Sister Advice needed...

Im really torn up over a lot of things right now; but this one is really bugging me.

I have 3 sisters; all younger aged 10, 13, and 19. All live many many thousands of miles and worlds away. I always tried to be there for all of them; being the mom our mother couldnt be. However I got older and moved out; and there is only so much I could do.

Me and the 19 year old one were closest...or at least I tried like heck to keep her close. We were always oppiosites: she sociable and preferring to escape our hellish homelife by hanging with friends; me Im more quiet and keep to myself. I moved out of home 5 years ago. She's treated me like crap ever since. She never calls me, barely takes my calls (or emails, or texts, whatever), tells me I can only contact her one way then ignores it, even once regulated everything I could discuss with her pretty much ruling out my whole life (where I lived, people I knew, my job, etc). But she wont tell me anything about her life, she hasnt ever since she was 15 and I told our mother I was concerned over her bf of the time. Turns out he was beating her; but I didnt know it then...I just 'knew' something was wrong.

I seen her last summer. But in December things got really bad. She's still in high school (graduating this May) and moved out with her 20 year old, just got his GED, doesnt/wont get his driver's liscense, no good, pot head, boyfriend into an apartment. It was a whole series of events but to sum it up it started with him posting his alcholhisim history, juvie and drug history (which no one in our family was aware of) on a public myspace; which I by chance found. She got mad at ME and blamed ME for it. I knew it was downhill from there.

She also didnt tell me they moved out till a week after the fact. I asked her if she was pregnant. She said no. Well...she may not have known but she was 2 weeks along. She works 14 hours a week retail, he works about the same for Subway ($7 an hour). Needless to say I wasnt exactly thrilled. And I told her so. She didnt like that I didnt kiss her booty and she vowed she would never talk to me again.

I spazzed out. I didnt sleep. I barely ate. I was so upset. She was ruining her life. I finally came up with a plan to help her...she could move here and go to school as it would be cheaper (another state mind you). Well the morning after that plan she miscarried. And she again BLAMED ME for it. Obviously living 7 states away its not like I could MAKE her miscarry. We hadnt been speaking for weeks at that point.

Now its been 3 months. I suspect via random looks at her ultra private pages (that I can only see basics of) she may be engaged. No one in my family has said anything but maybe they dont know/and maybe their keeping it from me. My 2 other sisters have called me tons these past few months, and both called me while I was in the hospital (refer to last 2 posts) but she did not. She didnt even try to contact me in any form or way.

And Im very upset about it. I guess its stupid to expect anything. We're in way different worlds; and I wanted so much better for it; while on the other hand I think she just wants me gone (even before this ordeal). Should I do anything? Or should I just forget it? Thanks.

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