Date: 2/20/2005 12:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 59418
Aww Hun, I'm so sorry..What he did to you was terrible! After 3 years, you would think he'd have more respect for you than that! I know you must feel really terrible right now, but don't forget that none of what happenned is your fault...You did nothing wrong to him, and I'm sure you were a wonderful girlfriend to him! Don't go thinking that you broke up because of you, It's him...Seriously! He obviously wasnt mature enough to handle a serious relationship. One day, he'll look back and regret what he's done to you...What comes around goes around! I'm so sorry you've had to go through this....But it just wasn't meant to be...I promise you that you'll find someone who will love and respect you...Break-ups are hard, It's no wonder that you are depressed...Just give it time....*big hugs* If you want to talk, just message me!  |
Date: 2/20/2005 12:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Your first love is the hardest. I still talk to mine after 13 years. Theres nothing like it. But you do move on. Everything you are going through I've gone through and at the same age as well. Message me sometime, we'll talk. I truely know what you are going through.  |
Date: 2/20/2005 1:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
First heartbreak sucks.. and it's hard, but you'll move on.. take it from someone who thought she wouldn't.  |
Date: 2/20/2005 2:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 62915
Your friends didn't tell you as they were probably scared that you would get mad at them and stop talking to them. Its a hard situation to be put into. I don't think you are clinicly depressed as this was all due to a break up. The best thing you can dlo is move on and accept that this happened through no fault of your own. *hugs* Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 2/20/2005 3:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
Sorry to hear that happening. First heartbreaks are the hardest. It took me a long time to get over mind but eventually I moved on. Just give it time. Time will heal the wounds.   |
Date: 2/20/2005 4:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 11348
I went through the exact same thing you're going through and am still dealing with it. It's harsh, and not a lot is worse than realizing such a huge part of your life is not at all what you thought it was. Something like this can cause depression, but depression will stick with you for a long time. If this just recently happened, it might not have anything to do with depression... you might just be a normal person who is angry and hurt. If you need someone to talk to who knows exactly what you're going through, just message me. Hope things start looking up soon.  |
Date: 2/20/2005 4:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
I'm sorry. If it's any consolation, we've ALL been there...not that we've all been cheated on, but we've all had our hearts broken and you feel terrible and rotten and it sucks like no tomorrow, but eventually you feel better and move on. You just have to give yourself some time and have faith in the fact that one day you will wake up and you will feel happy again. Obviously this boy wasn't the right one for you...so GOOD that you've broken up. Somewhere down the line you will meet a guy who will treat you well and make you truly happy. Take this time to find other ways to make yourself happy. Now that you understand how important it is to maintain your friendships, you should try to reconnect with your old friends. And try making new friends. Whatever you do, try to avoid the rebound mistake...you know-- jumping into another relationship to make yourself feel better. You need time to heal.  |
Date: 2/20/2005 4:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 46515
Sweetie, you sure aren't alone....BELIEVE me. And even though it's so painful, understand this, You will get through this, because you're young, and have plenty of opportunities to see other guys who are so much more worthy of you. I mean that!  |
Date: 2/20/2005 5:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 63042
i'm so sorry you have to go through this!! i went through the same thing when i was 19-and the worst part was that he did it in front of people i knew that never told me, either. The world feels so cold when it seems there's no one to trust. Please move on from these people, and one day YOU will have the last laugh when you are in a happy relationship and he and your friends that let you continue with him will be miserable, because they'll still be screwing people over. (i hope that word doesn't get deleted, i can't think of a better one!) You will look back at this fork in your life and be glad you got out of it when you did. Hugz and good luck!! -asylem_supastar  |
Date: 2/20/2005 6:38:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31357
Thank you guys so much...you guys are all so wonderful!!  |
Date: 2/20/2005 7:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
The end of a relationship is not the end of the world, not matter how much it feels like it. A relationship is an addition to you but cannot consume you. That way, when the relationship is absent, you still have yourself left. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Don't let one thing ruin that. -  |
Date: 2/20/2005 9:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 19382
I empathise with you. A few months ago my relationship of nearly 4 years ended rather hard and cruely. Despite her expousings of love and fidelitey, and a proposal, she was infact not only cheating on me but engaged to the other person as well.  |
Date: 2/20/2005 10:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 62887
honestly...your friends probably never ment to hurt you. They may have tried to tip you off, but you never too a second glance at what they were saying. Most likely though, your friends didnt tell you because they knew that you wouldnt believe them. Since he was you boyfriend, he would have denied it, and then you would have only thought that they only said that to make you guys break up. Believe me. I actually told my best friend that her ex bf was cheating on her and she didnt talk to me for like 2 or 3 months. It probably hurts them now because they never told you. You really shouldn't jump to conclusions about the people who are going to be there for you now.  |
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Date: 2/20/2005 10:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 62887
Oh ya... I have another friend with a cheating bf and we may not tell her because we KNOW she wouldnt believe us. Everyone at school knows and shes blaming 1 of my friends for starting the "rumor" but she never did. She will not believe a word of what some people have already told her. She said flat out that "he's the man of her life and that they will get married and have kids. He would never cheat on her and people are only saying that stuff because they dont want to see them together." |
Date: 2/20/2005 10:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I am very sorry for your breakup...Just about every one here, if not every one has experienced First Love and Break-up, then Heartbreak...It will take time but it will pass., I know it desn't see like it at this present time.., but it will Pass..I Distinctly recall my First love or crush....Lookin back, I a very glad The relationship did not go anywhere...I would have been miserable...Try to think of it this way...if it is meant to be you will get back together...Yet do You want to take someone back who has Continuously Cheated on You??..Would You be Happy with hi after this? Could You Trust him?...Give yourself some time. to go through this and then...Love will happen again...Not by Appointment, either..Just remember that!...~Best Wishes, to You Always!~....T/C  |
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Date: 2/21/2005 3:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31357
Thanks everyone...yes i know that everyone goes through this, but right now it feels as if i am the only one..and i'm not sure where to start...how to get rid of the uncomfortablness that i feel with other people. |
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Date: 2/21/2005 3:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
I would get involved is some sort of activity or club, if I were you. (e.g. church, a local theater group, a volunteer organization)It may sound chintzy, but it truly is the best way to meet other people. |
