all the good qualities you have, because I'm sure you have many. You said he has been very caring so far, which I take to mean he hasn't insulted you for lack of knowing something. I doubt he is going to degrade you for asking a question about his interests. Maybe he actually wants to initiate a conversation about it. Sorry for the long response, and I hope everything gets better.  |
Date: 5/26/2008 11:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Maybe you can learn things from HIM without him even knowing it. Next time he starts talking about something you don't know about, say BRB, and Google it, and start replying from your Googled page. That way he sees you KNOW, and you learn from it. Does that make sense? ........... And please, NEVER think yourself worthless, everybody has their worth!!! I know that you do too!!!  |
Date: 5/26/2008 7:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
You shouldnt look for someone to complete you... You should already feel whole when you get into a relationship. That way, you feel comfortable brining in what you have, admitting what you dont have, and accepting eachothers faults...even with mr. perfect, there's going to be some.  |
Date: 5/30/2008 5:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 47983
Have you met him already? If you haven't it could be a whole bunch of BS.  |
Date: 6/19/2008 1:14:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 51050
We've met quite a few times and gone on a few dates. We have alot in common and quite alot not in common. Ugh, I'm wondering if its worth it because the lot not in common kinda makes conversation a bit hard.  |
