Date: 10/14/2004 2:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 24319
One of my pet peeves. I can understand maybe 1, 2 times, 3 at the max of not calling. But, is it really that hard to make a 1 minute phone call to say "Hey, I won't be able to make it. Sorry." Nope. It's not. What *I* would say is ship up or ship out. BUT, when I get mad and hurt I tend to yell and lecture then talk it out, lol. I guess, try talking to him about it again. Ask him why he does it and so on and so forth..  |
Date: 10/14/2004 2:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 62901
Hun, I was really trying to think of something I could tell you that could possibly help. But the only thing I could think of you said you've already done... sitting down and having a long talk with him. Sorry...*hugs* Rachel aka Dolphin Glitz  |
Date: 10/14/2004 3:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 62184
I had this happen with past boyfriends of mine. I went over to his house when he was least expecting me. I didn't ask for a "can I come in," I simply said 'we need to talk'. I told him everything that was on my mind, how it made me feel, and I let him know that I care about him but I want someone I can rely on and if I can't rely on him then something has to change. I didn't settle for any little excuse. It had to come out meaninful. I stood my ground, and no matter how he acted, I stayed that way. If your guy is a good one, then he'll do something about it. That's just what I did. Good luck!  |
Date: 10/14/2004 8:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
oh, i've been here. the last guy i was with, he did it over and over again. i warned him but i really didn't keep my warning that much. i was very leniant. he always knew i would forgive him. that was one of my faults with him i wish i didn't have. he would tell me he'd be coming home and he wouldn't or he'd say he'd do this or that with me that night and go out with his friends. i should have never put up with it, but i did. i learned that i can't deal with that in a relationship and i'm not going to tolerate it in the next one. he'd always give me the excuse that he couldn't get to a phone or whatever but i knew he could have. my advice is, don't tolerate it. it looks like he's walking all over you and that doesn't need to happen. i let myself get walked all over on and like i said, it was a mistake i shouldn't have made. i guess i just didn't want to cause conflict. he definitely needs to have more respect for you. get the lock down on him before he keeps it up. tell him like it is or he can just go. if he can't respect you like that, he's not worth it. someone else definitely is.  |
Date: 10/15/2004 7:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 62917
Ive had that happen to me from time to time with my ex husband, the last time it happened he didnt come home from work and It was going on 4 hrs that he should have been home which is the longest he had stayed out and not called. Not to mention I had to go to work and he had the car! I dragged his dad to take me to look for him, We got to where he worked and his boss was just leaving. His boss told me that they got caught up in a discussion and not to lecture him. He just left 10 mins ago. This was at 10:30 at night. I was fuming! I got home and laid into him like a ton of bricks, which must have knocked some scense into him as that was the last time he did that. So stand up to him and make it known that you will no longer put up with that nonsense! Hope this helps.  ~frobbins~  |
Date: 10/15/2004 6:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Absolutely. I went out with a guy who was always right on time with his friends, family, and work. Well, he was usually late with me! One day, we were talking and I let him know (casually) that my pet peeve is people who keep me waiting, and that I don't care if people are late as long as they call to tell me. He said he understood and that if he was even 20 minutes late for our 12 pm date the next day, he was going to call. Guess what? He rolls around at 2:30pm! I knew that if I threw a fit, nothing was going to be accomplished, and so I did what I think was the best power move ever. I calmly pointed out that he was supposed to have been at my house at 12, and that if he has really wanted to see me, he would have been there. I told him, "Now is not a good time for me. I don't feel like spending time with you today. You can go home now" You should have seen the look on his face! He said okay reluctantly, then sllllooowly went for the door, looking back to see if I was going to call him to come back. I didn't. He left my house. And you know what? He NEVER pulled that again! And you should have seen how kiss-butt he was the next few days after that. From that day on, I have made the rule that if someone is half an hour late to pick me up without calling, I make other plans. That gets the message across wayyy better than whining, and makes the other person feel a lot guiltier and fearful that they are going to lose you if they don't smarten up. Trust me. Don't let this guy walk all over you  |
Date: 10/16/2004 8:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 13979
I was like this, im ashamed of it as well. But you've already done what was needed and it didnt work. I don tknow what else to say about it hun. Have another talk =/ -Diana aka  |
Date: 10/19/2004 11:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
Man, my husband does this all the time. It annoys the heck out of me. Like tonight he said he had to go to a meeting in the cities. Than doesn't even bother to call me, and makes me sit here til 2am for him to get back from the bars so I can pick him up. It's so stupid. Than he makes me worry. Almost makes ya just want to get up and leave if they don't change. Who knows. Peace Out..  |
