Date: 10/6/2004 3:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
you are perfectly entitled to feel upset. This is very insensitive of him and not the actions of a man who is about to be a father and should be consumed with everything that entails. It's like-- sure, go off and have fun looking at strippers while I carry around your child and feel like BLECH! It would make me wonder whether this person is the appropriate partner to raise a child with...but maybe he just needs to be pummelled a bit to grow up a little and come to grips with reality.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 3:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40509
Exactly MollyCat!!! The whole stupid time he has been away trying to get back with me and I give him a chance and this is how he acts!!! It really hurts me to think I am not attractive enough for him so he goes out to look at other women. And he wants ME to come see HIM? Why so I can sit there and feel sorry for myself while he goes off with his buddies! NO WAY!  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 3:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
I see you're 19...is this guy the same age as you? Guy's are walking idiots at that age. It may not have even occurred to him that standing up your pregnant girlfriend to go to a strip club is totally the wrong move. |
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Date: 10/6/2004 3:56:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40509
He'll be 22 this month. He's such an idiot, I think I am just going to tell him to forget it since that shows how selfish he is. I thought he had enough time to think about his actions, but, I guess I was just fooling myself. |
Date: 10/6/2004 4:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
Hint: If you are upset and ten minutes later you are not, it's just pregnancy hormones. If it lingers, you are upse with reason. I don't think that was very thoughtful of him. I hope you can get things worked out, but it sounds to me like he is too wrapped up in himself.  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 4:08:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40509
I have been upset now for over 2 hours! I hung up the phone with him after he told me that. He has not even called back. Who cares anyway, I have been without him for 8 months now so it's not hard for me to change my mind about him. I just thought maybe he matured. But, I do still have feelings. |
Date: 10/6/2004 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 39350
Of course you have feelings for him but honey you need to forget him. If he aitn gonna chase after u then dont be the fool and chase after him. Move on cuz what he did was messed up. And just focus on ur baby to be. Best of luck to you!  |
Date: 10/6/2004 5:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 62424
alright first of all you ARE NOT fat. you are carying something precious and beautiful inside you, and any pregnant woman is gorgeous because she is bringing something sacred into the world.This guy is a total loser. Im sorry if I am offending you by saying this. And he should know better. He cant even wait until after you have the baby at least?! Im young and I am stupid. But it is obvious to anyone that he does not respect you, nor what you are going through. I think you should sit him down and talk to him. And I know you may even be staying with him for the sake of your child. But in my opinion...I'd say to forget it. It isnt worth it. Thats not fair to you or the baby, you need his help and he's watching other women. You do what is right for you. Take care of yourself and your un-born baby. *big hugs* -  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 5:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40509
Thank you Jaded, I needed that advice. |
Date: 10/6/2004 6:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 62579
I know how it is to love someone and it is hard to let go. You need to think of your babies and your feelings. He should not be making you feel this way. If he don't seem to care about your feelings then that is very sad. You will be bringing in a new life that he helped make. He should be there to comfort you and rub your back and things like that. My husband wasn't there for me much in my pregnancy and I know how you feel. He was around but he didn't help me. Now he thinks the world of our baby. Don't get to upset because you could go into pre-term labor. I had a baby at 31 weeks and it was very hard to see her that way. She was only 2lb 6oz and in NICU for 45 days.  |
Date: 10/6/2004 7:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 62753
I'd break his neck!!!! period! Tell him if he wants you to try and work things out that he needs to work out his own insane idea's.... oh wow, my husband would be six feet under with a spoon stuck in his heart!  |
Date: 10/7/2004 10:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 52489
He sounds very immature, and frankly (sorry to have to say this) NOT Good Father Material. If he's going to strip clubs instead of being with the mother of his children then it's obvious he doesn't really care. Drop him and move on! It's going to be hard, but there are a lot better fish in the sea than the one you caught!  |
Date: 10/8/2004 1:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
If you have been fine for 9 months now without his help. I would suggest you just forget him and tell him to move on. You sound way more mature than he is. He needs to grow up. Hope it works out for you. Best of luck. Peace Out..  |
