Date: 1/7/2006 12:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Because he can.. because he knows that as long as he keeps dangling the possibility in front of your face, you'll keep grabbing for it and he can be in control... I had a boyfriend JUST like that. In fact, the ex is, at this very moment, trying to convince me that we're meant to be. Please, please, please, don't do what I did. DO NOT get back together with him. I got back together with the ex once and the relationship was just horrible. Save yourself more heartache and move on.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 12:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 37150
i'm with Beags on this one. Sorry, hun.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 1:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 63044
Beags is so right hon. I too have had an ex come into my life and I stupidly made mistakes. I completely understand how you feel. You're thinking of all the good times at the moment and not the bad. Am I right? Honey, I'm so with you on this one. I'm even in therapy talking about this ex as we speak. Please keep in mind that he is not the only reason I am in therapy, but the last time we got together and he broke my heart was the last draw. I had to figure out why I kept seeking his attention and affection. Not a pretty sight. (((((((((((Big Hug))))))))))).  |
Date: 1/7/2006 1:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 14464
I'm with beags! i've been there done that and it's horrible the second go around. When a guy knwo s they have control they take it for granted and know they can do anything and get away with it.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 1:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 22681
well, i just posted about how confused i am, so..sorry but i cant be of much help.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 1:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 15157
Quit letting him walk into your life like that...Its not fair to you!...Look out for number one...YOU!. Unless you think there is a master plan in both of your lives. He must SHOW you he is through with others...Search your Heart and find out what to do.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 4:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
Ok everyone is saying they are with beags I see. (by the way I think they are right) sorry had to join the trend there lol. Now here is my opinyion, Guys are idiots!! lol they get scared so easily of all great these great emotions like love! (one emotion girls tend to look forward to) so I dunno I right now am very cautious of guy right now, cause even though I was never in a realtionship for any length of time, I still get my heart broken everytime I fall in love. But I will tell you this belive it or not they are not all idiots (your a ex is one of those idiots by the way, how dare he play with your heart) ok there are some great guys out there who are looking for a girl like you you just gotta know where to look. Your single this means a whole world of opotunities like for one any one great can come in to your life and no one can hold you back from going to them. I know this hurts alot what you went through but maybe you should use this time being single to think about other things. Like maybe your dream carrer? Or things you can only alone? Their is no point feeling sad it wont bring him back the best thing you can do for yourself is to think positive, the more you think positive the more someone better will come into your life. I wish you the best of luck.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 4:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
You're being played. Do not hold your breath for him to break up with his girlfriend because it isn't going to happen. Consider the facts: he dumped you, he found someone else, he is still dating this other person even though he "misses you so much"....are these the actions of a person who really wants to be with you? What a bunch of baloney. I'll tell you what he does want-- he wants to string you along because he enjoys having you fawn all over him while he's still secure in his other relationship. Don't let him do this to you. Don't allow him to waffle over his feelings towards you, getting your hopes up and crushing them repeatedly. You are going to get hurt over and over and over again unless you take a stand for yourself. You have to put him out of your life. If you see him at a party, don't talk to him. Don't call him. Don't think about him. Try saying this to yourself repeatedly until it drills into your brain: "It's over. It's over. It's over. It's over."  |
Date: 1/7/2006 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Honestly? Because you let him get away with it. He knows that you will always be around for him, so whenever he sees you, he drops you a bone so that he is still on your mind. Then when it is convenient for him to get back together with you, you will be there with your arms open. You're always on the back burner. It also rings a bell in my mind that he has a girlfriend and he is trying to get together with you. Maybe he is the type who always needs a girlfriend, so when him and her split up, he is comfortable knowing that he has another girl waiting in the wings for him. Sure makes for a cushy break up doesn't it? If he really wanted to be with you, he would be. He wouldn't be saying things like, "I made a mistake and I don't know how to fix it" he would know that the most obvious remedy would be to split up with his girlfriend and go out with you, whom he supposedly has wanted to be with for so long. It's a no brainer. But oh no, instead he goes and doesn't even bother calling you or contacting you for *5 months* and the only reason you talked to him again is because you happened to run into him at a friends' house. It doesn't sound like he's too devoted. He's into playing games and you don't need that. How much longer are you willing to play the waiting game? It really ticks me off when I see good girls who are getting strung along by these guys and they hang on because they are so goodhearted and hopeful that they will one day be happy with the guy. But it never happens! Please get out there and find a guy who is just as into you and you are into him. Let him and his confused, wandering eye land somewhere else. This will only go on as long as you let it. Don't believe me? Call him up and tell him that if he really wants to be with you, it's now or never. Give him a week, even. I'll bet that when the week is through, you will still be single and he will still be giving you some weak excuse as to why it hasn't happened yet. I dealt with a guy just like this, and finally one night I ran into him and he tried sweet talking me and I straight up told him to go to H***. It felt very good. I hope I don't come across as too harsh, but you are wasting your big heart and kind soul on a loser who totally doesn't deserve it. I hope you will realize that you deserve better, and you won't find better until he is off your mind and out of your heart.  |
Date: 1/7/2006 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
it sounds to me almost like he is keeping you on the back burner.. he doesnt want to be with you.. he just want you there if his current doesnt work out, your the one who he knows he can always go back to... he seems to make an appearance just at the points where your almost moved on to stir those feelings back up... it's hard.. but... move on.. dont fall for it... tell him straight out "if you want to be with me, be with me, if not dont but i'm not here for your mind games"  |
Date: 1/7/2006 9:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
I'm not trying to be harsh in this reply. I believe he keeps coming back because, you allow him to keep coming back. The pain has not subsided for you and won't until, you allow yourself to let go of the past. You said you didn't do anything wrong so, stop beating yourself up and stop letting him control you and your emotions. In the end the one being hurt is you.  |
Date: 2/17/2006 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 28071
perhaps he dumped you, then was dumped by this girl he left you for; only now its a "mistake" he left you in the first place. to be in love with someone, and then immediately linked with another doesnt sound too good on his part. there are plenty of decent guys/usmers out there to choose from, Marm. I dont think you sould worry about the future   |
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Date: 2/17/2006 6:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 28071
David/Fearfactor--^ |
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