Date: 3/12/2006 2:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 49080
You really need to talk to her about it. Especially if you have overcome the problem before. A heart to heart will be very good for the both of you. Even though she is doing things that you don't like right now she is still your friend. True friends just have to be honest with each other. You may very well help her in many more ways than you may think. Before you talk to her about it just think about what words you are going to use because you don't want to hurt her feelings any more.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 3:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
That's what I was thinking Sweet September. I just don't know what to say to her. Thank you for your help. :]  |
Date: 3/12/2006 3:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 63366
The problem she seems to be having is a bad personal veiwpoint in that by thinking everyone looks at her being fat. Not as the person she really is, but that doesn't help you any. What you should do is like Natilie say sit hear down an have a heart to heart. Tell her that you don't think of her that way but that you know what she is going through. If that works then you may be able to coach her. By telling her how you got past your issues...Disinformer  |
Date: 3/12/2006 3:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 13969
Actually, I think that the best thing to do in your case is exchange pleasantries and leave your conversation there. You don't sound like you deliberately make her think these things and I don't think you can help it if she miscontrues everything everyone says as calling her fat..I would keep my distance at least until she works out her own issues.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 4:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
If I were you I would lose my temper and just say "yeah you are fat now get over it!" of course I would not mean it I would just be angery. But just wack some logic into her say "look I always tell you your not fat so whats the point of keeping it up when you know you do not need to worry about being fat" Ask her why she is so worried about being fat and then have a chat with her about it.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 4:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 63077
First solution that comes to mind--kick her in the teeth. However, the Spock and McCoy of my mind wrestled over it, and Spock won. Talk to her. Point out that she's oversensitive and tell her to talk to her parents about seeking professional help.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 4:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
Hey I just got dejavuuuu!! LOL I know we just had this conversation. I don't know what to tell you girlie, other than look at YOURSELF, and know how you feel about you. You cannot let her influence your own self-image... She may need to tone up a bit, but she is NOT fat! And although this sounds very very harsh, if she is sending you into a tail spin about your weight, maybe you need to distance yourself a bit until you are in the right state of mind again... I know you care about her, but remember YOU are important and your feelings and your self-esteem... if a relationship becomes toxic or sickening to YOU, the choice is yours to let it happen, or do something to stop it... remember you have CHOICES, use them... you arent' stuck in a box with no way out... your a smart cookie, you will figure out how to help her, or save you or both!!  |
Date: 3/12/2006 5:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
it sounds like she puts too much on weight... and she needs someone to talk to.. someone to tell her if she feels fat there are some great things she can do to make herself feel better about herself  |
Date: 3/12/2006 5:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 63077
Moms are great. Listen to your mom.  |
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Date: 3/12/2006 5:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
Thanks guys! haha. I don't want to blow up at her, but goshhh, it's really getting on my nerves. I will talk to her about it, and then try to distance myself a little until she gets herself back in order. :] I will keep you posted. LOL at USMC, I knoww. =p <33 |
Date: 3/12/2006 7:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Well, is she fat? If so, you should say, "Yeah.. you're fat." Maybe then she'll stop fishing for compliments.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 8:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 11348
Maybe she brings it up with you because she knows you've been there. Just tell her that you're being honest and she is not fat. If she is overweight and you are just being nice by telling her she's not when she says she is, just suggest some things she could do to change that if it bothers her so much.  |
Date: 3/12/2006 8:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 12709
Arika.. NICE. Haha <3  |
Date: 3/12/2006 10:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
My friend is exactly the same way. I finally just told her unless u are willing to do something to control ur "problem" dont complain about it! n she knew coming from a friend that it wasnt to hurt her feelings or anything and yes, she is dealing with her "problem" now. Sometimes u gotta be really blunt.  |
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Date: 3/12/2006 10:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Rika is right. Straight up tell her. Tell her what she wants to hear. Itll quiet her up |
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Date: 3/13/2006 7:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 23101
She is just so sensitive about it I don't know if telling her that will make it better. haha. But I understand what you're saying. :] |
