Date: 1/12/2005 5:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 20579
Well even though that shed no life on what it could be about. thinking of yourself isn't selfish unless you do it all the time. We all have to make decisons in our life that will change us. All I can say is stop thinking like that and start thinking of yourself because your 18 which means soon you will be on your own and have to make decisons based on what you feel is right. I hope everything works out for the best though  |
Date: 1/12/2005 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 63015
I dont know what to say...but I really hope you figure this all out -VampyreBlood-  |
Date: 1/12/2005 5:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
see, I would tell the story, but people have threatened to attack me if I do.  |
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Date: 1/12/2005 5:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
(more of word attacks, but it'll hurt me just the same) |
Date: 1/12/2005 5:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 55251
Sometimes the hardest decisions in life are the ones we have to make our selves. To be honest I'm not sure what decision you are trying to deside on but no matter what happens I have faith that everything will be alright and turn out fine. Always There,  |
Date: 1/12/2005 5:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
do what you have to do to be happy  |
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Date: 1/12/2005 5:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 1799
even if it hurts other people? |
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Date: 1/12/2005 5:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
that may depend, without knowing the details, it's hard to give advice |
Date: 1/12/2005 5:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 55967
I've been there. I'm 39 now. Let me tell you that the reason you feel this way is because of conditioning; it's not because it's really wrong to put yourself first. You will learn to put yourself first in life, and the best time to start is now. It is NOT selfish; your decisions at 18 are NOT going to be detrimental to ANYONE (unless you have a child who depends on you). Even if others think they are detrimental to themselves and even tell you that, they are NOT. You are not in a position to make decisions that will really and truly hurt other people. Now. Even if your decisions might be wrong, go for it. Making mistakes is the best way to learn. These are all things you can see as you grow older. Like I said, I know about this stuff because I've been where you are, and I worked hard at overcoming guilt and so on. Begin holding and controlling your own life.  |
Date: 1/12/2005 6:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 46069
Base is right... its time to put yourself first for once  |
Date: 1/12/2005 6:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
Yes, even if it hurts other people, Emi. Those are the hardest ones to make, but usually the most necessary.  |
Date: 1/12/2005 6:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 5229
Emi, sometimes in our lives we have to hurt people to make ourselves happy. If you spend your whole life pleasing others, you will be unhappy over your own situation in the long run. Don't ever feel that its selfish to do what is right for you. It is a dog eat dog world, and you need to worry about yourself - I know its hard, but it isn't selfish in anyway whatsoever. Good luck on making the decision.  |
Date: 1/12/2005 6:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 62915
I agreee I have a friend who constantly puts other first. It meant she was in an unhappy relationship for 3 years because she didnt want to hurt him. Meanwhile she was miserable. She doesn't want to take courses in school she wants to because her mom doesnt want her to. All in all she gets pretty miserable and complains a lot .... why? Because she never thinks of herself. In order to make the people around you happy you need to be happy yourself. *hugs* I wish you all the best Emi Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 1/12/2005 7:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 62880
Honey. You have to choose from your heart. All of decisions lie in the heart. Choose what you think is best for you and that will be the overall choice. God Bless. Much Love.  |
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Date: 1/12/2005 8:37:00 PM ( Admin-FA )
EMI! *hugs* You are always putting yourself first, A-L-W-A-Y-S. It's not selfish to put Emi first before other people. You need to sometimes put yourself first anyways in some situations. Don't do something just because other people don't want you to do it or whatever. Whatever Emi wants to do, Emi should do for herself, not for others. *HUGS* |
Date: 1/12/2005 8:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 8024
I believe you'll make the right decision emi ...follow your heart ...c  |
