Date: 9/30/2005 10:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 40145
no its not child abuse, i had the same problem with my Tyler when he was 2 but now hes 5, he still has this little problem, but those doorknob covers sounds good to me, as long as you are home and such like that. but i think its not chidl abuse.  |
Date: 9/30/2005 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 63026
i guess maybe lay down with him, or have a nightly routine where u read him stories, and maybe watch a movie with him or something like before his bedtime so he gets use to it.  |
Date: 9/30/2005 10:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 53900
Try going in there and laying with him or sitting with him until he calms down and each time make the time shorter that you stay...like tonight make it 10 minutes or 15 or whatever then make it less tomrrow and if he is not with you all the time maybe you could talk to his dad and see about trying to set up the same routine for his benefit so he can get used to something in both houses?  |
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Date: 9/30/2005 10:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 53900
Oh and itll pass too....the terrible twos do end. When they start communicating better and understanding what you are communicating they do start behaivng better. You just gotta be firm |
Date: 9/30/2005 10:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 63145
Well I personally wouldn't get the door cover things, b/c just in case of an emergency...a fire or something...He should be able to get out. Maybe he hasn't adjusted to the new room, be patient w/ him and let him know it's safe and that he has to sleep, IF, like everyone said you have to lay w/ him for a bit. But my little girl is 4 and she's still going through the terrible 2's...LOL!!!  |
Date: 9/30/2005 10:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 63205
This sounds like a call for SuperNanny!  Yeah my kiddoes used to throw a fit too at bedtime when they were that young. It was all just trial and error LOTS of patience, praying and loss of sanity lol! What worked for me was the process of, after putting them to bed for the first few days I layed down on the floor in their room, very nonchalant and pretended to go to sleep. Get up every 5 minutes, then 10 and repeat that process until they fall asleep. It may take awhile at first and he's gonna 'let it out' but if you stay consistent it'll become routine and he'll get used to it. Hope this helps....NbN  |
Date: 9/30/2005 11:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 12709
Wow... that's bad. I'm sorry. Call Nanny 911!  |
Date: 9/30/2005 11:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 51194
My daughter use to stay with her aunt and when I had her on week ends I would lay down with her then when we got her full time we put a todler bed in our room and when ever she wanted she could come and sleep in her todler bedin our room but now she sleeps in her room full time and has been for 2 months now.she 4. I got dora sheets and conforter for her and told her this is only staying on your bed as long as you stay in your room.and ever since that day and talk she has stayed in her room.she comes in our room like once ever other week if that.I guess if you decorate his room the way he wants it and tell him this is for big boys that he might stay.I had to get a night light too.at first had to let her stay up and look at books or watch a movie laying down in her room and then turn it off when she was asleep.you might try this to go in there read him a story and then hand him the book if hes not asleep yet when you are done and then tell him to read it to his favorate toy stuffed animal whatever.well these are a few things that worked for me so hope one of them help you.  |
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Date: 9/30/2005 11:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 51194
I forgot to on a super nanny show I saw they said when your child comes out of there room don't say anything to him don't look at him just take him back to his rooma nd walk away and be consitant with this night after night and he will soon stay.I don't know if that will work cause the dora sheets and conforter worked for her. |
Date: 10/1/2005 12:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 45630
The main problem is this. He knows he can do one thing with daddy so he believes that he can do it all the time. When they are that age no matter how much of a ruckus he puts up he has to have a uniform approach from everyone. If one person does something differently he thinks that it is ok. He is too young too understand any different. Hope this helps. In the mean time though I think those door knob covers are a great idea. UNLESS you are potty training him as well. Then it is going to be trouble.  |
Date: 10/1/2005 5:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
Youve gotten lots of good advice her already all I can add is be consistant, patient and prepared fim him to fight harder when he realizes you arent giving in. Took me two weeks of screaming and repeatedly putting him in bed to get my son to realize he wasnt winning. I wouldnt hold the door shut either, scary for a kid. Just keep replacing him in bed or stay woth him. Good Luck!!  |
Date: 10/1/2005 6:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 7849
No offense but the door knob cover sounds so dangerous... what if there was a fire or he had to get out quickly... Good idea though, Id just ground him until he started behaving, or take away toys until he knew enough to behave again. good luck  |
Date: 10/1/2005 7:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
Jessica gave the same suggestion I was going to give. You just have to be consistant. I think you moving doees have a lot to do with it. Even if he just started doing it, he is realizing that everything around him is changing. I know you've heard this a hundred times.....babies and toddlers hate change-they need routine. He'll get used to it after awhile. You just can't back down.   |
Date: 10/1/2005 7:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
I've read somewhere that it is recommended that tv's and vcr's aren't supposed to be in childrens rooms any longer because it didn't encourage sleep, but I am not sure about that. Can I ask why you don't lay down with him until he goes to sleep any longer? You know, my son seemed to need me to lay down with him untill he was about three but my daughter was easy to sleep by herself and gave me no trouble at all. Is your son afraid of the dark?  |
Date: 10/1/2005 9:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
I cant help ya here, I was too easy, LOL, my kids slept with me, it started as them being babies as they just didnt sleep well and I was getting no sleep, getting up 12 times a night. Lots of times I put them in bed with me until they went to sleep, then packed them to their own beds, only to have them wake in the night and climb back in bed with me, hence two double beds in my room, one for me and two kids and one for my husband and two kids. LOL. After the first kid, makes me wonder HOW or where I found the time to make child 2,3 and 4. LOL  |
Date: 10/1/2005 5:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 24319
"I forgot to on a super nanny show I saw they said when your child comes out of there room don't say anything to him don't look at him just take him back to his rooma nd walk away and be consitant with this night after night and he will soon stay" I saw that on super nanny as well. It takes a little while, but it seems to work. SuperNanny said the first time, pick him up and put him back in bed, tell him you love him and good night, the second time do the samething. Everytime there after just pick him up and put him in bed, and don't say anything. Eventually he will fall asleep. Repeat that everynight and, hopefully, after a few nights (maybe even a week) he should go to bed and stay there. I don't have children, but I don't think I will be letting my children sleep in the same bed as me, I've seen too many cases where the child gets so use to it they continue sleeping with the parent(s) a lot longer than their toddler years. The most extream case I know of is my cousin who slept with her mother till she was in 7th grade.  |
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Date: 10/2/2005 8:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 62976
All I can say is put your child to bed and turn on the tv or put his favorite movie or cartoon in til he falls a sleep . And the next night do the same thing he will get used to it after a while because my son and daughter went throw the same thing and they got used to it my son sometimes still tries to come into my room to sleep but I put him right back in his bed and he stay's there and watches tv til he fall's a sleep know he is 5 yrs. old and goes to school and still we have problem's with him going to sleep but you have to have patience with him it takes time but eventually they get used to it and go to sleep on there own. So good luck keep me posted on his progress. |
Date: 1/5/2006 2:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 7830
I have to lay with my two year old and usually hold him down until he goes to sleep. it's a pretty common thing. I hope it passes too!  |
Date: 1/5/2006 2:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 16061
First of all dont panic he is just trying to become him and not liking the fact that you can control him. First thing to do is kick daddy in to touch , you both need to be doing the same thing every night children love routine, they thrive on it knowing what is going to happen is great they dont have any suprises i.e. one night TV the other no TV is confusing the poor lad. about an hour before he needs to go up put him in his PJ's so he knows that playtime is over and bedtime is starting then start to settle him down with a story this will allow both you and your husband to bond with him. You know what he likes if not get some books from the library for his age and make up the stories ask him what he sees in the book just keep him calm and stop him playing about 30 minutes before he goes up tell him that he will soon be going to bed this gives him 30 minutes to blow fuses and everything else but he will have worn himself out before bedtime (well hopefully) put him up 15 minutes before his due bedtime for a final story. Put him in bed and wrap him up so he is secure than read the final story. Then settle him down. If he gets up dont talk to him just put him back in bed and settle him down he will get through this and good luck. The times can be changed as he gets more used to it but you will find you will enjoy spending time with him doing this.  |
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