Date: 12/21/2006 8:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 31765
Aww LL, I'm sorry to hear this. If I was closer I'd come over and lend you a hand. It sounds like everyone is being inconsiderate, which under normal circumstances you probably don't notice, but recovering from surgery and needing help brings it to the forefront. Picking and choosing whose laundry to do is inexcusable. I'm just mean and nasty enough to give them a dose of that when you've healed. Do your own laundry and let everyone else do theirs  But seriously, for now, let the house slide. If you do things against doctor's orders, your recovery time is going to be much, much longer. Anyone who knows and matters will understand. Long a go a friend of mine told me a quote: If you come to see my house, make an appointment. If you've come to see me, come on in.  Tace care and have wonderful holidays. And take it eaay!  |
Date: 12/21/2006 8:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
Lady, I wish I could just turn a blind eye to the house..I can't..I have tried  . Today already I have done the dishes, cleaned the livingroom and started the laundry. I feel ok..I am now sitting in my comfy chair relaxing and plan to stay here for the next few hours. When I am all healed up they are going to see how mean their Mother can REALLY be! Payback is a "you know what"..LOL  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 31765
There ya go! Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, even to husband and children. Let them know you are NOT their servant! Do what I did. Go on strike! "You people are now fending for yourself until I feel some appreciation!" I blew up the other day, and asked...are y'all blind? Am I the ONLY one who sees the trash needs to be emptied? That the dishes need done? That if no one does laundry, we're all going to be wearing a bathing suit, a cardigan and mismatched socks? I get a few blinks, and people start doing things because...when mama ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy Remind them of that |
Date: 12/21/2006 8:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
*hugs* I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I wish I could yank a knot in them for ya, and get it done. I wish I was closer, I too would pitch in. I know all too well what it's like to have surgery, and can imagine with little or no help, how frustrating that would be. Please, do not do much though, your surgery from what I read is mostly an internal one, and if you start to do too much you might tear a stitch and that can be dangerous, not to mention, recovery time will take longer. They should all (with the exception of Derek) be ashamed of themselves for not helping out more. Even if it is "picky" or whatnot, it doesn't matter. They should have at very least done your laundry for you. I think you have all the right in the world to Whine.. I'd be whining too, well after I gave them an angry earful of frustration, at least. Just please take it easy, I will keep you in my thoughts sweety, and I hope that they come to their senses. If not show them this post, and let them see how people MILES away would love to help you, and they are complaining about helping you. It /might/just open their eyes. Here's to wishful thinking. I love you hun, you take care of yourself first, house later, ok? *huge huge hugs*  |
Date: 12/21/2006 8:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 62887
dont blame you....my garbage disposal has a hole in it and so we have a bucket under it until the manager finally decides to send someone up to fix it.....well for about the last week I have been talling my bf to dump the dang thing...finally last night i got home and dumped it...them with all of the dishes i had to place them in the BATHTUB to soak for 2 hours....it filled the dang tub....i put all of the reg. dishes in the dishwasher and hand washed the rest....now i get to clean up ALL of the trash that he has laying around....i cant stand slobs either  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 62887
i would be mean and dump a trash can filled with cans into the kids bedroom....my dad did that once....surley got me to clean.... |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 62887
hear i got one scary for you...at my bf's moms house her kids (16 & 13) do not really do anything...one throws her clothes onto the ground so theres a HUGE pile infont of her and her brothers doors...the other hates doing dishes so theres a pile of dishes that smell...there kitchen is packed with soda boxes, garbage, clothes, covers, dishes...everything...the 2 kids complain that they wont do anything until the other does |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:56:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
Hey Amanda! *hugs* for you and *hugs* for your Mamma who I MISS LIKE CRAZY!!! |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
Distraught! Ok, I would DIE if my house looked like that. It is not a palace, but I cannot stand garbage everywhere. Yesterday I happened to look under the lazyboy and I could not believe the garbage piled up there. I think that is what triggered my hissy fit! |
Date: 12/21/2006 9:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Just remember the refrain. "I'm dreaming of a white christmas...But if I get desperate, I'll drink the red.  |
Date: 12/21/2006 9:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
whine whine whine whine whine whine whine whine whine alllllllll you want! that's what we are here for!!!! don't apologize. you need to get it out of your chest. I think thats not fair for your family to act like this way especailly you were told to be on bedrest. those kids don't deserve those presents because it sounds like they dont respect their mother. why give them gifts if they don't help their mom?! I would be horrifed at myself if I did that to my mom.  |
Date: 12/21/2006 9:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 63114
*BIG SQUISHY HUGS* for you, LL...I hate hearing about all of this. I agree with Amanda - show someone this post and they can see for themselves that there are people all across the globe that love you and would do anything for you. Take care of YOURSELF, sweetie.  |
Date: 12/21/2006 9:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
When you get well I would take away from their privileges until they learn to start helping out. I am sure they will learn pretty quick once they have something taken away that they really want. One thing that my parents would do to me as a teen was take away the phone. That got me everytime lol. I hope you get better soon. Maybe ask a family member to help you before the holiday comes.  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 9:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
I'm not sure how expensive it is but maybe call a maid service in for 1 day. |
Date: 12/21/2006 10:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 38324
Oh, Ladyluck, I too wish that I lived closer for I would also come help ya out. I know exactly what you are going through and ya, it is very frustrating to say the least. But like everyone else says, just let it go and sooner or later they are gonna realize that maybe they should be helping you out more. And ya, when you do get back on your feet, do unto them as they have done unto you. See how they like not having any clean clothes, or not having any clean dishes to eat off of. I like the quote that Lady Phoenix said about those who come to visit ya. If your gonna pay attention to what the house looks like, then don't come around. For a true friend won't care, they will only care about you and how you are doing. That's the way I look at it anyway. Well, girlfriend, you take care and hope to talk to you soon. Great big hugs to ya. Love ya!!  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 10:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 62887
my brother always places his plates under my recliner....i hate that |
Date: 12/21/2006 10:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 61966
You have every right to whine, that's not fair to you! You need your rest and time to heal and they surely aren't helping out. Maybe you should threaten to take their presents away if they dont get the house cleaned? lol. I'm not sure, not good at this suggesting things to do part. I wish ya the best LL, hope your gonna be okay. *big hugs*  |
Date: 12/21/2006 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 19092
They all need to get off their dead butts and get busy. The old man should take charge and see that it gets done!!  |
Date: 12/21/2006 10:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
why not have company when it looks like a pig stye? Maybe it would embarrass them. I'm sure everyone that's coming knows what you've been through and would understand, but they might help to humiliate the ingrates a little  I don't blame you... I have the same fight and it gets so old.  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 10:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
LOL @ Lady Phoenix. I tell mine the same thing. They don't get it. |
Date: 12/21/2006 11:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Huggss, feel free to whine as much as you like, you deserve it. As for those lazy kids, they may not believe in santa any more but they'd better remember WHO buys their Christmas gifts!  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 1:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 40145
maybe you shouldnt clean your house until your company comes for xmas, and then start a BIG *sobbing* " my children doesnt help me,and look at my house its a mess!* whatever ot make the kdis feel really bad.. they will. if you are not too embarrassed to do that. |
Date: 12/21/2006 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 64160
Oho so been there done that, Dec 4, was my surgery day!!! My heart and prayers are with you friend  |
Date: 12/21/2006 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 47930
LL sorry to hear this i hope you are better fast! Happy Holidays Hugs  |
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Date: 12/21/2006 8:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
Thank you all so much for your kind words. I spent today doing..you guessed it...Housework! My Daughter did help me some though. She was home from school, but she spent most of it cleaning her room which is still a good thing! |
Date: 12/22/2006 7:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
I'm sorry to hear that you are still under the weather, LL, and having to do housework on top of it. Not an easy thing to do after major surgery. Many wishes for a speedy recovery!! Merry Christmas!! *hugs and love* Laura  |
Date: 12/22/2006 7:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
Panties, dont LOOK becky. I know what you mean, last year I had pneumonia at christmas time, don't remember anything about xmas meal, can hardly remember christmas and yes, my house went to hell in a hand basket. Ten mintues after I got out of the hospital, we stopped at the store to get some groceries, then I went home put it all away and cooked. And I hadnt been off oxygen for more then an hour. Lucky Lucky me. I feel your pain.  |
