Date: 2/10/2005 11:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 36901
You said it's been killing you for years, so I think it is a good idea. I think it will make you feel better having her last wish accomplished. You will be close to her and be able to talk to her as she wanted so I don't see it as being wrong in any way.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
I think it's a good thing, DMK. Keep in mind that burial, funerals and all that are really for the living, so you should do what will make your heart rest easy.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
Based on your writing, I think you would feel much better to have your mom close by.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
If it was your moms final wish.....I would do it.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 62876
I believe that you can talk to your loved ones no matter where you are, but it is what she wanted, and that is probably the part bugging you so bad.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11341
Thanks guys  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 62267
It was her wish. I don't think your mom would mind being dug up. At least you'd be able tyo talk to her. You can talk to her wherever you are but it was important.  |
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Date: 2/10/2005 12:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11341
Well, I just got off the phone with the Funeral Chapel. I'm going to bring my mom home. I just hope Im doing the right thing. |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 62675
I think in this case it is ok to unbury her and send her to you. UPS is a little freaky but what are you going to do fly out there and pick her up? It was her wishes and you will feel better if you can fulfill them. That is my opinion  |
Date: 2/10/2005 12:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 7574
I think it would be a fine thing to do if it brings you comfort.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 1:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 2030
I say do it, then you will never have to regret not doing it.  |
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Date: 2/10/2005 2:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11341
Thank you guys. It sounds strange but Im scared LOL and loosing my mind. |
Date: 2/10/2005 2:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 12072
I think you're making the right decision. Your mom is smiling that you want to respect her last wishes, and it's obvious you loved her very much. If moving her means comfort for you, I'm positive she would approve!  |
Date: 2/10/2005 3:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 61946
Yes, I do believe that it is ok, because it would be granting your moms final wish. I too am in the same situation, I buried my son and he was cremated and as soon as I have the money I plan on having him exumed so I can bring him home with me.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 3:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
If that were my mother, I would leave her where she is now buried. Nothing will be gained by moving her. Her soul is in heaven and so is her intelligence , her memories and her love for her family and she is happy where she is. You may not know this , but your mother already hears you when you speak to her and she can also see you.I would simply pay the bill and let it go at that. If it will help you, why not get her a small tombstone ? She is now finished with her mortal body and it is no longer of any interest to her... and she will never use it again. Do whatever will make you happy though DMK.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 3:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 38406
If that's what she wanted than do it. It will ease you pain. You need to ease your pain. Grant her wishes. I see no problem with having her grave closer to you so you can go and talk to you about your life problems and your happiness.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 3:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 12118
I think you should do it. If it's what she wanted and it will put your mind at ease after all these years, it'll do you alot of good.  *big hugs*  |
Date: 2/10/2005 4:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Do it sweetheart, I know how much you wanted to do this for your mother and it was your mothers wishes also...and then you can have some closure and move forward in your life, knowing you have done what mum wanted...bless you sweetheart...hugs  |
Date: 2/10/2005 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
i would do it, it was her final wish  |
Date: 2/10/2005 5:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 62915
I would do it. It was her wish and I am sure ti will help you too Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 2/10/2005 5:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
If it'll make you feel better, do it  |
Date: 2/10/2005 6:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
Hon, I talk to my mom, dad and brothers that have died everywhere and anytime and not just at their graves. I still believe death is just another door into another existance. Death to me means thatit isn't over for there is no end. But if it's upsetting you that you think you couldn't do her final request at the time and need to do it while you have the money, then do what will make you feel best. Sometimes just taking the dirt from the place she is buried is enough for our shells return to dust anyway. It used to bother me about where we went when we died but now, I know the real us never dies - we are like the gentle wind that caresses your cheek, the falling rain that annoints your head, we are in the very air around you. That's my belief and it helps me sleep at night. Hugs. You will make the right decision in the end DMK.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 6:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
I see by your comments that your going to be able to bring your mom home. My mom is in a golden box that was bought for her and the other side is for dad when he passes. Right now my daughter kate, has control of mom, kate was her favorite. But then my grandson jesse said he was taking grandma to texas with him. I don't think kate is going to turn loose of grandma. I know that you would feel better once your mom is with you. And there is nothing wrong with digging her up. Cause remember your mom is spirit now and Im thinking that even if ya hadn't had her shipped to you, that you could still talk to her. I do my mom even tho kate has her. Ya know the bible says there is a great cloud of witnesses watching us. And so I beleive that no matter your mom HAS always been with you. She is with you in memories and nothing can take that away.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 7:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
If you feel good about it, that's all that counts.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 9:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
You are making her final wish be granted you did the right thing. She is probbly happy about the dession you made.  |
Date: 2/10/2005 9:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
I don't see a problem with bringing her home to you especially if that's what her wishes were. Do what you feel you need to do to bring closure to the situation.  |
Date: 2/11/2005 1:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 19460
It was her last wish...do it! It would put your mind to rest about her being so far away and you would know she got what she wanted.  |
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Date: 2/11/2005 3:15:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11341
Thank you everyone |
