Date: 3/26/2006 12:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 49091
Do u mind me asking how old u are? If ur over the age of 15, sounds a little too nosey for me. But dont think they're never allowed to. Until ur 18 and moved out they can do whatever. But if ur between 12 and 14, they have every right in the world. Yeah NOT what u wanted to hear huh? Trust me, I KNOW!!! Im 16 and my parents wanted to know exactly what I was doing on the internet when I was 13-14. Drove me NUTS!! My dad even installed a program where it went through internet history files, sing lyrics, pictures etc and picked out anything that had anything over a G rating and gave him the source, fine name and how to get there. Talk about invasion of privacy!! But, it IS his house and HIS computer. Im now 16 as I said and I bought myself a brand new computer and they are not allowed on and they respect that because this is MY computer. But until ur 18 and not under their house rules ne more, sadly, u must stick it out. I know I know, ur prob thinking OK ur not helping but its better then saying omg thats totally unfair!! You deserve ur privacy, they are COMPLETELY in the wrong here!! Yes, dont get me wrong, u do deserve ur privacy, and them getting ur password is an invasion, but u are under their house rules at the moment :-( Try sitting down with them n asking maybe for a joint account that u all can get on, then one for urself. Or work a compromise with them. Good luck!  |
Date: 3/26/2006 12:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 33918
Well show them what History is on your computer and they wont have to know your password.. they are just concerned for you..their so sooooooo many freaks outthere they dont want you hurt.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 2:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
If you are still a minor and you are using your parents internet connection, they have every right to know what you are doing.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 3:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 19871
I would suggest you talk to her about you feeling that your privacy is being invaded, maybe you could work something out  |
Date: 3/26/2006 4:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 58334
Hmm....parents are ridiculous sometimes.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 5:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 17081
Sounds like a concerned parent to me.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 5:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 62881
I don't think that it is ridiculous for parents to be concerned about what their kids are doing online or otherwise. I have a block on my computer for certain things so I am sure my son (age 14) does not access any content that I feel is questionable because he has gotten onto some sites that he had no business on. With IM's, I do need to know who he is chatting with. I don't look over what he writes, nor do I say who he can and cannot speak with. Now if I found out anything out of the ordinary (criminal) was going on with certain people he chats with, then I would have a problem. BUT as long as he lives under my roof and I pay the bills then I am going to make the rules. When he gives me a reason to distrust him, then it will be uninstalled. When he is on restriction he can't use the computer either...I use password protection to be assured he cannot use it when I am not at home. Like I said MY house. My rules.  |
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Date: 3/26/2006 5:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 62881
If I were you, I would worry if they DIDN'T care....JMO |
Date: 3/26/2006 5:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 46486
I agree with Mfrompa.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 6:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 48809
Unless you are doing something on line that you are not supposed to be doing, then why do you care if your mother has your password? If you were one of my children, than I would want to know what you were up to also! When your parents try to keep an eye on what you are doing... then that means they care enough about you to protect you not only from others but from yourself as well.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 6:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
try to see it from your parent's point of view, regularly there are news reports about children meeting people on the internet and going missing, or even worse! i think your parents are concerned for your safety and just want to make sure you are safe, try talking to your mom about what you do online and who you talk to, maybe with that info she will worry less  |
Date: 3/26/2006 7:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
I guess there's nothing you can really do about it until you move out and get your own computer.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 7:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 27735
What a good mother you have. I'm sorry but I'm on her side in this one. I check on my daughter all the time. It isn't that I don't trust her...I just don't seem to trust the rest of the world. You might not like HOW your mother loves you but, trust me...she does. whirlwn53  |
Date: 3/26/2006 8:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
I'm going to have to play devil's advocate here, because in other posts I see that the poster owns a car and such so he is at LEAST 16 if not older... sounds nosy to me.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 8:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 17275
I don't think teens under 15 should have all out access to the computer. Then again I wouldn't snoop into ones computer history unless given a reason.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 8:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 47296
The way I see it is like this, if you do not want them into your business, then pack your belongings and find your own place to live and support yourself instead of making them support you. As long as you live under their roof, use the internet in their home, and they help provide for you, then they have every right to know what you are doing and to get into your business. I only wish more parents would get into their kids business, because then we would ahve a lot less youth crime and drug abuse.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 9:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 62998
Have to agree with LSR on this one. If you live under their roof, you live by their rules. Until you afford to pay the bills, you have no right to decide to what is best for you, and becides, what are you hiding that you don't want your parents to see? this is a G-rated site.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 9:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 15394
well you probably won't want to hear this, but my kids know that there is NO privacy on the internet... I have all passwords and will go and snoop... am I snooping to catch my kids at something NO... am I snooping to see if weirdo people are contacting my kids, YES... The rule is that if you don't wanna give passwords, then don't get on the computer, it is a priviledge not a right... I don't snoop through their rooms or diaries etc, but strangers don't have access there... anyway, at least you have parents that care!!  |
Date: 3/26/2006 10:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
I guess I am one of those NOSY parents because as long as my children are minors and living under MY roof I will be monitoring what they are doing on the internet. I have heard way too many horror stories not to. I refuse to allow my kids to be harmed in any way. Be glad you have a Mom that loves you so much that she will do anything to protect you.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 10:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 43608
Is it your parents computer? If it is then they have every right to see what you're doing on it. Besides, if you're not 18 yet they still have the right because you're their child.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 10:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 28363
Your mother loves you and you love your mother... You two can work this out. Let her pretend she is protecting you for a while longer with no hard feelings on your part. Good luck Mr Nascar  |
Date: 3/26/2006 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 37150
sounds like she's being overprotective. my dad was the same way and he looked at everything and still didn't believe me. he said "that better be what it is." whatever. some parents are too much. I would take your age into consideration if i you said, but either way she needs to trust u and u just need to have a talk w/ her or just don't go online at home. Good luck,  |
Date: 3/26/2006 11:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 7574
Mmm..I'm 18 and I don't even live at home anymore, and my parents still are very involved in my life. It gets better though..Just be a good person and you have nothing to worry about. I'm glad I have parents to be involved in my life.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 12:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 60685
Be like "mom, be glad I'm home on the computer and not out partying" and hopefully she'll leave you alone. If you still have to negotiate agree on the fact that she does have a right to know what you're doing as a parent but you still have the right to some privacy, a good solution would be she could check the history on Internet Explorer to see if you're going to say any R rated sites and you get to keep your password to yourself, explain you have the right to have a life just as anyone else, that if she ever wants to have any grandchildren she needs to start letting go a bit.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 1:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 63366
Explain to her that you know she’s just trying to protect you. If you see this as being nosey then tell her she can look at your posts just don’t post herself. Explain with something like “Would you like it if your grandpa/g’ma went on every date when you were young and then called your date the next day to ask for a date themselves.” Replying to your posts on the net for you can be embarrassing and demeaning even though she’s probably just watching out for predators. You could just get her a tag and password at the sites if she’s “that” interested. If you think she may be trying to live vicariously though you…Disinformer  |
Date: 3/26/2006 2:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
Until your old enough to leave the house, they have every right to protect their children in the way they deem fit. I think once they see that usm is ok, that they will back off, but if you act too secretive about it, then they will be more curious. As long as they are putting a roof over your head, paying the bills, feeding you, buying your clothes, and your under 18, live with it. In time you will be old enough to go and say and do as you please. Remembering that ones parents are NOT going to be around for ever. How would you feel if you fought them on this issue and then something bad happened to ne of them. Always live your life as if its the last day with your parents.  |
Date: 3/26/2006 10:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 51194
I won't let my 13 yr old on the computer and I have a parent password on it when I log in.He is not truth worthy.So unless your parents can trust you they have to know what you are doing at all time. Its away to make sure you are safe.I had a freind that there parents didn't check and she got beat upi and a lot worse.not once but twice and the second time the guy she met almost killed her.so see she is just trying to make sure you are safe.The girl was 13 by the way.  |
Date: 3/27/2006 1:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
Gee and to think they've been filling our heads all these years that involved parents have kids less likely to drink, do drugs etc. LOL  |
Date: 7/11/2009 3:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
I guess you are old enough now for your parents to leave you alone lol...  |
Date: 7/11/2009 6:14:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62163
lol, well I ain't paid much attention to it anymore. I've grown up a lot since I made this post. lol she don't really anymore, we've actually grown closer since then. I'm a little more open with her, now it's just she can't hear worth a crap. Comes with age, or just selective hearing? lol  |
