|
Date: 10/31/2004 1:48:00 PM ( Admin )
I think that your mom wants for you what she would want for herself given a another chance with what she knows now but, we all have to learn by going through it once at least. Your doing the right thing by not resenting her for her views. Love your mother as much as you can for as long as you can because someday... and besides she will be there long after your friends have gone off to do their own thing. |
Date: 10/31/2004 1:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 61901
Maybe its not about you at all. Your mother may have issues you know nothing about. It sounds like a control issue.  |
Date: 10/31/2004 2:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
She's your Mom..that's what Moms do hon. She wants you to have so much more and be so much more than she ever was. Sometimes we go a bit overboard trying to get that point across. Just let her know you love her and that you understand where she is coming from and remind her that she found HER way, and now its time for you to find YOUR way. It's going to be hard for her..I promise (I'm a Mom..LOL) but eventually when you continue to do well and show her that you are finding your way just fine she will let up and be proud of the YOU that you have become.  |
Date: 11/1/2004 2:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
I myself somtimes fell this way with my mother, she called me a stupid child all the time with I was a little girl, it hurt alot. it is a long story. but I think you should tell her exactly what you told us that you love her but you are unhappy with the way she treats you and your friends. something in her life could be lacking, maybe that is why she has the need to put down her daughter. my mother goes though her ups and downs somtimes she is the sweetest thing others she is getting ready to bite my head of. she never admitsw it though. Your mother is probbly projecting her own insucurety onto you in some ways, I am not emaning to affend you or your mother but it is looking like it. telling her about you and how you feel will get things straight but one other wya to get to the bottom of the matter is if you ask her a few qwestions about her she might get stressed about that and might get affended so maybe not you know your mother way better than I do so you can judge if my advice is good or not. good luck with your mother.  |
Date: 11/1/2004 11:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 62915
Good luck with this  I can't think of anything insightful to say as everyone seems to have said this Please stay true to yourself, she may never accept you but you may have to accept the fact that she won't Goos luck once again. Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 11/2/2004 9:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
we all want more and better for our kids than what we had. your mother is older and wiser. maybe she sees something in your friends that you just can't see. it happened with my daughter. and she hates it when she has to say i was right about somebody!! (i love it!) i think you said it yourself. mom doesn't want you to grow up. that tells me you are still in school and in mom's home. like it or not you have to mind your mommy. i'm not saying let her choose your friends. if she don't like them don't have them to her house. my kid had to move out and live on her own for 6 months before she realized we were right about a lot of things. i think it helped her to grow up too. just mind your mom, respect and obey the rules of her house and when you get your own house you can do what you want.  |
Date: 11/3/2004 7:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
My mom is alot like that too and I'm 45 years old. The other day I took her to run some errands and she told me how to drive and where to park and how what I should buy at the store on sale and what I should order for lunch. *sigh* Some mothers are too critical. My opinion about your situation is your mother is a controling person. She can't help it. She thinks that as long as you are her child she has a right to judge like this. There is nothing you can do to change it. Do what I do. Ignore it and when it gets to be too much go somewhere private and scream obsenities at your mother where no one in the world can hear you. *smiles* It's better than hurting her feelings, right?  |
42522 Category:(General Advice) Created:(10/31/2004 1:43:00 PM)