Date: 3/23/2007 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 21839
its funny because interracial marriages are mostly looked at as black and white. but white & asain, white & hawaiian, black & hispanic, etc are not looked on as interracial.. there is more interracial marriages in the world then people want to see or acknowledge.  |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Are you kidding me? My mom is Hispanic, and in high school, she was dating a Hispanic guy. She was cornered to told she wasn't HISPANIC ENOUGH to date him. So you really need to get facts straight. People find problems with all types of races dating. They're generally happy as long as we date in our same race. Wylie and I have already ticked some people off, and he's only half black. And I'm sorry, but are you really comparing skin color to hair color? Hair color you can change SO easily now, but no matter what, you can't really change your heritage (and don't get into Michael Jackson. We're not going near that nut case right now). Really, if you wanted to compare interracial dating, I would have gone for a comparison between tall/short people together.  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 6:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
No, Sugarbear, its just that people have an easier time looking at a couple who has a white and black person in it and can see the difference, whereas it can be harder with Hispanics (I'm Hispanic, but you would never think it), Asians (especially if you don't see them up close because I think the eyes are what show that culture the most), and so on. |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 17290
i'm just making the point that people don't care about hair color, but skin color is a big issue and i dont think it should   |
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Date: 3/23/2007 6:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Yes, I get that, but its a horrible comparison because they are so differently viewed. Hair, for the most part, isn't really cared about. You don't see people celebrating hair color, and really, I don't know why you would. You do see holidays and sometimes months created to celebrate different races/cultures. You can easily cut, color, and style your hair, but you can't with your skin, so its a really, really bad comparison to use in this debate. |
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Date: 3/23/2007 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
As for the laws, US has outlawed the ones that kept them from marrying. I may be wrong, but I'm fairly positive all 50 states got rid of those laws. |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
My sister married a man who is part Vietnamese, so I guess they have a partially mixed marriage. His mother who is full Vietnamese is hilarious...Matt can make me almost throw-up from laughing so hard when he imitates his mother. I've lived around Army posts for the last 25 years...if you want true racial equality, the military seems to be where it is, because mixed marriages of all types are the norm.  |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 14182
what?! seriously...what?!  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 6:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Funny you say that Kelly. Wylie's parents obviously entered into an interracial relationship (he's white, she's black -from Guyana), but they met up because both of them were in the military. |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 12072
I wish I knew why people are so against interracial dating...I could never date an African-american man unless he were very VERY patient and immune to racism--my mom and grandpa would never accept him. Why? I have no clue. To me, it's just skin, not the person. I guess, like Emi said, white-black dating is the most singled out because it's so obvious.  |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 63026
I'm laying the foundation for a interracial relationship with a black girl. Were having a ball. She's into fashion, and help me pick out some cool outfits. But The only thing I Seen so far, was again people looking at us. But were young 22-18, and you know I hope we last. But I'm not rushing nething.  |
Date: 3/23/2007 6:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 62998
All though out high school, I dated a girl who was Hispanic. I didn't see it as a problem, and as for what other people thought. They knew well enough to keep to themselves then dare speak it to me. Let me tell ya, I am the whitest white man on EARTH lol. I am so white I am almost clear, but I was also big in High School (at one point the football coach wanted me to play, I said no). So most people were aware I was not to toyed with. I also had the rep for having a short fuse, which really wasn't justified, all I did was in middle school was beat a kid a up and broke a bathroom stall door off it's hinges with his head.  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 6:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
Yeah, you need to be kind of strong to put up with it. My grandpa is really racist, so before he came out, we told him straight up that if he made any comments, he was out and on a plane back home. Both mom and I made it clear that we won't have it, and I happily tell off those who make rude comments to us. We just did a photoshoot this last week called "Love is colorblind" which we accented the contrast of our skin. It's really nice, and kind of a stand against the people with a problem with us. |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 17290
personally i've given up on 'white boys' who seem to be full of themselves and just want one thing - trial and error lol ...If they're from a spanish speaking country, they're more compatible w/me |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
Psyguy, I've noticed in the last maybe 5 years, that black woman/ white male couples are becoming more and more common. Use to be you rarely saw that, I don't know why. |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:01:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 17290
I gave up on 'them' and went for the Hispanics |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 63026
I gave up on white woman. Maybe I work at an all black daycare though. I'm seriously like the only white teacher there. And Black Woman, With their cool hair styles, and mixed babies are so cute. Not saying I want anyone soon, but The things you can do with their hair, and how cute they are. |
Date: 3/23/2007 7:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 63194
Emi, people critize and discriminate black dating white relationships more than other. Its a fact.  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
I didn't say they didn't, Ben. I was just saying that the post makes it seem like it doesn't happen a lot with other races, but it does. |
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Date: 3/23/2007 7:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 17290
Do you think people stare more when they start talking in their native language or just when they see black and white or white and hispanic are together? |
Date: 3/23/2007 8:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 18155
I have an extreme adversion to "mixed race" dating. Maybe it's comming from the "Bible Belt", the way I was the raise, or just being from the "Old South".  |
Date: 3/23/2007 8:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 19345
I don't have a problem with anyone dating who ever they want to. It gets complicated when they have kids though as sometimes the children suffer from identy issues, so its important to incorporate both cultures in the upbringing.  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 63194
racism and bigotry is common in that area, mason |
Date: 3/23/2007 9:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 6915
I've never dated outside my race but I see plenty of interracial couples.  |
Date: 3/23/2007 11:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 3125
"I have an extreme adversion to "mixed race" dating. Maybe it's comming from the "Bible Belt", the way I was the raise, or just being from the "Old South"."...Mason, The Bible doesn't speak against interacial marriages. Matter of fact, Moses married an Ethiophian and that was ok with God. As for "the way you were raised, or "being from the "Old South". I was raised in the south as a woman and I was raised to believe that a woman was nothing more than a man's property. Goes to show you that the way we were raised, whether it be in the North or South, etc., can be VERY wrong. Anyway, It just doesn't make any sense whatsoever to judge a person as being a lesser person because they are of the black race.  |
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Date: 3/23/2007 11:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 3125
Last fall a dark skinned man and his two small children moved into the neighborhood that I had moved from in March of last year. This man had plans to do a lot of needed repairs to the house he bought (which had been previously owned by a white couple, who had let it run down). This man hadn't been there long when in the middle of the night he awoke to some loud noises and a smell of smoke. He leaped from his bed and when he looked outside he could see a couple of white men running from the house. He then saw flames shooting up from a cross on his lawn and a large sign that read "LEAVE N*G*R"... Grrr.. I get upset just trying to type this...To make a long story short, the two 'men' were caught and jailed, and the black man moved. He moved because he didn't want his children to be placed into any kind of danger. I would much rather have that black man as my neighbor than to have the two 'men' who had burned a cross on his lawn. |
Date: 3/24/2007 12:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 45630
hmmmmm the closer you live to the equator the more your skin changes, sounds like a high school science experiment destined to fail.  |
Date: 3/24/2007 1:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 14464
It is sad that people still feel it is wrong. I think some one some where will always feel that way, but I say who cares. I know I could never be with a really darked skinned person though, but that is only because that isn't attractive to me.  |
Date: 3/24/2007 4:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 26303
Does love have a colour attached to it? It shouldn't really matter. As long as a couple can accept cultral differences, things should be okay.  |
Date: 3/24/2007 7:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
i don't see the problem with anybody dating anybody. i see people as human beings and not as black or white. i've seen a lot of problems with mixing races in my own family. my cousin married a mexican girl a few years ago. my grandmother never knew they were married because she had a problem with them just dating. i don't know why. my other cousin in alabama was married to a white boy (boy, not man) and he beat the living crap out of her almost every day. her parents just told her she could come back home whenever she wanted to but never really said anything against him beating her. a few years later she married a black man that treated her like her like a queen and her parents disowned her. she finally moved to florida just to see some peace. they have been married for about 12 years and her mom has to sneak around to see her and the kids because her dad has a problem with a black man. that's the kind of crap i was raised with so i see people as people.  |
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Date: 3/24/2007 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 21839
I grew up around the military for most of my life then joined myself.. they military community really don't see color.. the only color they see is green... any couple that is looked at with an african american is a mixed marriage no matter what the nationality.. whites with asians & other races are typically not seen as mixed as both people do look white but it is still an interracial relationship.. I have been around it all my life. Skin color doesn't make a person.. If we all go back a couple of generations in our family history, most of our backgrounds are so diverse it really doesn't matter... I find if you be yourself & not try to be something or somebody you are not, then typically people do not have a problem, but there is your exceptions to that.. |
Date: 3/26/2007 4:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 64304
Being a product of a mixed race relationship and being in one. Identity is a big problem i had growing up. it sorta had to do with the fact that my mom culture she came from wasn't the American black culture and my dad culture was kentucky. i was always other on forms. I wasn't black i was white to black people white people saw me as black but white it really confuses people. they want you to act a certain way that they perceive. They want you to choose a side. it sucks.
psyguy enjoy your relationship. protect it.
~Wye a.k.a Wylie  |
