Date: 6/27/2007 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 45397
Emi report it!  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 19586
Oh my gosh that is horrible! Yes it is worth reporting. You should go to the emergency room immediately! There is so much that could have happened to you!  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
Emi this was NOT your fault! Yes report it! You could save another woman from going trough this. Do a search on Ted Bundy! This is how it all starts.  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
You should at least report it to your school, because even simple assaults often escalate into a more violent form of assault, like rape. I hope you're okay. I'm sorry that happened to you.  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
Oh please, this is nothing near Ted Bundy.  |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
There's no physical evidence to take to a hospital. Besides, I figured I wouldn't bother reporting it and I already took a shower. Whatever in the way of saliva was there I wanted off immediately. |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
Correction, I told you to take a bath, come back and talk to me so we can laugh a bunch of stupid people on youtube, and when you felt ready, report it.  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
REPORT THAT RAT grrrrrr I can't even finish what I'm thinking because it's not g-rated  |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
I know, Karen... I'm just not sure, and figure some more opinions on the reporting would be good.. |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 19586
Ok, but listen to PC, be with a friend and feel better. |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 19482
It's worth it. Even if that particular guy isn't caught, it may help up the security on campus so that other guys can't do similar (or worse) things to women. I am so sorry for this happening to you, Emi.  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
It would be a good idea to report it, Emi. You just might be surprised that they find the guy. My thoughts and prayers are with you. HUGS  |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
I think it needs to be reported if for no other reason then, to make sure there is a report out there. A lot of women feel like there is no use in reporting it but, what if one report gets the word out so it doesn't happen to someone else?  |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
Just a thought... Emi... havent you researched Ted Bundy is serial profiling class? |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
Oh yes, and I could tell you some pretty messed up stuff, but it wouldn't fit into the guidelines of the site. |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:41:00 PM ( Admin )
Report them for the next victim, if not for yourself. |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
It's oftentimes an uphill battle, but it's worth a shot if there's a chance the guy could be caught...you'll save it from happening to other people. And, if they do catch him, it'll give you a little sense of power over the situation.  |
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Date: 6/27/2007 8:53:00 PM ( Admin )
Also if you ever meet this person again and it's worse there will be no record of what happend the first time to convince the police. They might suggest that you either solicited it or you were on a date with him the first time. Which makes the crime a lot less sever. ( You never know how a lawyer will spin the truth.) |
Date: 6/27/2007 8:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 60992
The guy will most likely reaffend. You can be one of many, you should report it. Believe me, I never reported mine because I was younger and never knew any better. It's something you need to work through yourself, you need to be strong and it's ok to cry about it. But never blame yourself!
*Canuck HUgs*
-desiree  |
Date: 6/27/2007 9:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i think it's important to report it because if you don't no one else will know and there is a chance of someone else being assulted  |
Date: 6/27/2007 10:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 10030
Don't listen to anyone but you. It is so easy to say,"report it!" when someone isn't the survivor. Reporting is hard and can feel humiliating, but no matter what happens during and after the report, there will be something in the system for these jerks. Even if you decide not to report, that is okay, because you need to do what will help YOU heal. I want other USMers to understand that by saying, "report for the next victim if not for yourself," you are placing blame and responsibility on the survivor, when that should all be on the attacker.  |
Date: 6/27/2007 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
Yes, report it. For yourself, and for any future victims. Perhaps there are past victims too...EMI, I am so very sorry this happened to you. *Hugs* What I would say & do in not "g-rated", but know I feel your pain. And complete and utter rage toward your attacker.  |
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Date: 6/27/2007 10:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
HolliBerry, I have walked a mile in these moccassins. I do know what I am asking her to do. |
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Date: 6/27/2007 10:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
I think most have gone through something of this sort which is sad, but true. I said report it because reporting it made her feel better. I dont care about the other people. I care about my friends. Other victims... Dont care about them at the moment. I wanted Emi to feel better. But as some others have said... dont judge lest ye be judged. And yes I care if it happens to someone else.... but at present, I worry about those close to me. I cant save the world, but I can save a friend. |
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Date: 6/27/2007 11:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 10030
PC, I am in no way judging, and I think Emi understands why I feel this way. She--you--need to do what will help you get through this. Be selfish. You are allowed to be as selfish as you want if it helps *you.* Don't worry about anyone else but *you.* For that reason, if Emi or any survivor decides not to report an assault, it is Okay--it is a good decision if it helps her or anyone get through. This post is about Emi, one of the most amazing, strongest, bravest girls I know. |
Date: 6/28/2007 2:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 15157
EMI...not only you should report it you should go to the nearest hospital to have yourself checked:-(  |
Date: 6/28/2007 3:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
OH honey!!!!!!!! I am just so MAD!!!! I am so sorry.... but so angry too!!!! This is a one of my HUGE PET PEEVES, and it just irritates me to no limit... ((((((((HUGS)))))) to Emi, I hope you are ok!!!!!  |
Date: 6/28/2007 3:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 27403
You might could save another person's life by reporting this, Emi! Perhaps this person will get someone else in the same spot, and they will not be so lucky! You should report it! LOve and Light  |
Date: 6/28/2007 5:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
What building was it in? A few years back, when I was working in Moulton Hall, someone was assaulted in between Merrill and Lowry and I don't think they ever caught him. Apparently he tried to take hold of her but she got away. It's a very creepy thing to have happened and I don't blame you for not wanting to go into it. But maybe you can forward the email to the university police dept? Also, KSU has a service where they will escort you to or from your car or class if you are uncomfortable walking alone- I would arrange for that, if you can.  |
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Date: 6/28/2007 6:18:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
It was outside of Bowman hall (which is rather ironic since its a criminal justice building....) Wylie said he's going to escort me to class from now on... he doesn't want to give it another chance. |
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Date: 6/28/2007 6:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
Holliberry, we are not blaming Emi for the next person that gets attacked. We're just saying that she can take action and that the action will have value. The worst thing about being in this situation is feeling like you are powerless and there's nothing you can do. Preventing it from happening to someone else is something. |
Date: 6/28/2007 6:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 4548
how awful for you. when i was in college i was walking back to the dorm after working in the computer lab late one night. there were a couple of guys in the parking lot and one said "did you ever notice how girls are prettier in the dark?" i ran like heck to the nearest building and called campus police. i figured, even if it's only for statistical purposes it'll still count. they ended up putting a patrol car through there more often.  |
Date: 6/28/2007 7:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 39258
i think you should report it.. in case there are other girls who have reported it, too.. and they can see who he attacks and maybe find an MO for the guy.. and hopefully catch him.  |
Date: 6/28/2007 8:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 35438
Oh hun, I'm so sorry.. You definitely want to report it though.. I know how hard it can be to tell someone about something like that...  |
Date: 6/28/2007 8:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 52155
wow Emi! I am so sorry this happened, and I most definitely think you should report it.  |
Date: 6/28/2007 8:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 27534
Do report it.......stay strong.......Emi...stay strong......  |
Date: 6/28/2007 8:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 7341
Oh my God...Emi... Please let me know if there is anything I can do...or if you need to talk. As far as reporting it goes, while reporting is a good thing to do, it should be entirely up to you. I hope they catch the scum who did it...  |
Date: 6/28/2007 10:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 63241
First, I'm so sorry this happened to you. My advice is to report this for the same reasons stated. And also, right now you're in a bit of a shock. Later on, anger at this perpetrator will probably take hold and you'll wish you had done something. A woman close to me was molested and as most women do, she felt guilty like she somehow led him on. She never reported it. Months later she came to realize that this wasn't her fault and became angry at the sorry individual who attacked her. There was nothing she could do because the "man" disappeared; nobody knew where he was. She regretted not having reported it after it happened. Call a crisis hotline in your area (if you have one) and they have people who know exactly what you're going through and have the experience to know how to help you through this. God Bless.  |
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Date: 6/28/2007 11:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 8905
Would just like to point out this weird phenomenom. Eddo made a nice comment with no sarcasm. Scary stuff people! Just trying to make you laugh Ems. |
Date: 6/28/2007 12:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 27583
what good is " my criminal justice building " if people don't believe in the criminal justice system enough to report a crime that has been commited against them in front of " my criminal justice building " i mean realy now why do you go there. don't they teach anything there . sorry but this hits a nerve . wooden nickel  |
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Date: 6/28/2007 12:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 52155
that's because Emi is good people. Phantom Crow however... |
Date: 6/28/2007 4:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 5349
I still don't know how to articulate how I feel on this subject in an intelligent manner.  |
Date: 6/28/2007 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
It's not a matter of trusting the criminal justice system. Many MANY women (myself included) have not reported this. Not necessary because they don't trust the system, but because it is a very embarrassing, very personal, very violated feeling and it is VERY VERY hard to go to someone about something like this. Do I wish I would have reported it? Yes, because then the guy would have been found. But I couldn't at the time. I trusted the system, but I was too embarrassed to go.  |
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Date: 6/28/2007 5:03:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
Um, I was in that building because I plan on working with the FBI in profiling... so.... |
Date: 6/28/2007 6:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
You did the right thing to report it.  |
