Date: 12/30/2004 6:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
I know how much you love him and I'm sorry things didn't work out. But as long as he has a trust issue, things will be hard. I say bring Devan over to his house, introduce them, and say, "thanks for always trusting me." Then calmly walk away and let him gnaw on that for a while.  |
Date: 12/30/2004 6:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 14780
As hard as this sounds if a relationship does not have trust it will never work, never! Now, you can express your feelings and talk with him but if he strongly wants to move(which I doubt) than let him go. I do however believe that in a few days or a week things will work itself out for the best. You will see in time.  |
Date: 12/30/2004 6:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
JMO if he can't trust you and interrogates you every time you go out...that is NOT a good relationship. I know you hurt now, but time will ease the pain and you WILL find someone who trusts you!..  |
Date: 12/30/2004 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
I agree with EVERYONE'S comment up above..You cant have a relationship with someone who acts this way.  |
Date: 12/30/2004 6:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50294
but what if he changes? or at least trys to?  |
Date: 12/30/2004 6:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 19382
Then great, go for it. But please always be honest with him (and I hope he's always honest with you). I was lied to for a long time (try 2 or more years) and it hurt so much, so I know how it feels. He's very lucky that you're telling the truth about this friend and that you're honestly in love with him. But if he can't see that, then it's his loss in the end.  |
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Date: 12/30/2004 7:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50294
yah, we just talked and just told each other we loved each other and everything....but hes still leaving. so. im gonna go fall to pieces, thank you all for your advice. |
Date: 12/30/2004 7:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 48758
Hmmm...I agree with everyone...I think you should try Oddsmell's suggestion and see how he likes it...  |
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Date: 12/30/2004 7:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 19382
"told each other we loved each other and everything....but hes still leaving" Then he's an idiot. |
Date: 12/30/2004 7:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
To an extent, I'm the same way... Boy, kind of an eye opener. -  |
Date: 12/30/2004 8:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 35453
DON'T LET HIM GO!!!! I've been there, you will always wonder how things would have turned out even if you do move on.  |
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Date: 12/30/2004 8:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 19382
P&C, sometimes you have to. I didn't want to let my ex go, and I WILL always wonder what would have been if we had worked out, but she wants nothing to do with me, and that's for the best I guess. Though it seems to me that this guy may just be looking for you to chase him a bit. Try and make it DAM* clear you want him to stay there with you. But as I said, if he does leave, he's a bloody idiot. You will move on either way, despite the hurt. I wish you the best of luck whichever direction this fork takes you. |
Date: 12/30/2004 9:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
 Man that was sad, it kinda almost made me cry a bit :'( I am so sorry you lost him. the only advice I can give you is maybe let him met Devan, let him see that your friend really is a girl. He might think you got one of your girlfriends to pretend for you, if he dose think that then it means he really dose not trust you. And he needs to get a reality cheack or he has lost you. good luck with him.  |
Date: 12/31/2004 6:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 56489
I would say, why don't you introduce him to your friend Devine so he knows your not lying. But in the same respect why would he assume Devine was a guy. It's obvious you care deeply for the guy, it all depends how well you can or wan't to cope with his insecurities. You said yourself you don't want to be questioned everytime you go out, but if you love'em you'll tolerate it. But it gets old fast. But I would show him he's definately wrong with his assumption.  |
