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Date: 10/19/2004 1:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 58611
You should break up with them both. Neither one of them deserve to be played with like that. If you really truley loved your boyfriend that you live with you would have never gotten yourself involved in any way with another guy.  |
Date: 10/19/2004 1:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
i think you need to put both relationships aside and have some time for yourself, and truely think of what you really want out of a relationship..you dont deserve to be treated bad, and neither does these two guys that are both going thru this..really think what you want.  |
Date: 10/19/2004 1:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
A true relationship is about both partners treating each other with respect. You're making sacrifices for him (including sacricificing your self-respect!) and getting nothing in return. This guy is an emotional abuser,. and the other guy doesn't sound any better. Walk out now, before it gets worse!  |
Date: 10/19/2004 2:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Only you know whats in your heart. No one can tell you what to do. If your boyfriend treats you badly you need to leave him.  |
Date: 10/19/2004 4:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 62184
It seems to be like you're afraid of being alone, which isn't that good. If your boyfriend treats you bad, then you really need to talk to him about it. You need to get everything you have to say off your chest. You also can't lead your other friend on in the process of still being with your boyfriend. Tell him for now that things are crazy and you want to be friends. Remind him that there is a good chance of you and him going out because you do like him, but you can't do anything now because of your boyfriend. With your boyfriend's unwanted comments, does he know it bothers you? Have you brought it to his attention? If you have and he still continues, tell him that you can't be with someone who is putting you down or whatever he's doing that you find disrespectful. I went through the exact same situation with my ex boyfriend. We got along great a lot of the time, but sometimes he made comments like I need to lose weight or I look really ugly or I need more friends because I can't always rely on him or that I'm not good enough to hang out with his friends because I'm not the greatest looking girl and he wouldn't wanna be seen with me when there's a bunch of girls he'd be hanging out with. He had a major anger problem and he seemed to take it out on me most of the time. I did find someone new though. Unfortunately, I did take my ex boyfriend's comments seriously and did a lot of drastic things to change myself. Anyway, if your boyfriend says anything like what my ex did.. consider ending the relationship. Anywho, I'm babbling, so I'll just stop now..lol. If there's anything you want help with or any other details you wanna add, you can message me. I'd be happy to help! Good luck!  |
Date: 10/19/2004 7:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 62915
I agree with Vivki Tweeti. My friend was in the same position and she was very lucky her bf took her back! Have time to yourself and you will see what you want more clearly. Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 10/20/2004 8:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 28363
I need to read better - This says this is your friends delima and not your situation. In this day and age all the lines are crossed and old ways do not apply to some people. I wish I could help but this is out of my league. If I was to guess about an answer... I would say that your friend should not be living with a boyfriend and dating/ having feelings for another person. I would think she should ask her live-in boyfriend to leave, then date (platonically) until she receives a commitment/engagement. I know that's not a popular response in today's have-it-all world but that's the way I was raised. I wish your friend good luck.  |
Date: 10/20/2004 3:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
wow this is exactilly the same as another post I read http://www.unsolvedmysteries.com/usm397256.html  |
Date: 10/21/2004 10:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 19345
If your heart isn't totally in it I think you already have your answer, not fair to either of you if your half in a realtionship you both deserve better no?  |
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