Date: 7/12/2006 9:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
He's being a guy, take it slowly and see what happens.  |
Date: 7/12/2006 9:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
If you really want to be with him and care about him that much then you need to respect where he is coming from and give him that space. Sounds like he is being honest with you but at the same time he was misleading you. Maybe you need the break as well to make sure that your feelings are indeed what you think they are.  |
Date: 7/12/2006 9:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
That sounds exactly like what I used to do. Really.. just take it slower. If he's anything like me, feelings are there, he's just a little scared of where they're going. For some people, love is a little scary. That's all. =) Good luck.  |
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Date: 7/12/2006 9:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 63878
i am agreeing with italian princess,,take it slow ,go with the flow. you cant force him into loveing you. Its just a GUY THING.. |
Date: 7/12/2006 10:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 63449
If it's worth having, it's worth waiting for...Time will tell, gal...Time will tell...  |
Date: 7/12/2006 10:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
What Rika said, makes a lot of sense.  |
Date: 7/12/2006 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 55533
I agree with the others. It is soooooooo a guy thing. Ugh lol. I hope he WILL feel the same for you soon. But then again, you probably deserve better. But then...again, I don't know him  |
Date: 7/12/2006 11:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 4614
You should teach him a lesson...Get back at him and make him jealous...With me   |
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Date: 7/12/2006 11:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
Ok girls...I think we are being a little harsh on the men here. Like Rika said some people are just scared of love. Its happens to both sexes. |
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Date: 7/12/2006 11:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
LOL @ Sundance |
Date: 7/12/2006 11:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
It may be that he is just being "slower" than you, it may be that you are infactuated and think you are in love. It could be that he does like you more than he is letting on but is scared or doesn't want to be rushed into something more than he is comfortable with. If you want to be with him then be with him, but don't let your heart always lead your head  |
Date: 7/12/2006 12:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
these word here disturb me.."he decides he doesn't practically feel anything for me. He says "Something's missing"........well if a guy told me that, it sounds like to me, he just wants me around til something better comes along..if this is the case....find someone who will share YOUR feels with YOU.  |
Date: 7/12/2006 1:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 13297
It sounds like to me he is being honestly with you - appreciate the fact that he is not being a creep and leading you on just to hurt you. Take it slow - at least he is willing to take the chance that his feelings can 'catch up to yours'. People are always excited in the first month or two - that is the hormones. Then when that wears off we can look objectively and see where everything else is. It sounds like he is at that point of seeing where the relationship might go. I know that is hard for us women, but men usually just need more time to get comfortable. If you are willing to wait then be his friend and see if giving him a break warms him back up. Try to focus on your and doing things with your friends - nothing is more attractive than a self-assured person who has his or her own things going on. I really think if you focus on your [no matter how much you want to be with him] and focus on building your friendship with him - it will blossom into a good relationship later... That is however my two cents.  |
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Date: 7/12/2006 1:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 13297
make that *he is being HONEST* and focus on YOURSELF. sorry for the typos... |
Date: 7/12/2006 1:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 63366
He's only 24, heck I didn't know what I wanted at that age, half the time I’m not sure I even know now at 35. So just take it easy and enjoy the time together and it may clear itself up soon. If you push the issue you may end up driving him away…Disinformer  |
Date: 7/12/2006 2:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 37150
hun, age doesn't matter when it comes to knowing what you want or not. Respect his feelings that he doesn't want to move to fast and hurt you in the process. At least you had the courage to tell him and he was sincere and honest telling you he didn't feel the same way. I think it's better that now you know how he feels. I'm sorry he doesn't feel the same way as you. Now, you know how he feels and it's up to you to stay with him and take things at a slower pace or move on. You can't make him feel what he doesn't and it's up to you to wait for him to feel that way-if his feelings ever become mutual. I understand you want to love him and show it by kissing him and everything that couples do, but if it's too hard for you, then you shouldn't be with him. Best wishes,  |
Date: 7/12/2006 2:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 63289
It does seem that he knows what he wants and that he told you that. I am sorry he doesnt feel the way you do. But guys get crowded real easy. You might have just scared him away. That happens all the time. Sorry Easyrider  |
Date: 7/12/2006 4:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 53900
Id say just let him show you how much he wants but at the same time dont sit around waiting for him to decide he wants to be with you. Do things on your own or with other friends if he doesnt wanna hang out with you. Alot of times that is all it really takes for the guy to realize what hes feeling is when you are no longer around for him he starts missing you and hes like hey maybe those feelings I felt were more then I was willing to admit and I dont wanna lose her simply because Im scared or whatever and if not then you wont be there wishing and hoping that he would feel more for you then he does and you might just meet someone else who you can love and will love you back just as much. Sometimes in life the people you love just wont love you back no matter what you do or say and itll hurt but once you find the one who will love you without any question its so worth it  |
Date: 7/12/2006 4:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 63194
I have a personal problem with this, and because the title doesnt say "tell me what I want to hear" I am going to be honest. This happens alot - The girl wants more or just doesnt feel secure in a relationship and she expects the guy to tell her what she wants to hear and to devote all his time to her - however, she doesnt want to compromise with him and atleast meat him half way. he HAS to pacify her. Just my personal opinion, I wont be responding to anyone who wants to call me a jerk or whatever. I am saying this as it is fact and that it is and has been what I see. In some cases i know it could go both ways, but usually this is how it goes.  |
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Date: 7/13/2006 1:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 13297
I actually agree with Ben. I had a similar reverse situation. I had reacquainted with a long-time friend after my divorce. I had feelings for him and he did also for me but I could move as fast into the relationship as he could as the divorce was still somewhat recent and I was still working on issues from that. He respected that my feelings were not at the point where his were and he gave me time to work it out - waiting patiently as I decided what I wanted. He shot for the moon - laying it all out on the table like you did. I respected that he gave me space and time. And ultimately we are where we are because he did not push me to meet his level of feelings right off only to decide if I wanted to give it a shot and see where it could go with time... |
Date: 7/13/2006 1:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
Perhaps you should back off some and see if he can resolve his feelings. See if abscence truely does make the heart grow fonder. If it doesn't... It's time to move on.  |
Date: 7/13/2006 7:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
He is being honest with his feelings, ya have to give him that, however, I would just totally back off. I would not call him, see him, UNLESS HE did the calling and even if you go with him, and I know you have strong feelings, DO NOT give him sex. then if he doesnt call any more then you know he was just in it for the sex. I wish you the best in this, men are jerks. I shouldnt say that, there are SOME good ones out there, just not that many.  |
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Date: 7/13/2006 8:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 63194
ah..yes firstborn - the ones like me a few and far between.. lol |
Date: 1/11/2013 1:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 28071
 I am sure you've found a guy by now who feels the same. Hope you're doing well, Lady Marm. Your old USM pal, David/Fearfactor.  |
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