Date: 10/12/2007 12:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 26303
Oh you poor thing. Going through all of this anguish. I understand what you are saying. And though it's easy for me to say do this or that, it's not me going through it. But I guess if I was, I would want, no, need to know either way. I would have to say something. Maybe not directly, hedging around the subject. Then I would have to blurt it out. But that would be me. You have to do what feels best for you.  |
Date: 10/12/2007 1:11:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
So your saying I need some tequila...LOL!!! Thanks  .  |
Date: 10/12/2007 3:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 16061
Why do you feel 'dirty' for loving someone? From what you have written above you know this person very well and you know not only how good he is but also how bad he is. "8 girls a day throw themselves at him" and do you know if he excepts the invitation, would he still except it if he was going out with someone, if that someone was you would you be happy knowing he is sleeping around, if you dont know could you feel happy with the thought he was sleeping around. You have to go with what your heart tells you and realise that a relationship means two have to work at it or else it wont work, good luck in what ever you decide to do.  |
Date: 10/12/2007 8:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Here's my take on the situation. If you confess your love for him and you havn't seen him in person in a year, you might freak him out if he's not feeling the same way. So when you get to see him in person why not approach the subject in a little more subtle way like telling him how much you missed seeing him in person while touching his hand. That should not be too subtle yet it's also not coming on too strong. Based on his reply then you should have some idea if he's feeling like you two could be more than friends.  |
Date: 10/12/2007 9:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 64498
Wild Bob has a GREAT IDEA I would suggest going with that and GOOD LUCK!!! - Bunny  |
Date: 10/12/2007 10:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 11593
This discussion is a pretty hard discussion. You don't want to scare him away but you do want him to know how you feel. Going about it is the tricky part. Don't feel dirty. WE ARE HUMANS! Everyone feels this way about "someone", "sometime" in their life! I can only tell you what I would do. You don't want to do anything to mess it up, because if you do scare him away, then the whole thing is ruined. If it were me, I would say "I was wondering if you could help me, I have a crush on this guy and I just wanted your advice. Could you imagine me in a relationship? Do you think I would make a good partner for someone? (don't say girlfriend, you definitely don't want to scare him!) You also need to look at how he treats other ladies.....is he nice to them and is steady or is he fast and switching up his mind all the time? You want to tell him at the perfect time. You said you love him, you have to make sure it is something that he would want to. Of course if you love him, you are going to want to be in a serious relationship. Does he keep serious relationships? We have to look at the bad side too, If you tell him and he may have a girlfriend or not feel the same way we don't want you to get hurt. But if he accepts, start slow, even though you are screaming on the INSIDE, don't show it. (take it slow) Don't scare him away by moving so fast. Please keep me posted on what you decide. I hope that you will get what you truly desire out of this!!!!!  |
Date: 10/12/2007 12:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 57079
"Id like to say something like 'I like you and I cant shake it; I like you for YOU and not what most people think you are; and if your not interested thats okay but I needed to let you know.'" That sound just about perfect, I would say that if I were you, it's the truth and its not over the top crazy person talk and it lets him know you aren't expecting him to jump in your lap after you tell him, that you just wanted him to know and he can do what he wants with that information. I just read WildBob's response and that would work too, but for some people that may be too subtle, just my opinion tho.  |
Date: 10/12/2007 12:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Thank you guys. Im going to try and write him and ask to see him before I thought I would; that may help gauge a little. 8 girls a day throw themselves at him because of his job; not because hes a player. I know he had a very serious relationship that ended a few years ago (it lasted maybe 4 years and considering his age thats pretty good). Everyone who really knows him says when hes with someone hes very loyal. Hes had a few girls hes dated since then but they were nothing serious (though I do know for a fact he never cheated). His bad side is mostly related to his job but its definitly something I can handle. I've been in that world way too long  . LOL I make him sound like a pimp or drug dealer or something LOL hes not !
So many great suggestions thanks guys . I'll probably mix all the replies together (including the tequila) and try it from there...:S lord knows Im gonna need it! Thanks |
