Date: 2/16/2005 6:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 48250
Grrrrrr be mean!!!! lol no no just kidding....I would just ignore it it sounds like she needs some kind of validation....of her self worth..I wouldn' say a word., but if there are time that you cannot pick her up or take her here or there because of your own schedule, I would not hesitate to let her know in a nice way...Best Wishes!!....T/C  |
Date: 2/16/2005 6:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 12118
You've got to put your foot down, even if it does sound mean. Let her know that you have better things to do than drive her around everywhere. If she only has $200 left for the week, she shouldn't be whining. After my car payments and all of my bills added together, I'll only have $30 left. AND I'm 18...I hate to see people who take advantage of others and won't do anything for themselves.  |
Date: 2/16/2005 6:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 42522
Yeah Aevel, by the time all my bills are paid, I barely have $40.00 left.  |
Date: 2/16/2005 7:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
Did my daughter write this? Sounds like a "friend" she has that only calls when she wants or needs something... Sigh... Hard to be Christlike on those days when you know you're being used...  |
Date: 2/16/2005 7:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 62579
Sounds like she is a pest. I would just tell her that you know that she talks about you and it hurts your feelings. Be kind because you can go a long way with kindness. Tell her that you get tired of driving her around and it is time for her to step up and do something for herself.  |
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Date: 2/16/2005 7:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 42522
It really is, Paula. |
Date: 2/16/2005 9:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 54963
I wouldn't put up with it! I would have ditched her from Hello.  |
Date: 2/16/2005 9:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Make plans so you can't take her home. If she follows you to your car just say that you have to go pick up a few things( in the opposite direction she wants to go) or come up with some creative excuses or ask her why she wants to ride with you when she is so critical of your driving skills. OR just say NOT TODAY...  |
Date: 2/16/2005 9:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 62872
Sometimes being tough is harder than others but just by reading this you SHOULD be mean she actually has the nerve to talk trash about you and critisize your driving how about her getting her license and driving herself and stop beating you down youve got an itch youve GOT to scratch!!!!....Thunder Wolf  |
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Date: 2/16/2005 9:27:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 42522
The thing is Candy Cane Child, is I've known her forever, and she really hasn't been mean to me otherwise. |
Date: 2/16/2005 10:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
okay, by driving her everywhere and being at her beck and call, you are allowing her to be dependent on you and she is never going to learn how to take care of herself this way, so you are hurting her more than you are helping her. So you shouldn't feel guilty if you turn her down for a ride. You have to toughen up and talk to her about this. Tell her that giving her a lift when you are on your way to work in the mornings is one thing, but you aren't going to come and get her whenever she wishes it anymore because you aren't a taxi service. She can learn to take the bus if she needs to get around. Also, insist that she pitch in for gas if she is going to car pool with you. Don't worry about looking mean. Remember, this is tough love.  |
Date: 2/16/2005 8:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
Well eventually mommmy and daddy are not going to be there and her friends are going to be sick of her and she will be crap out of luck! I say get rid of her ASAP! NOBODY needs a "friend" talking crap about them behind their back. If you find it hard to avoid her cause like you said youve known her for awhile, make up some lie..Like you have some type of previous engagement or something. If you need someone to talk to, message me!  ~~>  |
Date: 2/17/2005 1:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 60685
Who cares if she walks with you to the car, she can't go in unless you unlock the door right? Tell her you have other things to do during lunch time and taking her home would be out of your way, if she asks what it is you're gonna do you owe her no explanation, just say it's personal and book. And that's my nice way of doing things cause I would just flat out tell her what a drag it is to drive her anywhere. She doesn't wanna drive? Well, she IS working, suggest getting herself a taxi or a chauffeur, or have all your friends deny her a ride unless it is an emergency until she gets off her butt and gets her license and a car.  |
Date: 2/17/2005 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 42515
If I tell you once, I've told you 1,000 times, Don't be afraid to say NO. See thats the difference between you an me...you are afraid to say something and hurt someones feeling...I'm not...haha. But if you don't say something I WILL, and that won't be pretty...trust me.  |
Date: 3/1/2005 9:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
Sometimes, hun, you have to be cruel to be kind. She sounds like an ingrate. I might be a little meaner than you as a person, so if I'd been in your shoes, I wouldn't pick her up in the morning. You aren't obligated to her. You don't have to do anything for her if you don't want to. And if she talks trash about you, after all you do for her, she is't a real friend.  |
