Date: 12/9/2004 12:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
You sound like me, actually just too nice, you have to be mean sometimes to get stuff done.  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 12:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
I think if you want some action done you have to enevitably let the other person know that there is a problem. |
Date: 12/9/2004 12:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
there is a difference between pointing it out to them and belittling them. take them aside and discuss what it is that is driving you nuts without being accusatory.  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 1:00:00 PM ( Admin )
Sometimes you can send them a letter with no return address. |
Date: 12/9/2004 1:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
i hope not. my fiance has a very bad habit of burping in public, sometimes very loud. i have been working on him for a year now to stop doing it so loudly. that he should do it with his mouth closed and quietly. but nooooooooooo, he has to be so gross and do it loud enough to wake the dead. i just cant make him understand its embarrassing when he does that. at home its one thing, but out in public its a whole nother matter,lol.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 1:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
It's bad manners to point out another's bad manners in front of others. I don't see a problem with pulling a friend aside and letting them know NICELY that some of the things they do are considered rude or tactless..  |
Date: 12/9/2004 1:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
LadyLuck put it perfectly.  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 1:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
As did Magoo... |
Date: 12/9/2004 2:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 28670
I think it's bad manners if you are rude about it, of course, but keep in mind that people are more receptive to tact and courtesy. They respond in a positive way and have less of a chance of getting upset.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 2:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
If you pull someone aside and discreetly point out their error in manners, that would not be rude. If you ridicule someone in front of a group for their manners then I think that you have yourself violated a number of Emily Posts rules.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 8:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
You have to find a polite way of being impolite..LOL.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 8:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 53558
I agree with LSR...  |
Date: 12/10/2004 8:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 62682
Admin had a good idea.... Thats what i would do. Good thinking.  |
Date: 12/10/2004 11:13:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 52746
Aww, she'd know it was from me from the postmark. I'd have to drive to a different county in order to do that.  |
Date: 5/14/2005 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
This is an excellent post and I like the answers. But Ladyluck, what if you did that and then they got angry and called the friendship quits? I am at the point of never saying anything constructive, even when my opinion is asked.  |
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Date: 5/21/2005 10:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 52746
That's also a very good point, Penny and I also fear just the same thing. |
