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Date: 9/3/2004 8:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 62848
overall, i totally agree! |
Date: 9/3/2004 9:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 5886
This is a serious problem indeed. All too often do I see a 16 year old say "I love you" to his girlfriend, just to dump her a few days later calling her all sorts of nasty degrading names, just to announce how much he loves the new girl he's known for 2 weeks. You just know it'll end the same way. I've learned from experience, that it's those with obession/infatuation who must go around on a crusade to convince the world that they love someone, while in real instances of love, they're among the last person to discover his or her own true feelings toward another. Unless it's that first sight thing... that's the exception.  |
Date: 9/3/2004 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 62787
well, some do this..others dont. i will know true love when i find it...right now itsjust 'oh, shes cute"- Blade of the Samurai  |
Date: 9/3/2004 10:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
really not much you can do about it except watch them fall on their face and when they do, be there to rub it in  |
Date: 9/4/2004 12:01:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
LOL Base so evil  . Nah it annoys me but I know I cant meddle in others affairs the only thing that gets me to sayin much is when they tell me I should be that way too. LOL the 2nd day I was dating my now ex (so I'd known him 3 days) my friend (who I'd known bout a week) told me that I was in LOVE with him though Id stated my beliefs on that before. LOL yeah love...if that was love then im afraid . Alrighty I need sleep night everyone   |
Date: 9/4/2004 2:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
I have been married for 45yrs and 8months, we met when very, very young, fell in love...some people said it would never last...well guess what??? Love and Marriage mean the world to me...and I feel sorry for people who use both very loosely, but I suppose for them, they think that they have the ideal partner....hugs  |
Date: 9/4/2004 6:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
The first time I ever said I loved someone, I was 16 and I had known him for 9 months. Not sure if I really did love him at that time, but I did fall in love with him at some point. I don't agree with you in that you only love one person in a lifetime.. that's a very romantic idea, but it's not true.. you can love other people. Also.. in a perfect world, maybe.. relationships wouldn't fail, people wouldn't divorce, engagements wouldn't be broken.. none of those things have to do with the couple not initially being in love. I was alot like you before I fell in love for the first time. I wanted everything to be perfect. I thought everything was going to be a stupid fairytale. I thought I wouldn't say I love you to anyone before my husband.. blah blah blah.. and then I found the person I thought I was going to marry and it didn't work out.. and what does that leave you with? Bitterness. Go into it openly. Know that you're going to love more than one person. Know that the first person you love most likely ISN'T going to be the person you're going to marry. You know, you do have some wise points in your post but not everything in this world is perfect. YOU WILL LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. It's human nature.. it's the real world.. it isn't a fairytale. Message me anytime. <3  |
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Date: 9/4/2004 9:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 62838
I agree that people can love more than one person in a lifetime. BUT it's different for each person, what may be the case for one person might not be the case for another. I feel differently to Rika on the point of "You WILL love more than one person, it's human nature." Speaking for myself I've only ever loved one person, he's my husband. I could never love anyone else but him and I know that this will never change. Each person is different. - Kokoro |
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Date: 9/4/2004 9:50:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Zema thats great ! Rika I completly disagree and I think u took my ideals completly wrong. Yes I hold love, engagment, marriage, and family in VERY high regard but that doesnt mean I think it'll be a fairytale! I *KNOW* that it wont and a lot of it will make me want to tear my hair out LOL! As a fav song of mine says 'sometimes I hate you but I love you too wanna run away then I run to you...' etc. As for engagement well I cant see how that would be super hard but for marriage I DEFINITLY know that is no fairytale. Of the VERY FEW people I have seen stay married and work things out they've had highs and lows like any normal people. Marriage isnt a fairytale and though I haven't expierenced that I can easily say even from optimistic people thats what Ive been told and shown. I disagree that ALL humans WILL love more then one person. I'll give some (IMO) *THINK* their in love more then once and for the sake of avoiding and argument I'll even say they CAN be. But that doesnt mean everyone is! Also how do you support (minus human nature) that everyone can and will fall in love more then once? If someone meets a man, dates him and hes their first bf, they 'fall in love' and get married and such and live 'happily ever after' (LOL u know what I mean dont divorce in short) then how does that not throw that out the window? |
Date: 9/4/2004 3:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
Until you walk a mile in another's shoes, you can never say exactly what is in their heart or mind. Because you believe people love no more than one, doesn't make it so. I could go into somewhat graphic and chilling detail of what happened earlier in my life, at the hands of a man I did indeed love. I know what I felt was love, because I know myself. And yes, I was married to him. It ended with me leaving, in fact hiding. He had some rather gruesome plans for me. The changes he went through, the violence, are what killed the love I felt. But it did once exist. I grew. I moved on. I loved again. And eventually, found the man I'm married to now. And the man I love. So we live. We learn. Nothing ever happens the way we expect it. And that...is what keeps things interesting.  |
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Date: 9/5/2004 6:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
So you're telling me that if you're with someone for 20 years and then break up.. and then get with someone and after 5 years marry them, just because you're married to the second person you love them but not the first person? Your ideas are flawed.. marriage is not the determining factor of whether you're in love or not. Love is a feeling.. you don't need to have a status to prove that. You CAN love more than one person in a lifetime.. it doesn't matter.. love is not THAT sacred that it's somehow magically kept for one time only.. that doesn't mystically happen somehow, I'm sorry, it just doesn't. |
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Date: 9/5/2004 8:02:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Lady Phoneix Im sorry that happened to you but Im glad you have someone great now . Rika not being someone whos expierence either I cant tell you (and honestly I've seen the scenario I gace but I havent seen yours at least in a working way (not to say it cant).) I guess we'll have to agree to disagree sorry its 10 in the morning i cant even think straight LOL! Off to church |
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Date: 9/5/2004 11:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 62838
It's true that you CAN love more than one person in a lifetime, however it's ALSO true that not everybody DOES. This is not flawed thinking, this is reality. There are millions of people who fall in love with a person and that is the only person they have ever loved, and they love ONLY this person until they die. - Kokoro |
Date: 9/5/2004 2:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
very well said. and i can tell you, babies are not that cute!  |
