Date: 10/29/2004 7:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 62739
Your psychic says, "You have choosen wisely." With sincere love ~Russel~  |
Date: 10/29/2004 8:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 50434
Its natural to hurt, you 2 spent so much time together. Your love for each other seems strong and its good to see you 2 can remaim friends, who knows if its really meant to be maybe yall will get back together. It might be good this way seeing you said "Not only was it not exciting, but we NEVER did anything romantic or special. I got to the point where I didn't even enjoy kissing him and stuff". Before actually breaking it off did you guys think about just a simple break from each other? Well good luck and the best for you both, take care and <<<<<HUGZ>>>>  |
Date: 10/29/2004 8:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Sounds Like you may love him more than you realized... If that is the case, then maybe you need to sit down, and talk with him.. Tell him why you had the notion that breaking up was best.. And tell him what you feel has changed, and what you would like to see be worked on. Sometimes things like this happen to make us learn, through a trial and error type situation. It definitely sounds like though, that you are very confused, and you know, thats ok. He may be just as confused as you are.. My suggestion is to sit down, talk to him about it all, and then decide from there where to go. Don't just stick by your first decision just because you want to be resolute, be willing to work on things yourself as well. Im sure there are/were things that he wanted you to work on too, but maybe wasnt able to talk about it, Until now.  We aren't perfect, relationships aren't always a bed of roses. You say that the reason you broke up, is because it isnt exciting anymore, Well sweety, relationships are hard work. They arent Always going to be exciting, UNLESS you BOTH work on it. He may not be romantic anymore, but life isnt like T.V. Especially when ya are living in the real world, there is work, stress, bills, and when all that is done with at the end of the day, sometimes it is extremely hard to find the Romance, because you're just too tired. Those are not reasons to really break up with someone if you love them... Now, if you didnt love him, or he was abusing you, or cheating on you, or just being an all jerk to you, or things were just at an impass and problems cannot be fixed at all, then THOSE are reasons to break up with someone... It sounds like you are insecure with your feelings, which you are still young hun, and probably jumped into living together way too soon. Maybe starting the WHOLE relationship over, and going SLOW and learning to grow together before moving in and trying to play house, then it may work. Thats my advice.. If you love him, it deserves a second chance.. *huge hugs*  |
Date: 10/29/2004 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 18460
I believe this is all normal.. you are at a stage that you feel torn between your decisions and feelings.. let me ask you this, have you thought about the consequences of your decision before breaking it all off? if you had done that before, i would say it won't be as hard on you as you are experiencing right now  think it through.. but it won't help if talk to him all the time at this point, you first have to accept that he is gone in your life first and stop the hurting then rebuild your friendship... *hugs* i felt this too and it hurts really... though 2nd chance is not a bad idea either... both of you should be making the decision... you are not the only one in the relationship... good luck!  |
Date: 10/29/2004 11:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
I was the exact same way!! My bf n I broke up on Aug 4th, and I landed in the hospital for 3 days after that with a panic attack n I stopped eating, drinking, sleeping, I was making myself sick, I didnt want to go to skool, everything that could go wrong....did. Then, nearly a month later, we talked it out, I had to lay down some rules cause I didnt want to get heart broken again if I didnt, and on the 11th of sept he aked me out again. It feels like we're a new couple, still in love, huggs and kisses every day, lil i love yous here n there, it feels so brand new. We kept our old anna, date so we celebrated our 5 month anna yesterday and it seems like the love with never die. Maybe you guys just need some time to be away from eachother then get back together. Date around maybe. I dated another guy for a week and ended up regreting it cause all I thought about was my x-bf the whole time. Maybe some time apart will only strengthen your relationship n show him that this is what u need n want n if he loves you, he'll come back :-) Good luck :-)  |
Date: 10/30/2004 1:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
it is hard to lose someone even when they have abused you badly, what your feeling is normal give yourself a few more days rember you have only broken away from him for less than a week. you are just concerned for your friend watching a friend hurt is painfull he classifis as a powerfull friend. take good care of your friend but give you and him some time to heal apart.  |
Date: 10/31/2004 1:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I read both of your posts, and you are being wayyyy too harsh on yourself. Yeah, he's hurt, but you know what would have been worse? If you stayed with him and led him on, knowing that he wasn't The One. You weren't happy, things weren't going well, and you left to find bigger and better things. Don't let him make you feel guilty. You were honest and upfront about your feelings, and that's a lot more than a lot of people get in relationships. It's better to leave ASAP when you know things aren't going anywhere, because then things don't have a chance to get ugly. Even if he didn't do anything wrong, there is no reason to stay in a relationship where you are not truly satisfied. That isn't fair to either of you. Now you both can go out into the world and find the people you are really supposed to be with. Don't get tripped out over the fact that you miss not having him around, yes it will take some time to get used to, but it doesn't mean anything. You are just adjusting to having him not there anymore after so long. Stop beating yourself up. Any more time you spent in the relationship would have been a waste. I've done that before, and thought "Well, I've already put so much time into this, so I'd better stick it out" Wrong. You did the right thing  |
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