Date: 4/24/2005 2:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Lauren, I wish i could but I don't think I'm assertive but am learning. I guess the more you do it with tact (that one is very hard for me), the easier it becomes, or so I'm told. I think the world needs more nicer people in it though. Hope you do get your promotion.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 2:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 10722
The sun is warm, the grass is green.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 2:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 3642
say what you need to say but in the most kindness and loving possible way ....that how but dont let other people even your boss dictate your morals they belong to you so follow your own heart in this matter first "The Big huge Industial way of Thinking is about do for a diffrent perspective " How great you were In The office will matter little after Your Dead .......what will count is how you treated your fellow human being _ and what kind of inviroment you created for your self and other around you ...Gods speed to Ya  |
Date: 4/24/2005 2:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 59418
lol, I wish I could help you but I'm the same way!  |
Date: 4/24/2005 3:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 18928
umm hang out with people who are nasty to you, & you'll get mean soon enough, lol I'm just kidding, some people just aren't mean in nature and I don't think you have to be "mean" to get what you want. Best of luck.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 6:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 5940
Hello PA! Long time eh?  Perhaps the library can be of help. There is a book titled "The One Minute Manager" by Kenneth Blanchard. It's not more than 100 pages or so, describes different personalities and different tools to help manage people. Give it a read, and I hope it's helpful.   |
Date: 4/24/2005 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 7574
Definitely asking the wrong person. I did make a girl cry once, but I only told her the truth. The truth hurts.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 9:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 54444
the conflict here is in thinking tht being assertive is equalivant to being mean. they are not the same at all. You can be assertive without being mean at all, which is the preferable manner.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 9:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 62752
i dont know it just comes to nature with me to be mean... good luck with it tho lol  |
Date: 4/24/2005 9:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 21435
Hello, Pixie Angel I'm with Man of Asgard on this one. Know your business (whatever that is) and be confident in "your" understanding and interpretation of things. You don't have to be "mean" and you don't have to stay mad. Know what is right and be firm in your dealings with others. You sound like a nice lady to me. Write on....  |
Date: 4/24/2005 9:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 23101
Lauren! Long time no talk girlie. Umm, I have no clue.. LOL.. I have never been in this situation before, so I dont know. *shrugs* Sowwy.. *hugs*  |
Date: 4/24/2005 11:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 56410
Be brutally honest. Do not give compliments, give criticism. Stop looking on the bright side and start noticing what's wrong with everything. These are the ways of a cynic, and this is how you make it to the top. Do not let people take advantage of you. Show them who's boss!  |
Date: 4/24/2005 12:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 25756
Being assertive is not mean. Being assertive means getting what you want or need, and having the other person (usually) readily agree and not think you're a (female dog). Ahem. So, I'd say actually go to the library and find a few books on being assertive. Just go to the library and do a little search on the computers. I'm actually reading a book that has to do with assertiveness for my psychology class. If I could remember the title, I'd tell you what it's called but I can't remember and I think it's at school. But there are plenty of books out there. And you could probably search online too! :-D Good luck!  |
Date: 4/24/2005 2:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
I'm the same exact way.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 3:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 42522
When you find out ways to be more aggresive, let me know! lol.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 3:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
It's pretty easy, let people walk all over you and discart you once their done. A few times of this and the niceness wears thin. I'm pretty much the same way tho, I'm about to give up on the niceness crap.  |
Date: 4/24/2005 4:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
If I knew the answer to THAT one believe me, alot more people would take me seriously!!   |
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