Date: 12/9/2004 9:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 3901
I'm not going to college. I know im not ready yet and it just wouldnt be worth the money. I say go as a mature student in a few years if you arent ready now.. then you're life is more sorted out snd things are clearer for you. I hope things work out for you.  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 36700
She probably just wants best for you and feels a college education will help you in your future. It's your life, do what you want, but you hate your life over this????? |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:16:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
No I hate my life because I don't think I make my feller happy no more, my parents hate me and i hate myself and I am depressed all the time and I just feel I have no meaning in life. :-)  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 36700
You said on a comment last night, he was going to ask you to marry him soon, but you don't think you make him happy, your parents hate you? a little on the dramatic side don't you think |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:22:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
He said he was going to but I still dont think he is as happy with me as he use to be. |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:23:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
No I am not on the dramatic side...you'd be bitter if you were me too...not 1 friend in the world...spend your weekends on the computer...social anxiety disorder... |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Two questions. 1.) Why do you not want to go to college? 2.) If you hate your life so much, why don't you stop you negative internal dialogue and make your life one that you like?  |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 16845
Hun if your not ready. Don't go.....college isn't to impress everyone and anyone you know, and you don't go to please them. Alot of people take some time off before going (If they ever do) and theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. I know there are many people who actually recommend taking a year off to get a better grasp on life before entering college....I'd just sit downa and tell your mom your not completely closing the door to college...your just not ready yet....and give her your plans for the future IE: Gonna work blah blah blah blah blah.  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
1. College is not for me....2. My life just is not a positive one...I feel like a bitter old lady all the time and never have any energy and everyone thinks I am nothing...I just don't feel up and at-em today...very depressed. |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 36700
No, actually I wouldn't be bitter, I'd make the best of the life I had. |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:26:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
Josh is even after me over it now...told em if I didn't go to school right after high school I'd never go I've heard it all now lol. |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:26:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
I've tried. |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 44321
You need to make yourself happy first before you try to please everyone around you.. Live life for you the way you choose and what will work for you, life will not be the best if you live to please everyone but forget the most important one YOU..There are other options after High School besides college, trade school things like that..Hang in there nobody can live your life for you in the end but yourself.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
Thanks Medusa.
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
I agree with Becky here, whole heartedly. If your mother isnt going to be the mature one, then you need to be the 'adult' and sit down with her and explain to her that you aren't ready for college yet. I will say though, and you may not like this, but its the truth. I suffered from Social Anxiety Disorder for a long while when I was younger. It wasnt until my mother and family finally got blunt with me, and told me "ONLY I COULD CHANGE WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH". It's true.. Get yourself out of that house, and find a hobby or something to get release your stress. The longer you allow yourself to be withdrawn, the longer the depression and discontent for everything will last. Some may not agree with me there, but I have lived it, and I made myself get out of bed, and even if it was for a few hours, Go Somewhere. Sometimes it was a walk around the block, or to the mall. Either way, I found something that I enjoyed doing for ME, not for anyone else. Something that released me from the introverted ways that I had become accustomed to. My something happened to be Karaoke. After I conquered those fears of the anxiety of being out in public, I was able to really focus on my own happiness and rebuilding it. No one can make you happy, you have to do that yourself. While you are down though, like you are, it will bleed over to everyone you care about, and they DONT understand what you are feeling. There is no way for you to explain to them how you are feeling, but for your own sake, and sanity you and you alone have to conquer it. It starts with not feeling sorry for yourself, standing up and doing something you normally wouldn't. In this case, it would be to stand up and maturely tell your mother and father that you arent ready for college, and you arent sure you will ever be because you feel its not your path. I will suggest for ya not to totally exclude the idea, though cause in a few years your mind may change, and then if that happens Go for it. Good luck with this Freaq, and I hope you dont take what I say as harsh, I dont mean it in that way. Its just the most honest way I can relay this.  There is always a silver lining to every cloud, you just have to search it out. *huge hugs*  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 9:58:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
Hey I do karaoke there is just no where to go around here to do it. Being in front of a crowd and singing doesn't bother me at all. I just can't talk to people like most people can. Thanks for the advice. |
Date: 12/9/2004 10:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 12453
Ya have to go to school, go to Somerset, Josh Adkins is even passing  |
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Date: 12/9/2004 10:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 12453
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Date: 12/9/2004 11:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
It's your life Freaq. Your parents can push you all they want, but in the end you're going to be an adult and they won't be able to force you to do something that you don't want to, so the stark truth of the matter is that your future is completely in your hands now. And you shouldn't do something if your heart isn't in it and, as many other people have said, college isn't for everyone and there's nothing wrong, even, with taking a year or two off before you apply. I do have to ask you two questions, however. one-- what's your plan for yourself? You don't have to attend college, but you do need to set goals for yourself, and have some sort of plan for what you're going to do with yourself over the next few years, or else you're going to end up living in your parents' house forever and going absolutely nowhere with your life, and nothing's worse than that. Secondly-- what's your reason for not wanting to attend college? I know you mentioned in another post that you wanted to settle down and start a family right away, but I have to wonder (especially since there's no reason why attending college for a couple years would interfere with being a stay at home mom) if the true problem isn't your anxiety, and if you aren't using the other stuff as an excuse not to deal with it. All I can say to that is, you can't run away from your problems forever. You're going to have to learn to deal with people one way or another-- especially as a mother. In addition to your own children, you're going to have to interact with other people's children, parents, teachers, etc. College would actually be excellent training for that.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 11:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 62876
Hi Freaq! I agree with Mollycat. If you do love children and even if you want to stay at home with them you could go to school for child development. As sad as it is, in today's society you HAVE to have something to fall back on - it is like having an insurance policy. I have seen the best of my friends go through painful divorces 10-15 years after they got married, and had they not had a decent eduction, they would be flipping burgers. I have nothing against flipping burgers, but it makes it difficult to feed a family on what burger joints pay. I am not trying to give you a lecture - I am sure you hear enough of that from your mom. This is a very difficult time you are going through - (in between high school and college) I remember having a huge identity crisis, but in my situation, I had to fight my family to GO to school. They were completely unsupportive of my decision to go to college. Your mom sounds like she cares a great deal about you to be so concerned for your future. Take care! I hope something comes along to make your decision easier :> ...HipChik  |
Date: 12/9/2004 12:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
you need to talk to her.. i know the feeling i did NOT want to go to college/university... i think there is too much pressure for kids to go it's automatically assumed that you will do extended education now a days... tell her you want to take a few years off to find yourself.. so you dont feel like your making a mistake paying a large amount of money for an education you hate but in this time off figure out what you want to do with your life... after you graduate you have to work.. you have to do something.. you have to be independant.. that is what being an adult it.. remind her of those things tell her you will go and get education in something once you figure out what you want to do with your life.. but you want a few years to live it to figure out what you want to do....(this is probably a touch long winded) you and your mom need to have the talk... goodluck  |
Date: 12/9/2004 1:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
don't live your life to make others happy, live it to make you happy. No one can make you sad except you. tell your mom to back off and allow you time to grow.  |
Date: 12/9/2004 8:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Listen hunny, what do you want to do??? if you dont know now...sit down and think about it...if you are not feeling ready for college now, tell your mother and tell her what YOU would like to do....your mother is most probably just thinking of your future hun, but sometimes us mums are not always right but..and I say BUT...in the sense that you will have to give her your reasons for not wanting to attend college...have you other plans?? and as far as you feeling depressed and hating life in general, have you got someone else in your family to talk your problems out with if you cannot talk with your mum???...leave it for a couple of days, then ask your mum to sit down as you want to have a good talk with her...and tell her what you think is right for you.....hugs  |
Date: 12/9/2004 9:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
I think that everyone here said it best...college is not like high school, you have to be focused and set on a goal..if you don't have that you are not going to be successful. So, think about what you want for your life, what you want to do..and get out there and do it. Even if you don't go to college, you do need a plan for your life.  |
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Date: 12/10/2004 7:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 12453
u have a friend in me, u have a friend in me...now i'm gonna have to watch toy story to learn the whole song. just cuz im ur cousin don't mean i ain't ye friend |
Date: 12/13/2004 4:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 62917
Have you thought more about college since you posted this? ~frobbins~  |
