Date: 9/7/2006 3:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
My first suggestion would be, if you dont think you are ready for a relationship, stop sleeping in his bed. The only think its going to do is confuse you both.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 3:10:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
We dont really do anything except for hug when we do share though!  |
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Date: 9/7/2006 3:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
I understand that hun but think about it, you kiss and hug and touch....whats the next step? |
Date: 9/7/2006 3:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 14464
I agree with DMK, it also sends himt eh wrong messege about what you want. Also he may be true to his word, but a lot of guys will lie to get a girl so be careful and stop sleeping in the same bed as him. If you want to just be friends for now then act like friends right now and nothing more.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 4:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Sounds to me like you already know what you want or you wouldn't be there. Don't let your fears prevent you from following your heart but if it don't feel right...don't do it. If the both of you are content hugging and sleeping in the same bed with no hanky panky then let it ride but be prepared cuz you know eventually it would lead to hanky panky and like I said...you wouldn't even be there if you didn't want that on some subconscience level. Hey, we are all human. To answer your question...yeah it seems a little too fast but it don't make it wrong.   |
Date: 9/7/2006 4:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 10391
Once you start asking if it is going too fast, then it is. If you say you really are not ready for a relationship, then you aren't. You sound confused and yes, sleeping in his bed even if it is just hugging and kissing sends the wrong message. Especially since you've beendoing that since the first night you met him? If you want it to go slow, well first thing you have to do is actually go home, alone. And actually take things slow.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 5:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
DMK is right, no more sleeping in his bed if you're not ready to be in a relationship with this guy. Even if he really does just want to be friends first, and you're already sleeping in his bed, what will happen if he changes his mind, wants more, and you decide that you don't? You automatically get labeled a tease and then you won't have him as a friend, let alone a boyfriend. Separate beds is a good idea. Separate apartments is a good one, too.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 5:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
I agree with what everybody said...  |
Date: 9/7/2006 6:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 10344
Well if you're that unsure maybe you shouldn't be sharing a bed with him and kissing him??  |
Date: 9/7/2006 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 22681
i know you may only hug, but it still can lead one of the two of you on. your thoughts could get ahead of you. i say stop staying with him, & tell him you two need to slow waay down in your friendship development. you will feel more comfortable & less scared!  |
Date: 9/7/2006 9:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
i wouldn't sleep with him. i don't care if you are both dressed in snow suits and boots.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 9:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 62881
I agree with DMK, AND Moma Bug!  LMAO @ Moma Bug!  |
Date: 9/7/2006 10:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 29532
Just take his advise, be friends first. DOn't make any commitment until your ready. Tell him how you feel if he starts to get serious on you.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 1:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
Take things at your pace, and just see what happens. No rush, no major commitment. Just relax and enjoy your time together. It may or may not work out but you will learn a lot from your experience.  |
Date: 9/7/2006 2:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 63289
I cant imagine sleeping in the same bed with somebody before I have decided to have a relationship with them. If you dont know what you are going to do ,I would suggest stop sleeping with him[clothes or no clothes]till you do. Easyrider  |
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Date: 9/7/2006 4:50:00 PM ( Admin-Mid )
if he wants to be just friends be just friends... dont do the things that you would do if you were in a relationship |
Date: 9/7/2006 6:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 62826
Don't do the sleeping in the bed for any reason.
Stay at home, meaning go out even in a group with him and when the nite is over, "had a great time, talk to you later" or something like that and sleep in your own bed.
Lorkrister |
Date: 9/8/2006 9:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 7574
Hmm..My roommate met a guy last week or so and he spends every night here and most of the days. Just take it slow..If something's going to develop, it'll develop whether you're sleeping in the same bed or not.  |
Date: 9/8/2006 5:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
It sounds to me like he is wanting to take things slowly too. I think you should not hang out with him every day at first, just hang out once or twice a week and see how things go. You don't want to overwhelm yourself. Don't think too much about the situation, go with the flow and trust your instincts  |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
DMK, I understand where you are coming from.... |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Ghost Lover, I had pretty much set down the rules at the beginning, so he knew how I felt about the whole deal, and about everything involved and knows that I will say no everytime.... |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Soul Drifter, you are right! We both single....but I would love to get to know him more than what I do! |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Carly, yep I agree...I havent seen him for a few days, and I thought it was over, which I was kind of please about but upset over too....I do like him, but yeah its all going a bit fast...I am gonna take a step back if anything happens... |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Beags, Yeah, plus I meet him mum on the third night...we had dinner and spent the evening singing singstar and talking...that was a little soon! LOL |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
RunrGurl, I told him that I need to take it slow, but he seems to think that he needs to take it one day at a time and what happens happens, but i dont really feel like that...I just dont think I know what a relationship should be like! |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
He has been hurt a lot...He had a fiance for 4 years until she just walked out on him, and his last girlfriend left with a days warning to go to the army, which she just didnt tell him about.... |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Thanks Love One that is some good advice! |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Thanks everyone for your comments....they are all ver much appriciated! *Hugz* |
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Date: 9/11/2006 5:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53054
Breezy yeah I am having a break,. and i need that for me, more than him....I just dont know at the moment. I think I read too much into this! LOL *mental note stop doing that* |
