A Relationship Rant.............................StarFire

Ok. How do I tell my bf to stop being such a darn worry-wart. He thinks that, because all his other girlfriends have cheated on him, I will too. I can't go to the bar, because I flirt to get drinks. I can't call someone without him needing to know who I'm calling. If I leave to go to the bathroom, he says "where are you going?" I live in a frat house for crying out loud. Like I want to wander around in the middle of the night and walk in on who knows what. No, thanks. I'll stick to the room and the bathroom....thanks much. Last weekend me and my sis were supposed to go to Minneapolis for the day. He raised a holy stink about that one. Because, of course, I was going to meet up with some guy. Or soemthing like that. Originally we were just going to go and hang out in the cities. Then, my sis thought it would be nice to go see her brother. Well, our story changed, so of course he thinks we're lying. j Then we decided we'd just go to Fargo (one hour away as opposed to 4) and of course, we were lying then too. I love this guy. But he's driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!! We don't get along much anymore. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells just so I don't make him scared that I'm going to mess around on him. WHICH I'M NOT!!!!! If I was, trust me, I wouldn't be upset that he acts the way he does. It's not even just this stuff. There are little things, too. Like the day at the auto salvage yard. There were a bunch of guys in the office (surprise) and I was the only chick there (not working anyways). He definitely made sure that everyone there knew we were together. Even told (ALMOST commanded) me to stand next to him. I talk to someone and he assumes that I've slept with them. If he came straight out and asked I wouldn't be AS upset. I did tell him about my past (the teen years and lots of moments of indiscretion) and that I HAVE had relations with a lot of the people I still hang out with. What he doesn't understand is that it was in the past. And we are JUST FRIENDS!!!! Just because he hasn't been able to have friendly relationships with exes doesn't mean the whole world in incapable of being grown up about these things. Oh, and he got all bent out of shape when my ex moved back to town. Y'al know this ex (but that's beside the point). I didn't even know he was back here, until I ran into some friends the other night. they simply pointed out that I should get back together with him, and give him another chance. I said no because I'm happy where I'm at. And they respected that. But now that's given him more ammo to say no to me going to the bar. This guy might be there, and I might be convincd to go back with him. I DONT THINK SO. Even if he asked me himself, I would tell him no cuz I'm in a relationship right now. So, ya. Am I getting all bent out of shape about nothing?? I've been in a few controlling relationships in the past. And I don't know if I'm just over-reacting to invisible signs or if there really is something to all this. Any insight is appreciated. Thanks guys.

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