Date: 9/19/2004 1:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 26363
I think your mom is totally blinded by the dark! Tell her again how uncomfortable this made you feel. And let him know that in no uncertain terms that you do not feel the same way! Let him know that you are not gullible and will not fall for his charms. His remark is way out of line whether it is induced by drink or not. Be strong and stand your ground.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 1:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
it definitly sounds wrong! he was WAY out of line to say that to you and your mother was wrong for not saying something to him about it! if it happens again, let him know you will not tolerate it. and, if it does happen again, let your mother know she deserves better! best of luck to you  |
Date: 9/19/2004 1:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
it is wrong that your stepdad is doing that. when my mom started dating my stepdad he made me a little uncomfortable about some things but now, i've gotten used to it and know he's not going to do anything to me at all. i love my stepdad to death. he's my dad. i hope everything gets better for you!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 61897
You don't wanna know what I think! I think he needs a beat down to serve him as a reminder not to ever even try that again! And your mom needs a wake-up call and I'm putting it very nicely......  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
Sweetheart....I don't know how delicate I can put this......First of all Animals are not stupid...Your Pup Senses there is Something VERY Amiss with your mom's new husband...2nd You Mam is in DENIAL....3rd..You NEED To PLEASE Watch this person....It was very INAPPROPRIATE What he did...he has NO RIGHT to touch you or speak to you the way he has..NO One has that right...I don't understand how your mama could marry someone in 2 weeks!!!!!!! after meeting them.....You SHOULD Come first, here Your mama should see what is going on....Please talk to a Trusted friend, a counselor, or Minister..or another trusted parent about this situation....Keep Your dog with you in your bedroom also....and if there was ever a situation that you feel threatened in any way..CALL the Police...Your mother needs to WAKE UP...Keep us informed and updated how things are going....Take/ Care  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
I would just say that , umfortunately, if this person comes after you, I doubt your mother would be of any help to you. Keep the dog handy and put a dead bolt lock on your bedroom door. I wouldn't trust this one as far as I could throw him!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 36352
I don't want to scare you but I have delt with pervs all my life. They always start off like this and it will only get worse. Alcohol makes it even more scary. I was raped by and alcoholic. This guy is way out of line and mark my words you better stear clear. If he would behave this way with your mom around just imagine what he would do with her gone. Buy some mace and If you have any little sisters you may want to keep an eye out there as well.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
HOLY CRAP!! she married him after just 2 weeks........ thats not enough time to get to know anyone. as for what hes doing , thats sick. you are now his stepchild. he should know better. and your mom needs some help if she wont even listen to you or believe the fact that hes doing this to you. TRUST me it will get worse. you need to let him know now , he has to stop that. he has NO RIGHT to touch you like that!!!!!!!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 2:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
trust your instincts, girl! If the guy makes you uncomfortable, then you should keep your guard up. I hope you aren't still living with your mother.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 3:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
i think your mom needs to open her eyes now. i'm head over heels for my old man too but i had him a while longer than 2 weeks before i married him. a drunk can hide his drinking problem for two weeks and your mom probably didn't even know he had one. keep your dog with you at all times no matter what. and i hope it's a really big dog!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 3:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
I think your dog has more sense than your mother!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 4:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 56176
get you some pepper spray sweetie sleep with it,please this dude may be a pervert,which sounds like its likely,your mom needs to set him down and say look your actions are out of line,and this isn't how you are to treat my daughter,but your mom has ben blinded by love and may ignore his flirtations which may be a dangerous poisition for you sweety,dont let your guard down a min,lock the bathroom door and your bedroom door,until you can trust this man i will pray for you,good luck  |
Date: 9/19/2004 4:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 10798
You really should be on guard at all times and watch this guy. I don't like the sound of all this.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 4:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26049
I have a 13 year old sister and I talked to her about this and she promised me should would tell me if he does anything to her. Thank you everyone.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 4:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 15157
Ew!...Tell yer mom to give him the heave ho!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 4:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 49742
What everyone else has expressed is the way I feel too!  |
Date: 9/19/2004 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
Like Posey said!!! Your Mom sounds "needy", sorry but she does. I can't imagine marrying anyone I only knew for two weeks. And if he drinks all the time, obviously he is an alcoholic. And look out, be prepared because this guy isn't someone you want to ever be alone with. Your Mom has some thick blinders on and that's too bad, because this marriage has disaster written all over it.  |
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Date: 9/19/2004 7:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
Yikes! I just saw that you also have a younger sister. Both of you are in danger. Just what he said to you is proof enough. |
Date: 9/19/2004 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
Gosh, I can see why your mom fell for him, what a catch (rolls eyes). Keep your dog close to you as others suggested. I hope you have a lock on your bedroom door, if not, drag a dresser in front of it at night and make your sister promise she'll do the same! Hopefully it won't be long before your mother comes to her senses.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 8:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 62881
Talk to your mom about how you feel. If she doesn't listen or flat out denies that her new hubby would do something like that, then I hate to suggest this, but you may need to move out. If you stay there you won't feel safe. He could come home after a big drinking binge and hurt you and force you to do something that you don't want to do. In the meantime, take some of the advice offered to you from other members.
Stay Safe! Green Eyed Froggy  |
Date: 9/19/2004 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 20921
Your mom is in love,and makes people do(or not do) some really starnge things. He was way outta line.........  |
Date: 9/19/2004 8:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 43807
I say we all pitch in and buy her mace!!!, and send it ASAP!!! This situation can only end badly, keep your eye open, and good luck.  |
Date: 9/19/2004 9:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 26049
LOL..Donuts  ...thanks again everyone |
Date: 9/20/2004 5:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 3648
He was way out of line to say anything of that nature to you..He is your stepfather not your boyfriend..And the fact this made you feel uncomfortable speaks volumes...Your mom is being blinded by what she feels is love...if it happens again be sure to slap him and tell him he's suppose to be a stepfather and needs to learn his roll...Yes you're 18, but still that's no excuse for his behavior toward you. If I was your mom that guy would be out the door without time to ask why...but that's me..  |
