Date: 8/12/2005 7:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
can we have both?..lol  |
Date: 8/12/2005 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
Yes, I'm definately old fashioned as far as relationships. And a true believer of Chivalry...  |
Date: 8/12/2005 7:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Can you talk to my husband? lol I like when a man treats a lady like a lady as long as they don't over do it to the point where its just sickening, if that makes sense...lol. My hubby needs a few pointers...lol  |
Date: 8/12/2005 7:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
sure you can have both...if he exits...LOL...  |
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Date: 8/12/2005 7:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
I like to treat my Lady good, the simple things, like opening doors, flowers for no reason, special dinners with the works, stuff like that...and of course within reason... |
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Date: 8/12/2005 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
I like for a man to approach, and ask me out. I like when doors are opened, and chairs are pulled out. I like to be escorted by the arm. I love it when a guy places his hand on the small of my back to walk with me. I like receiving flowers, cards, gifts, and especially personal letters. Yep, I'm definately old fashioned..lol... |
Date: 8/12/2005 7:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 56630
I treat a lady like a lady..I give them loads of respect...and if you need proof, you can ask, Got Bubbles...I dont think of them as just arm candy, thats wrong...  |
Date: 8/12/2005 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
My guy is a bit of both and I love him for it   |
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Date: 8/12/2005 7:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
I just rid of a rough and redneck guy...oh my bad you said...ready...lmao! |
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Date: 8/12/2005 7:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
*got...I've been leaving out words for some reason today.... |
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Date: 8/12/2005 7:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
Its cool, we get the typo demon every now and then... |
Date: 8/12/2005 8:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
This reminds me of the time I was at my first military function with my first husband. It was a pretty fancy shindig. I got up to leave the table and all the guys stood up. I had never seen that before. At first I was kind of scared, like what the heck are these guys doing, but I caught on that this was how you treat a lady and I liked it...a lot. My first husband was very chivalrus because of his military back ground. My current husband....well, he needs to be taught a few things but he'll get there eventually. At least he will open the car door for me if I stand there long enough. *smiles*  |
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Date: 8/12/2005 8:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
Actually i like it when a man opens doors for me..and brings me flowers for no reason.. |
Date: 8/12/2005 8:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 63191
How about a "Rough and Ready" gentleman?  USMOM  |
Date: 8/12/2005 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I've been treated like a lady in the old fashioned way by my hubby all our life together, and thats the way I like it......hugs  |
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Date: 8/12/2005 9:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
The military is where I developed most of my ways to treat a lady as well...and the gentelmenly way is so much nicer, I think... |
Date: 8/12/2005 9:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 63011
I like chivalrous guys. I wish there were more of them.  |
Date: 8/12/2005 9:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 25756
Well, the guy I'm seeing right now--even though he doesn't seem like it on the outside--is actually very gentlemanly and it's really sweet. He ALWAYS opens the door for me to get in the car, and always opens the door for me, and always pays (even though that makes me feel uncomfortable lol...I feel like I should pay at least somdtimes!!). It's so funny cause he's this guy with tattoos and he's kinda tough and all that, but he's really gentlemanly like that. Hmm....so I guess I do like the old-fashioned type of guy, because I'm rather old-fashioned myself. I think I was born too late!  |
Date: 8/12/2005 10:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 22080
chivalry ended with their right to vote, wear pants and put their own toilet seat down despite the fact that i put the lid down cause i dont like my pets drinking out of the toilet  |
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Date: 8/12/2005 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
LOL!!!@ Crown Jester!!! |
Date: 8/12/2005 10:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 51061
it depends on who deserves it. I have a knight in shinning armour complex but if a girl is being a witch then I could care less about her.  |
Date: 8/12/2005 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 7830
Im defenitly old fashioned. I love chivalry. Thats why Im single now, because most men of my generation dont know how to treat a lady.  |
Date: 8/12/2005 11:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 27961
I'm all about treating a lady right, its just what I do..open doors, paying for whatever we go out and do, bringing a flower when I go pick her up, walk her to her house. I just like doing all the little things that most people over look, like leaving a note in her sunvisor saying how beautiful she is to me because I know she always pulls it down to look at herself when shes in her car, calling just to say hi and throwing her towel in the dryer while shes in shower so when she gets out she has a warm towel to dry off with.  |
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Date: 8/12/2005 11:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 51061
of course I read this and I think women really don't know what they want. They say they want a guy to do all the chivilrous things but the second a guy leaves her notes and and brings flowers, shes gonning be thinking "wow he's clingy" or something along that matters. What makes it so much worse, not a single woman will believe what I have to say. |
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Date: 8/12/2005 11:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 27961
I also agree with Guy777, girls say they want the nice and sweet guy type but then the next day thier saying that "you're too nice" |
Date: 8/12/2005 11:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
Hmm... I'd like a guy to definitely be chivalrous, yet not be afraid he'll break me if he wants to sling me over his shoulder like a sack of potatoes and carry me around like a caveman for a minute or two. :P All in good fun, of course..  |
Date: 8/13/2005 2:16:00 AM ( Admin )
I think a person should jump at the chance to be a nice person. To show that they care for others. Women and men. If you are a man and open the door for another man it's not wrong it's courteous. If your a woman and you open the door for someone else It's courteous. We have been taught that courteous men should open the door for women. I think that if they don't it doesn't always mean they don't care it may means they haven't been taught how to care (which is even worse). Courtesy comes from the heart, if not then it's just a show. Good morning, after noon. How are you doing. Lovely day isn't it. These words when meant, open similar doors for the right reasons.
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Date: 8/13/2005 5:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I guess it depends... I have one guy friend who is very gentlemanly and very sweet and that's what gives him his charm... but then I have another guy friend who is sarcastic and loud... but somehow, he's still charming as well.. but I definently prefer gentlemen. As far as I'm concerned, if you find that kind of guy, you should hold on for dear life, because it's a rarity. I like SoulDrifter's comment.. I wish people would stand up for me when I left the room. :P But yeah, people with military backgrounds are.... wow, I think maybe our last grasp at chivalry.. lol. I haven't met many, but I know a Marine and he is VERY courteous.. opens doors, pulls out chairs, that kind of thing.. either Mom did one heck of a job or it's because of his career.  |
Date: 8/13/2005 6:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
I like a mix of the two...however I will not be with a guy who does not hold the door for me or open my car door. I dont know it is just something I have always believed. I mean I think women deserve equal treatment and all but at the same time when you are with a man he should treat you like his queen.  |
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Date: 8/13/2005 6:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
I know it might sound stupid also but I like when a guy asks me what I want when we go out to eat and orders for me and I like when I get up to go to the bathroom and he stands up while I go. I grew up in the south though so there are still plenty of those kinds of guys around here. I should specify though it is not just the south but in the rural south that I grew up. I think that has alot to do with it....now the problem is is women need to raise their sons to do these things. I dont think chivalry is dead and gone just not really being taught anymore. A man can still treat a woman like a woman and allow her to still be an individual. I think that is the fear that if he does to much for her he will be sending the message that she cant do anything for herself. If it comes from the heart though I dot think it would come across as anything otehr then being a gentleman |
Date: 8/13/2005 6:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
Ahem....depends on the plans.. LOL, j/k....My guy acts all macho and hard but underneath he's a big softie with a HUGE heart and he treats me with love and respect...  |
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Date: 8/13/2005 7:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
LOL..although I must say he believes in manners..he is always having to remind me to act like a lady cause I am a total hick...I can curse like the worst sailor you know and I lose my temper and my cool real quick if someone tries to (hmmmm how do I say this G-rated...) pull one over on me or give me the rough end of a deal...I can get pretty raunchy with the jokes..but I'm getting better. LOL when I first met him and we were just friends I would burp and fart right in front of him..I didn't care...I even stuck my stinky feet in his face one night when we were hanging out watching TV..LOL..it's a wonder the man ever decided to get with me..LOL..I was soooooo not even close to ladylike back then. I can pull it off now though... |
Date: 8/13/2005 7:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
My husband is chivalrous without going overboard, which is how I like it. He always opens the door for me, thinks of me, and unexpectedly gets me something nice. But he's also a bit rough and ready, which is great because we can wrestle in the floor (of course he tones it down a lot so he doesn't hurt me). Being both is good: He'll hold my hand while we go to the Hockey game. I have found many guys that are chivalrous as well. I think that's just because of where I'm from. Texan men have it right: they love their mammas and it transfers to their relationships. :P  |
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Date: 8/13/2005 7:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
LMAO Xylanthia. We need to hang out. We'd have a blast, teehee. |
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Date: 8/13/2005 8:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
I'm up for that Oddy.... |
Date: 8/13/2005 9:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 61901
I've been married to the same lady for 30 years. I found my wife by being an old fashioned gentleman, but in my youth I may not have always been a gentleman.  |
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Date: 8/13/2005 11:14:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
Great comments, and I might add, I have noticed that the way the military teaches its people, it still comes down to the person integrating that into who they are. I have seen some real dirt bags in the military as well. We all have the potential to be chivalrous, its just a conscience decision that has to be made. I made it because I like to see my woman happy...at the same time, ladies, it comes down to you as well, you have to be responsive and keep the desire for us to treat you that way... |
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Date: 8/13/2005 5:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Absolutely Shadow Bro....once we start settling for less we get less...and we need to appreciate those gestures when we have them and never take it for granted..I know firsthand what rotters some men can be....and now that I have a good one I'll never let him go.. |
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Date: 8/14/2005 9:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
lol i was talking to my dad about the military training you how to be chivalrous and he says it doesnt happen and he thinks if it does its only officers that go through this training for the fact theyre the only ones that have time to really worry about it. |
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Date: 8/14/2005 1:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61968
The military doesnt train you per say to be chivalrous, it teaches you respect, and how to conduct yourself as a gentleman. Its how the person incorporates that into who they are... |
Date: 8/15/2005 9:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
LOL Chivalry is dead because women killed it. -Beags  |
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Date: 8/15/2005 9:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
I need a mix. I need a manly gentleman who is chivalrous because he wants to take care of me- not because he feels he has to be to keep up with society. -Beags |
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Date: 8/15/2005 5:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 22080
lol tell the barracks rats out here on ft drum thats what the military was supposed to teach them considering most of them have it up with 16 year olds and theyre like........22 |
Date: 8/19/2005 7:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 61977
I like the pld fashioned type of man, even though I am not used to being treated well. I do have to disagree with the military teaching it's men on how to treat a woman. Military has nothing to do with it IMO it is all about values and morals. :P I just had to put in my two cents.  |
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Date: 8/20/2005 11:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
And your 2 cents holds much value here sis.... |
Date: 8/21/2005 12:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Shadow Tiger, I want both and hope the guy knows when the time is right to act the gentleman and when to act the caveman.  |
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Date: 8/21/2005 4:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
PENNY????!!!! Oh MYYYYYYY!!! *swoons and faints as I fan myself at such a risque statement by my sweet Penny!!* |
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Date: 8/21/2005 4:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
LOL GO Penny...woo-hoo!!! |
Date: 8/21/2005 5:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Xylanthia, being sweet doesn't mean I'm dead. LMBO. If I ever decide to enter the romance thing again (14 years without), then I want a guy that acts both ways and does windows. He also must think I am the ONLY woman in the world that can rock his world.  |
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Date: 8/21/2005 5:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 62100
LOL Penny..you most definitely ain't dead and you soooooo rock.... |
