Date: 10/6/2004 7:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
Why you'll never find a boyfriend... While we're often regarded as not-so-smart beings, guys notice girls who will change the way they act or look to impress someone. And once you get the reputation stamped into the heads of people, it's very hard to rid the people of it because they never know if you're being authentic or not. You want a boyfriend, even if you really don't need one considering a relationship to a freshly turned teenager is a one way ticket to a nasty break up with tears and other crap... here's my advice, if you need one so badly (which you don't), find something you're comfortable and STICK WITH IT. I'm sorry but it's just stupid that you'd think of changing yourself for someone else and set yourself up to become someone you hate. Think about it. -  |
Date: 10/6/2004 7:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36537
you don't have to be rude about it, also I'm not like some girls and play with guys, I think I need a boyfriend now so In the future I can be expeireinced and prepared for whats out there.  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 7:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to extremely straight-forward with you. The idea of you sacrificing yourself to get hurt in more ways than one just blows my mind and I like to express that. My comments can be deleted if they're too rude. - |
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Date: 10/6/2004 7:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36537
well everyday we take the risk of getting emotionally hurt when we get into relationships and if were not exposed to what we will be in the future we will be uncautous and get in bad relationships from the lack of expeirence. |
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Date: 10/6/2004 7:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
I hope you still think that way when the time comes for it to be necessary. - |
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Date: 10/6/2004 7:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36537
so do i |
Date: 10/6/2004 7:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 26452
I agree with Smooth Criminal, first off STOP CHANGING YOURSELF FOR GUYS! Guys like it when you JUST BE YOURSELF. I am also not trying to be rude, but if you think you need to change the way you act and dress for a guy, then in MY opinion you are not mature enough for a boyfriend, you need to learn to be yourself first.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 7:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 57579
Like I said before dont change yourself for a guy because they are not worth it at all. None of them are!  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 26452
And also like Smooth said, as stupid as some guys can be, they WILL notice if someone is being fake. |
Date: 10/6/2004 7:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 33573
Why do you think you need a bf so bad right now? You are 13. I know alot of people who have had bf's since elementary and I think it is riduculous. Don't get me wrong, 13 is not a bad age. I am 17 now and I just got my first boyfriend this summer when I was 16. I am a senior in high school and I am glad I waited. I may not have the expereince but I am more mature than I was even last year. If yo do want a bf, wouldn't you want them to like you for you? I don't think you would need a complete make-over. No one was ever interested in me til high school and the people that were I didn't like. It's not that horrible to be single. I don't mean to sound rude if I am but why change? I mean, youhave plenty of time for you and your peers to grow up, mature, and change their views. It's not like no one is ever going to like you. The people in school already have known you. It is ultimately up to you but I hope yo take everyones advice here and try not to change yourself for someone who you could go out with for awhile. I know you want expereince, but you can get experience other ways other than dating. I learned alot from the people around me. No one here is trying to sound rude, we just want you to see the full picture.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
You need to be yourself. That's what guys like. Guys like girls who are themselfs. Why change yourself into something that's not you? You are still young. Some guys are probably not even looking for a relationship in that age group right now. Don't worry, someone will come around for you. Just don't change yourself. I'm sure that you're a fine person and someone will be attracted to you with you just being yourself.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 10:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 53055
Be yourself. Why change to something that you're not? Don't go changing, be who you are. Being someone that you're not does the worst thing that you can do to yourself. You lose who you are.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 10:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Sweetie, not to be rude, but smooth is RIGHT!!!! Guys are WAY too complicated!!! You def dont need one at 13. Im 15 and its hard enough!! Guys arent into girls who change for someone else. They look for the original girl who can be herself. Sweetie, your a lil teen (as in younger teen), you still have the rest of your life for a bf. Dont rush it, that'll only cause problems and cause u to get ur heart broken. I wouldnt advise u going looking for one. They arent all they crack up to be sometimes.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 10:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
I'm another who agrees with Smooth Criminal, if you change for someone else, you're doing yourself a disservice and pretending to be something you're not. If someone doesn't like you for who you are then they're not worth your time. You have to be true to yourself to be true to someone else.  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 10:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Hunny, you got YOUR WHOLE LIFE to learn from your mistakes, starting at age 13 is NOT the way to go. Your far too young. Take it from someone who started dating in 5th grade and ALL i got from it was heart break n tears n cap, just like smooth said. ITS NOT WORTH IT!!! |
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Date: 10/6/2004 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
I Changed for EVERYONE. So drastically that Im STILL in counseling for it. I wanted to bne noticed, and I was...in the nurses office and lunch room. Cause I was constantly hurting myself to change who I was. Grow up before u make a change like this. Theres still a LOT to learn. |
Date: 10/7/2004 12:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 62915
A makeover can be a good thing though but don't completely change yourself. I know how you are feeling though because I was ready for boys since I was 3!!! NO KIDDING!! It was a huge dissapointment when I had to wait 12 years for a guy to take notice of me. I didn't change myself because you can't pretend to be someone else for very long. I am now in a long term relationship and I didn't change although a makeover does wonders for your self confidence. Here's an idea. Save up your money and get your hair and make-up done and have a professional photo taken. That way everytime you look at it you can see how beautiful you are  I am here to talk if you need to. Chin-up!! Ghost-Chick  |
Date: 10/7/2004 9:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 62881
I don't think that Smooth Criminal was being rude, just truthful and the truth hurts sometimes. He is right...never change yourself for someone else or so someone will notice you. If changes in yourself are made, it needs to be because YOU want it for yourself. If you change for others, the minute it backfires, you will regret it. Change for YOU...YOU...YOU!!!!Green Eyed Froggy  |
Date: 10/7/2004 10:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 55386
You know, don't do anything to yourself....Be yourself....Guys don't want a girl that will change all they're about for them, it shows a sign of instability. Just be confident and who you are. You can't hurry these things, they come naturally, not matter how much you wish for it. And don't you want a guy to go for what you have inside, and not your improved look? >>hugs<< Just be yourself. That's the best way to get someone to love you, and also the most meaningful way.  |
Date: 10/7/2004 11:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
here's a tip: any guy worth having could care less about how you look. heard all that before? well, that's because it's true. you are 13 years old and i would not change places with you for anything!! i know everybody wants a bf or gf but just be patient. i've noticed that the people that look for love don't really find it. it just happens when it happens.  |
Date: 10/7/2004 11:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 53157
I use to think about doing this. But then i thought why change for a boy. JUst be yourself and i promise you the right guy will come along and will like you for YOU. Its better to just be yourself so you dont always have to put on a act for someone. You'll meet someone when the time is right. You are just turning 13, I never had my first boyfriend till i was 14 and im 16 now. Well i hope i helped a little Oh I hope you have a great birthday tomorrow. ~!HaPpY BiRtHdAy!~  |
Date: 10/7/2004 12:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 25756
I agree with Smooth Criminal. Just because you're going to be a teenager doesn't mean you NEED a boyfriend. In fact, it's better NOT to get a boyfriend so you can get used to yourself and your own views and make friends.  |
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Date: 11/7/2004 2:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36537
thank you all |
