Date: 7/19/2005 11:19:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62163
No offense to any stepmoms out there it's just this one women, my stepmom. - Mr.Nascar-  |
Date: 7/19/2005 11:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 61013
i have no clue i use to have that same problem but then i just stopped talkin to her and my dad  |
Date: 7/19/2005 11:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 23101
It looks to me like the problem is not your stepmom trying to get to you kids, but its your stepmom trying to get to your mother. Your MOM needs to be an adult and not play the game your STEPmom is playing. I really dont know what to say other than that though because my stepmom never tried to take the place of my mom and has always kinds stood her ground.. Good luck though! *hugs* -Ashley*  |
Date: 7/19/2005 11:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
LOL my dad has a crazy wife, too. My boyfriend makes me laugh by calling her my "evil new mommy." Crazy, indeed. -Beags  |
Date: 7/19/2005 12:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
Just try not to worry about it. Your step-mom may be terrible and she may deserve all of the crap that happens but by your mom getting offended, your step-mom is winning. Who does your sister want to have the party with? if you don't know ask her. Whoever she decides she doesn't want to do the party with, she should decline the baby shower. That's the best advice I can give you and I hope everything works out   |
Date: 7/19/2005 12:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 46530
So let me get this straight, your step-mother wants to arrange a party for her and your dad so that they can celebrate the birth of their grandchild (and step-grandchild) and you are against this simply because it is her?
I can see that if he has been overbearing in the past that you may see this as another attack on your mother but why not just organise one big one that everyone can come to? Surely your mum and step-mum can be genial for your sister's sake? If not then they're both as bad as each other.  |
Date: 7/19/2005 2:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
I agree with Ad...many times the parents and step-parents act more like children than the kids in the relationship, which ultimately makes things worse for the kids. There should be no competetion here..the parents should jointly throw a shower for your sis and put aside any problems amongst themselves for the sake of the new life that they are celebrating as well as for your sis....  |
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Date: 7/19/2005 2:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Also..perhaps your stepmom is genuinely taking a step forward and trying to do something nice and to be a part of your lives..don't knock her for it..and no offense to your mom but I know from experience (I was a teen with a stepmom too) that sometimes the "mom" can get hyped up just because the stepmom wants to be a part of the kids lives..and that they then pass that hyperness to the kids involved and make the kids feel as if the stepmom is trying "to take the place of" the mom...usually not true and can't happen anyway..your mom will ALWAYS be your mom..noone can change that..but you can be lucky enough to have a mom AND a stepmom..it only adds to your life in most cases..not taking away from...make up your own mind after getting to know the lady...keep an open mind..sometimes we make our decisions about step parents because we are hurt that our parent is with them and not our other parent and we close ourselves off and choose to hate them for something that really had nothing to do with them..the collapse of our parents marriage...as time passes you may find some pretty cool things about her..you never know until you try. |
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Date: 7/19/2005 2:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Read this Mr.Nascar if you want..I wrote it about my own stepmom whom I lost just about 4 years ago (in August it will have been 4 years)...I think it might help a little..my own mom even replied to it, you might be surprised by what she said.. |
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Date: 7/19/2005 2:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Well, here's how I see it. My brother recently had a baby with his girlfriend. My dad doesn't see them much, and they're not super close. One day, before Brady was born, Dad's wife asked me, "So am I a GRANDMA when the baby is born?" and I said (truthfully- not trying to be spiteful) "not really." So your step-mom's intentions kind of depend on whether or not she's close to your sister. Dad's wife was really offended when I said that, and wanted to know why she wouldn't be considered a grandma when my half-sister has her kids call my dad (her step-dad) "grandpa." I explained that it was because my half-sister considers my dad just as much a father as she does her own father, and that they are extremely close. -Beags |
Date: 7/19/2005 6:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 52155
Ad is a genius  |
Date: 7/19/2005 6:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 61966
Your sister is pregnant? I had no idea!! That's really exciting. Maybe you all should just have one big baby shower and invite everyone, that way no one is left out.  |
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Date: 7/19/2005 6:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
whoops..a link to what I wanted you to read would be nice right??? http://www.unsolvedmysteries.com/usm351118.html |
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Date: 7/20/2005 11:48:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62163
Little jung your right, and thats what I talked her into doing, so my mom isn't doing anything, and my mom has been back stabbed so many times she doesn't trust anyone but her sister me and my sister. - Mr.Nascar- |
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Date: 7/20/2005 11:50:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62163
Ad, your not seeing this through, my stepmom is trying to get to my mom through my sister and me. It's really complicated. My dad isn't even my sisters real dad. But me and him had a talk last night and he thinks it's my stepmom is doping it becasue she loves my dad and my dad loves my sister. - Mr.nascar- |
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Date: 7/20/2005 11:52:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62163
Crystal you have a great idea, and that way it would give my mom and stepmom a chance to become friends. Anyone seen the reba show? Between barbera jean and reba thats the way my mom and my step mom is. - Mr.Nascar- |
