Date: 10/10/2004 9:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
My parents have been divorced since I was 4. ANd yes, it is tough at times seeing parents that are still together. But I have come to realize that they are happier people without each other. I have gained much family from it as well, since they are both remarried. Though it may seem bleak now, never forget that your parents love you and you are not the reason for their divorce. It is between them. If this is what makes them happy, they can be better to you. If you ever need to talk, feel free.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
it sounds like they will be happier seperated in all honesty  |
Date: 10/10/2004 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 36704
Even if it will make your parent's happier in the end that doesn't help you not feel out of place. I'm sorry you're going through this and hopefully soon things will start to feel a little more normal for you.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 12:14:00 PM ( Admin )
It sounds like your parents don't even like each other anymore..  . It gets like this when you stop appreciateing each other every single day. The giving of ones life to another is a huge committment, and I mean really huge. It's should be appreciated every moment you can show it. Always letting the other person know how much it means to you. If you don't then the other person gets a feeling of worthlessness, that leads through many paths of unhappiness and many times to divorce.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 12:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 36079
I have been a survivor of abuse, and know more then I would like to. What you have just told me is a form of abuse. There doesn't need to be actual violence for there to be abuse. I think it is a good idea for your mother to separate, sometimes sepaparation can make people look deeper and decide that they really weren't doing what they should of in the relationship, and that they really do love the other person. If you think your mother would take advice from you there is an absolutly excellent site marriagebuilders.com with a very active forum of people going through all different stages in thier marriage, it has been of some use to me in my marriage. If your mother in the end wishes to separate completly there is support on that site as well. I hope your mother is seeking help, it would be a good idea to try family counceling with your mother. I hope everything works out for the best for your family.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 12:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
Some parents are better off divorced. not only are they happier people but they take more time to concentrate on their kids other than concentrating on their next fight. either way it turns out you have to remember it has nothing to do with you. it's private business between them.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 3:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Awww!! I'm sorry for your trouble! Having just finished a divorce myself, I know what you're feeling. Try to remember a couple of things. First of all, people change. It's never fun, and it seems like things should always be the same, but it doesn't happen. Second, our parents are human beings, and they make mistakes. Third, never ever judge them! The best thing you can do is love them both for who they are. Also, it helps to remember this: They still love you, even if they're not together.  |
Date: 10/10/2004 3:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
It is hard sometimes to see them together. They have fought at my sports events sometimes too. Really embarrassing.  |
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Date: 10/10/2004 3:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62267
Oh ya guys. And this makes me scared to get married myself in a year or two because I have had a million people tell me that people are always changing. It hurts so bad. Thanks evweryone. |
Date: 10/10/2004 4:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
I have a few friends with their perents divorced. they still do live happy lives. I am sorry this had to happen to you. do not take sides listen to what everyone is feeling in this because alot of people are unhappy right now but when everyone carms down it will be better. I wish the best of luck for you.  |
Date: 10/11/2004 4:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
I know it's easier said than done, don't let it get to you. I come from a broken home and swore to the Lord that I would NEVER marry. . . Gary and I have been married for 15 years with love that grows every day. If you don't stay up on your commitment, making the flame stronger day by day, it will eventually burn out. Everything you ever do, takes practice, takes time and adjusting to make it perfect. I hope everything works out for you and your family. *BIG Feel Better Hugs*  |
Date: 10/16/2004 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 13979
I really wouldnt know how to react myself hun. I think they are better off seperated =( .. they dont seem to enjoy each others company any longer, I wish you the best, and any divorce, the kids suffer the worse. God Bless. -Diana aka  |
